Ukuya ocansini okungavamile kuthinta kanjani impilo yomuntu?

Kukhona umbono ozinzile emphakathini ukuthi indoda enesidingo idinga ngaphezu kowesifazane. Futhi hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa kaningi. Nokho, lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Okungenani, akukho mqondo ovamile phakathi kochwepheshe ngalesi sitatimende.

Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi amadoda ahlukile kwezinye izidingo zabo zobulili njengabesifazane: kukhona phakathi kwabo abameleli abangeke banandaba ngokuphelele nezinjabulo eziseduze, nabathandekayo abanomdla wokuzijabulisa okunjalo. Abanye bathi bonke abantu, ngaphandle kokunye, banesidingo esivamile sokusondelana ngokomzimba nalo wesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, impilo yabo ixhomeke ekutheni ukwaneliseka kwalesi sidingo kuzoba kanjani. Ngakho-ke kusukela ebucayi bemibono - futhi kwakukhona umbuzo osekelwe kahle futhi ozwakalayo: ingabe lo muntu uthembisa izinkinga zempilo ezinzulu ngezocansi ezingavamile?

Umthelela wezocansi ezingavamile kubantu.

Eqinisweni, iqiniso, njengoba kufanele, liphakathi kokucabanga. Kulula nje, ukutholakala kwemiphumela emibi yokuzigcina emadodeni ngokuqondile kuxhomeke kumuntu ngokwakhe. Phakathi kobulili obunamandla, empeleni kukhona labo abangakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kocansi izinsuku ezimbalwa, nalabo, ngaphandle kokubunzima, abazobhekana nokuntuleka kobudlelwane abangaphezu konyaka. Futhi ngohlobo ngalunye lwala madoda, ukusabela kwabo ekungabikho kokuhlala njalo esondelene.

Into eyodwa ngokuziqhenya kwanoma yimuphi umuntu ingashiwo ngokuqiniseka okuphelele: uma ubulili empilweni yakhe engekho njalo, kudingeka ukuthi okungenani adle futhi athathe izakhi ezinamavithamini adingekayo. Phela, ukusondelana akuyona nje injabulo kuphela, kodwa futhi kuyindlela enhle kakhulu yokwenza isimiso semvelo esijwayelekile, futhi inqubo ekahle yokuhlanza igazi lamachiza, ama-slags kanye neminye imikhiqizo emibi kakhulu.

Ngokuvamile, amadoda azinikela emandleni okuzilahla azicabangi ngakho. Kodwa ucwaningo lokusebenza kwalesi sitatimende aluqinisekisiwe kanye. Kodwa futhi, ukungabi nobulili akusho ukuthi isibalo samadoda maduze sizolahlekelwa isimo sayo sokuqina, kanti ukugcinwa kwezinto ezinobungozi kuzokwenziwa egazini. Shintsha umthelela omuhle wezocansi, umuntu angakwazi ukuzibandakanya ezemidlalo, ukudla okunempilo kanye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekayo esimweni ahlale ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuphela izinzuzo ezingokwengqondo zobulili kuye lezi zimfanelo zokuphila okunempilo ngeke zigcwaliswe. Futhi lo mzuzu womsebenzi osondelene nendoda awubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuya ocansini okungavamile kungathinta kanjani impilo yomuntu kungathathwa ngokutadisha ezinye izici zelungu elithile lobulili obuqinile. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu engahlupheki ngesidingo esikhulu sokwenza izenzo eziningi zothando ngomuntu wesifazane, ngoba ukuyeka ukuvama kungaba ukuhlolwa okuhle kwengqondo: ngesikhathi sokuntula ucansi, ngeke alahlekelwe ngamakhono akhe, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, uyazi ukuthi kuyamjabulisa kangakanani. Futhi-ke, lapho umzuzu osalinde isikhathi eside wokuthandana nabathandekayo beza, injabulo yakhe iyoba kakhulu kangangokuba okwesikhashana uzokwazi ukuzwa ukuthi wonke umuntu ohlala emhlabeni waphupha - injabulo. Kuncike ekutheni ukujabula komuntu kuphakeme, futhi isidingo sakhe socansi asinakuguqulwa, ngakho-ke ubulili bakhe obungavamile buyisongela izinkinga zomzimba nezingokwengqondo. Phakathi kwabo, i-neurosis yiyona encane yezinto ezimbi.

Imiphumela engenzeka.
Yimiphi imiphumela engathandeki kakhulu yokuziqeda kwamadoda okwenyuka okukhulu nokuxhomeka kocansi? Owokuqala ukuhlupheka nguye umuzwa wokuzinza. Futhi lokhu kakade kuyimfuneko yokucindezeleka. Ingabe kufanelekile ukukhumbuza ukuthi ukudangala kuyindlela eqinisekile yokugula kwezifo zenhliziyo nokukhuluphala? Okulandelayo, ubulili obungenasici ngokuqinisekile buzobhekana nokubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu - ikhono lakhe lokubhekana nalo. Ngokwezibalo zamadoda, ukuxhomeka ngokocansi, izinkinga zobuthakathaka zingaqala zingakapheli inyanga yokuqeda ukuphoqeleka. Izifo ze-prostate noma ukwehla okujwayelekile ekuzivikelweni kwendlela yokuzala indoda enjalo ifunda ngokushesha. Khona-ke ekungenasici, uzoba nezinyathelo ezimbalwa kuphela - ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba ekuziphatheni kwakhe siqu futhi ahlale ekungalingani ngokomzwelo.

Ukuphila ngokomzimba komuntu ohlukunyezwa ngokobulili akuyona into kuphela ehlangabezana nokuntuleka kobudlelwane obuseduze. I-psyche ngeke ihlale ingenakuvinjelwa, noma. Ukuntuleka komkhuba akugcini nje ekulahlekelweni kokuzethemba, kodwa nokubukeka kwesithiyo esingokwengqondo ngaphambi kokulala ngokobulili kokuqala ngemuva kokuziqeda isikhathi eside. Futhi uma lo muntu ovivinyayo engadluli, khona-ke cishe uzobhekana neurosis. Lesi sifo akunjalo, kodwa kuyingozi kakhulu ngenxa yokuntuleka kwezimpawu ezicacile. Kodwa lo mfana kufanele alwe nalo isikhathi eside. Futhi ncamashi indlela ayesaba ngayo - hhayi kuphela ngokuthatha amaphilisi, kodwa futhi ngokubuyela kancane kancane emaceleni abahlanganyeli abathintekayo ebuhlotsheni obuseduze.

Ezinye izibalo.
Ngokwezibalo, i-neurosis itholakala ngamacala angu-70 emadodeni asebeyeke isikhathi eside. Yiqiniso, umqondo wesikhathi eside sokungabikho kobulili obuvamile kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Omunye ubonakala enenkathi ende kwezinsuku ezingu-5-7, futhi omunye ngeke azizwe ubunzima obukhethekile futhi inyanga ngemuva kwesenzo sokugcina sothando. Ngokwesilinganiso, ochwepheshe bezokwelapha - bendabuko nabangewona bendabuko - bavuma ukuthi isikhathi eside singacabanga isikhathi sokuziqeda ezinyangeni ezimbili kuya kwezi-6. Uma lo muntu engazange afake ubulili obuphezulu nabalingisi. Kule nkathi, isikhathi sokungabi nengozi ukulinda ukusondelana okulandelayo nowesifazane kuye kwanda izinyanga ezingu-8 - unyaka owodwa.

Akufanele sikhohlwe ngokungafani nemithetho, okuyinto amadoda aya ngokuya ocansini ngokungavamile egameni luthando, ukholo, ukoma ulwazi lwezwe noma omunye umgomo ophezulu. Kulesi simo, ngokwengqondo, indoda isilungele ukungabi khona kwezenzo zokusondelana. Futhi-ke, umzimba wakhe uzobhekana nesimo sokulindela injabulo. Kodwa ekupheleni kwesikhathi sokulinda, lo muntu kungcono ukuqala ukugcwalisa ukujabula okulahlekile. Njengoba ukuqonda komuntu kuyinto ekhonjisiwe njengengqondo yakhe: uma umzimba ulindele ukuthi ubulili buhlehliselwe unyaka, khona-ke izinyanga ezingu-12, usuku nosuku, uzolinda ukusondelana. Futhi uma kwenzeka engalandeli, izinkinga empilweni yamadoda azoqala ukuvela ngokushesha kakhulu.