Inkinga enkulu ukuthi umzali wanamuhla uyakhululeka kakhulu uma ingane yakhe ingahambi noma kuphi nabangane, ingatholi ezimweni ezibucayi, ayithandi ukuthungwa okuphelele endlini, ayilethi izixuku zezingane ezinomdlalo wekhanda lakhe eliphuka. Ingane engabodwa ingabangela inkathazo engadingekile futhi ayikhathazi muntu. Iqiniso, ingane ekhululekile? Kodwa bambalwa abazophikisana ngokuthi akukho okubi kakhulu kunesizungu somntwana okungeke kube khona. Ukwenza impilo yengane yakho ibe yinto engathandeki futhi igugile, ishiya impendulo kuyo yonke ikusasa layo.
Indlela yokuthola inkinga?
Ngenhlanhla, iningi labazali, lapho bethola ukuthi ingane yabo ayinalwazi ngobudlelwane babantwana nabafana namantombazane, baqala ukuzwa i-alamu engathà sina. Lokhu kubonakala kanjani?
Ngezinye izikhathi ingane iyavuma ukuthi ayinabo abangane, ukuthi akekho ozoyidlala nayo, akekho ozocela usizo, akekho ozobuya esikoleni naye, akekho ozokhuluma naye nje. Kodwa kaningi, izingane zivame ukuzifihla isizungu. Abazali kuleli cala bafunda ngalokhu ngengozi, bebukele ingane emcimbini wesikole noma eminye imibuthano.
Uma ingane ingenobungane nanoma ubani, akusho nje ukubonisa uhlamvu lwakhe. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuhambisane nenkinga yokungaxhumani kwengane, kokubili ekhaya nasemphakathini. Ukuziqhenya, ukusongela ngokweqile, ukuhlukaniswa, ukungazwani, ukuxhunywa kwegazi - lokho nje uhlu olungaphelele lwalokho okuvame ukuholela ekubeni nesizungu kwengane yakho. Futhi le minyaka ibhayela, ngeke ube nesikhathi sokubheka futhi iso lizobona ukuthi ingane yengane yakho izophela kanjani, isikhathi sezingane sizofika, futhi lapho kungeke kube khona isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba umuntu ekhulile. Qala ukusiza ingane yakho khona kusukela namhlanje!
Ungamsiza kanjani ingane?
Okokuqala udinga ukuthola indawo evamile. Izingane, ngokungafani nabantu abadala, zingakwazi ukuvinjelwa futhi, uma kunesidingo, zilethwe emanzini ahlanzekile. Wena ungumuntu osondelene naye! Khuluma ngobuqotho nangengane nengane. Thola ukuthi yini ekhathazayo ngaye, yiziphi izinkinga zakhe, ukuthi yini ephazamiseka, lokho akudingayo, ukuthi yini ekulwela yona.
Ukunakekelwa kwabazali okulula, ukuxhumana, ukuzwela njalo kuletha imiphumela emihle. Emva kwakho konke, ingane ivame ukuba yedwa, ngoba emndenini abakhulumanga nhlobo, gcina ibanga, fihla imizwa yabo nemizwelo yabo. Mhlawumbe isizathu sisebusweni, kodwa awuboni.
Izimbangela zezingane zodwa.
Ukuthandwa kwengane phakathi kweontanga kungase kuxhomeke kwizizathu ezivamile kakhulu. Isibonelo, ukutholakala kwezinto ezibonakalayo nokubukeka. Ingane ingaba namahloni ngokumbumba, ukugcwala, ubuchopho, izinwele ezimvu, hhayi imfono ephathekayo njalonjalo. Kulesi simo, udinga ukwengeza ukuzethemba kwengane. Xoxa naye ukuthengwa kwezinto ezintsha ezibalulekile ngokucabangela isabelomali somndeni. Izingane zanamuhla ngokuvamile ziyazi kahle emkhakheni womnotho, futhi zingalinda kuze kube yilapho usindisa imali efanele. Kunoma yikuphi, uzojabula ukuthi izifiso zakhe emndenini ziyacatshangelwa.
Ngokuqondene nangaphandle, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukurekhoda ingane engxenyeni yezemidlalo. Isibonelo, indodana yakho ibuthakathaka ngokwenyama, ngoba izingane ezifunda nazo zimbheka njengomatilasi, obizwa ngokuthi, uncike ekushushisweni. Nezinye izingane egcekeni - okufanayo. Ngakho-ke, lapho ufunda ukuqeqeshwa ebhokisini noma emthonjeni nasensimini, wena nomntanakho nizobulala izinyoni ezimbili ngetshe elilodwa: qinisa ingane ngokomzimba, futhi, ngokungangabazeki, ukwandisa igunya lakhe phakathi kontanga. Okungenani ngeke aqiniseke ngokunembile.
Futhi kusukela kusigaba kukhona inzuzo eyodwa. Izingane eziningi zanamuhla ziya esikoleni njengomsebenzi: ziza, zijwayele, zabuyela ekhaya, zahlala phansi kukhompyutha, ngakho azikhulumanga nanoma ubani. Uma ingane inesimiso sosuku, isikhathi sesabelwe izifundo nokuzilibazisa, khona-ke uzoba nokuxhumana okwengeziwe nabantu. Isibonelo, esigabeni esifanayo sebhokisi, kuzodingeka asebenze eduze nabanye abafana, balwe, bancintisane, bathathe iseluleko ekusebenzeni kwamukelwa, baxoxe ngomncintiswano. Lapha ufuna, awufuni, kodwa uzothola umngane wesifuba.
Amantombazane ayedwa enesizungu!
Abafana bembalwa kunamantombazane eqinisweni, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yini abangenayo injabulo: ukushayela nobaba webhola, uthole imvume yokudlala ikhompyutha nabalingani nabo ekilasini ngemuva kwamakilasi, uye epaki nomzala kanjalonjalo. Amantombazane ayedlula kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi akekho umngane nendodakazi yakho, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi unezicathulo ezingenakulungiswa, kodwa ngoba yena uqobo uyaphazamisa impumulo kakhulu, ukwakha indlovukazi, lapho amanye amantombazane ekude.
Kulokhu, akudingeki ukuba indodakazi yosuku ibukele izinhlelo ze-TV ngokwengqondo yakhe, lapho ingathola khona amakhono angadingekile. Tshela indodakazi yakho mayelana nobuntwana bakho, mayelana nezintombi zakho ezinhle, ngasinye esinesibalo sayo esiyingqayizivele. Into eyinhloko ukuhle, ukuzwelana, ukuqonda, ukwethembeka, ukujabula. Myeke afunde amakhasi omagazini abamnyama, kodwa izindaba zikaCharles Perrault, lapho kudunyiswa khona okuhle nobuhlobo.
Ungamshiyi intombazane yedwa ekhaya, uholele ezitolo, emaseshashalazini, emibonisweni - vumela indodakazi yakhe ibone ukuthi kunezwe elihlukahlukene elizungezile, futhi kukhona izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo kuyo. Myeke amemeze okungenani izingane ezintathu ekilasini lakhe lokuzalwa, futhi uzozilungiselela isitsha sokugcoba ngokukhethekile kubo.
Le ntombazane ungumsizi nomama wami. Ngakho-ke, ngaso sonke isikhathi qaphela impilo yakhe yesikole nezindaba zomuntu siqu. Mhlawumbe indodakazi ikulingisa ngendlela ophatha ngayo abantu, ngakho-ke thintana futhi uhleleke nabanye. Tshela indodakazi yakho mayelana nezimfihlo zobuhle, izitshalo ezingavamile, izilwane ezingaqondakali, mayelana namagugu amasiko, khona-ke uzofuna ukwabelana ngolwazi lwakhe nomunye umuntu. Khumbula ukuthi izithakazelo ezivamile ziletha ndawonye hhayi kuphela abantu abadala kodwa nabantwana.
Uma ingane yakho ingabangani nezinye izingane - lokhu akuyona inkinga yakhe kuphela, kodwa futhi nomthwalo wakho wemfanelo oqondile womzali. Ingane kufanele iqondiswe ukuthi ixoxisane neontanga, incibilike "inhliziyo yakhe, imsize ekunqobeni izithiyo zokuthola injabulo, ezinikezwe ubungane.