Ukubeletha nomyeni wakhe kuyinto ehlelekile namhlanje, kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, akuwona wonke amakhaya okubeletha athola isenzo esinjalo somlingani wakhe. Nakuba, ezimweni eziningi, inkinga ingaxazululwa ngokudlulisela imali encane kudokotela. Ngakho-ke, umyeni wakho ulungele ukuba khona eduze nawe ngesikhathi esifanele kangaka, zonke izimo ezihleliwe zixazululwe, kodwa izihlobo ezindala nabanye abazijwayele abajabuli nomqondo wakho. Yini okufanele ngiyenze futhi yini engingayenza? Ukuze ube nezimpikiswano ezinkulu ekuzivikeleni kwakho, sizophinde sihlathulule izinzuzo zabantwana bokubeletha. Futhi ngenxa yobulungiswa, ake sikhulume ngokushiyeka. Ngemva kokulinganisa izinzuzo nezindleko, ungazimela ngokuzimela ukuthi isinqumo esifanele senziwe nomyeni wakho.
Izinzuzo zokuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela
- Abaningi bakholelwa ngokufanele ukuthi indoda eyabona indlela ingane yakhe ivela ngayo ekukhanyeni, ngokushesha iqala ukuzizwa njengobaba. Okuthinta ngokukhethekile ubaba osemncane, owaphathiswe ukusika intambo. Ake ucabange ukuthi imizwa evame ukuzwa ngayo abesilisa abanesibindi abanomthelela emizwa lapho bethola isisindo ezandleni zabo, okwamaminithi ambalwa adlule ahlolwe futhi ahlolwe odokotela. Manje upapa wayenethuba okokuqala ukuba yedwa kanye nendalo yakhe.
- Indoda ekhona ekuzalweni ayikwazi nje ukunikeza ukusekelwa kokuziphatha. Ngokuvamile, ngesikhathi sokubeletha, udinga ukusikhipha emuva emuva, uphathe umkakho, ubize ngesikhathi umbelethisi noma i-anesthesiologist. Ngokuvamile, ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kunendima ebalulekile.
- Abesifazane abaningi besaba kakhulu ukubeletha, futhi osondelene nosuku olufisayo, bafuna ukuya esibhedlela kancane. Uma usufika lapho futhi uzithola endaweni engaziwa, futhi ngisho nasesikhathini esinjalo, ungahle ulahleke noma ulahleke ngokuphelele. Lapha indoda izokwamukeleka kakhulu, ngoba ngubani ongekho umuntu osondelene naye ongakwazi ukusekela ezikhathini ezinzima. Ngesikhathi sokulwa nokuphuka phakathi kwabo, umyeni angaphazamisa othandekayo wakho ngokukhuluma, ukufunda incwadi noma umagazini, ekusizeni ukuba uhambisane nesigceme. Indoda ingaba yindawo yokucindezeleka, ngakho ungathukutheli uma owesifazane obeletha ememeza.
- Amadoda amaningi akholelwa ukuthi uma ingane ikhulelwe bobabili bomshado, bobabili kufanele babe khona lapho efika emhlabeni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, oshade naye ngokuvamile ngokuziqhenya utshela izihlobo nabangane ukuthi wayengekho nje lapho ezalwa, kodwa wazibandakanya ngenqubo ngokwayo.
- Ngeshwa, ezibhedlela zethu zokubeletha kusekhona isimo sengqondo sokunganaki kwabesifazane abasemsebenzini, kanti nokuba khona komyeni kuzobagcina behlelekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo muntu uzokwazi ukulawula konke okwenziwa ngababelethisi, abahlengikazi, abahlengikazi be-anesthesiologists, ngoba owesifazane ngalesi sikhathi umatasa ngalokho okwenzeka emzimbeni wakhe nokugcina konke okwenzeka kuye, yena nje akanalo amandla nekhono.
I-Cons yokuzalwa okuhlangene
Naphezu kokulindela okujabulisayo okuvela kubalingani bomlingani, imibhangqwana ethile idumazekile ngokuhlanganyela ngokuhlanganyela ekuzalweni komama wabo. Futhi ngisho noma oshade naye eveza isifiso sokuba khona kulo mcimbi obalulekile, kusadingeka ukuhlola ukungahleleki kokuzalwa okuhlangene.
- Ukubeletha kuyindlela ebonakala sengathi ingenakuqhathanisa, ngoba ngisho noma konke kuhamba njengoba kuhlelwe ngokwemvelo, cabanga ukuthi umyeni wakho ulungele yini ukubona igazi, izinyembezi kanye nokuphatha ngendlela odokotela abazoyenza ngayo.
- Kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane kufanele abe yimfihlakalo futhi kule ndaba kuphela oshade naye uyobe ethakazelisa ingxenye yakhe yesibili. Mhlawumbe, ukubeletha kuyimfihlakalo, okungeke imbule isembozo phambi komuntu.
- Emadodeni amaningi, i-psyche ayinamandla njengoba ingase ibonakale ekuqaleni. Futhi uma umyeni, ofunde konke mayelana nenqubo yokulethwa kwezincwadi, ukholelwa ukuthi usekulungele ukuba khona esigodini sokubeletha kanye nesigumbi sokudiliva, umuntu kufanele aphuze amandla akhe. Uma kungenjalo, kungase kube nesimo lapho owesifazane engabheki khona kuphela ukuthi alindele usizo lomyeni wakhe, kodwa uzophoqeleka ukuba aphazamiseke ukuze aqiniseke ukuthi konke kuhambisane nokuhleleka. Laba bayeni banqatshelwe futhi odokotela ukuthi esikhundleni sokusiza ekuboneni impilo entsha, qaphela ukuthi le ndoda ayizange iphelelwe amandla futhi ayizange iphule ikhanda layo nge-tile. Ngokuvamile kungenzeka ukugcina lesi simo lapho umhlengikazi oboya bekotoni ehambelana ne-ammonia efakwa kumyeni wakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyamangaza, kodwa asikho isikhathi sokucabanga ngokuzijabulisa ngesikhatsi esibalulekile noma ukubeletha owesifazane, noma odokotela.
- Akuwona wonke owesifazane ongathokoza phambi kwabanye abantu, ake kube ngumyeni othandekayo. Njengoba eshiywe yedwa ngaphansi kokuqondiswa odokotela, benza ngokucacile yonke imiyalo, egxile emizweni yabo. Ukuba khona kwendoda endabeni enjalo kuphazamisa kuphela.
- Esikhathini esidlule, kwakukholelwa kakhulu ukuthi indoda eyayikhona lapho kuzalwa umkakhe, ipholisa ngocansi. Okuyiqiniso noma cha, yilowo nalowo owaziwayo owazile ukubeletha komntwana angakwazi ukuxazululwa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ukuba khona komyeni wemvelo yisinqumo sakhe futhi uma enqaba ukuba nawe ngalesi sikhathi, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuqonda izizathu futhi ulalele izimpikiswano zakhe. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ngesizathu esithile ilahlekelwe ukuzalwa kwezibulo, kodwa ngokuqinisekile ufuna ukubona ukuthi ingane yakhe yesibili izalwa kanjani. Kunezimo eziphambene nazo: umyeni wamangala kakhulu ngalokho akubona ngesikhathi sokuzalwa komkakhe, ukuthi abe naye ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwengane yesibili, wenqaba. Futhi lapha owesifazane kuzodingeka amukele umyeni wakhe njengoba ekhona.