"Akukho lutho olubi ngomhawu." "Uhawu, kusho ukuthi uyamthanda." "Ngenze umhawu, ukuvusa imizwa." Kunjalo - kuze kube yilapho umhawu usuphenduka isifo kuze kube yilapho izingane zihlupheka khona.
Ukuhlala nomuntu ekumba ebhukwini lakho, okudinga ukuba ushayele amahora amabili emsebenzini, ukubika usuku ngalunye uhlala-kanzima. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi oshade naye uhlupheka kakhulu. Ukuphila kwakhe konke ukucindezeleka okuphelele. Yena, ngokusemthethweni, uyazi ukuthi uyagula, uzama ukuzidonsa ndawonye, kepha uma ebona osebenza naye ekhanga esitheni sakho emhlanganweni, ulahlekelwe ukuzilawula.
Ngisho noma i- "Othello" yakho ingubaba omuhle, ngesikhathi somhawu, uyakhohlwa mayelana nezingane futhi akacabangi ngemizwa yabo.Izimo zokulahleka kokulawula ngokuvamile zibuhlungu kakhulu kubantwana. zingazibonakalisa ngendlela ye-enuresis, noma ezinye izifo eziningi, noma ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, kepha - okubaluleke kakhulu - esikhathini esizayo izingane ezinjalo ziveza ukulandelana kokuziphatha okuzuzwa njengefa kusukela ebuntwaneni kakade emndenini wabo.
Ungasiza kanjani umhawu? Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo nawe ngokwakho?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lesi yisifo, futhi kubalulekile ukulwa nalo, ngokucophelela, ungawuvumeli ukuba uthuthuke. Ungamhleki oshade naye. Ukuphonsa ngaphandle kokudlulela: "Sinobambisene naye emsebenzini, kuhle kakhulu," ngeke ukwazi ukufeza lutho ngaphandle kokulala ubusuku (futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kuye) kanye nemigomo yakhe yokusebenza emisebenzini yakho. Nginomuntu osebenza naye omusha "futhi ngimisa yonke imibuzo, ngithi:" Kungcono namanje awukwenzi. "Anginaso isithakazelo kunoma ubani omunye." Futhi kuyadingeka ukuthi kule ngxoxo yakho isiphelile.
Ungazivumeli abahlambalaza ngokuthi "Ngibone ukuthi ubuke lolo hlobo!" Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngemuva kwala mazwi kungase kube nokuntuleka kokuzethemba nokufisa ukuzwa: "Yebo, unombhalo ophelele, akukho lutho akazimeleli yena, kodwa uma eqhathanisa nawe uvele nje (noma ngokuphambene, i-block of fat)! "
Ngaphandle kweshwele esikhulu esingaba khona singafihla umqondo wobunikazi. Ngakho-ke, u-Oleg wayenomhawu ngomkakhe (ngendlela, futhi engacabangi ngokuhlubuka) kunoma ubani odlula umuntu, akazange amvumele ekuhambeni kwebhizinisi. Lapho behlukanisa, futhi umkakhe ngokushesha waqala ukuhlangana nomunye, akazange akhathazeke ngisho. "Kodwa asikho ndawonye!"
Ngaphezu kokubukela kokunganaki nokuzizwa komnikazi, kukhona umhawu, iminyaka, okungukuthi, ubusha. "Ngesikhathi mina nomyeni wami sineminyaka engu-19 futhi wathi uyayithanda uMichelle Pfeiffer," kukhumbula uSveta, "ngase ngiphule i-TV futhi angizange ngikhulume nomyeni wami isikhathi sesigamu sosuku." Manje sinezinjabulo zokuxoxa ngemilenze emide yentombazane edlula amehlo abadlali. "
Futhi, ekugcineni, kwenzeka ukuthi umhawu uba mania, i-phobia. Lapha, kungaba khona iseluleko esisodwa kuphela: umxhwele ngokusheshisa ukuthi oshade naye ahambe kunokwazi kwengqondo. Akulula, kodwa kungenakwenzeka. Kulapho kuphela ongakwazi ukubhekana nalokhu.
Ngendlela, cabanga: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi "iqembu eliphathekayo" wena noma wena unomhawu kakhulu - vimbela ingane "emidlalweni yakho". Wena eqinisweni usuvele uqonde, yimuphi umonakalo ababeka emqondweni wengane engaziwa, akunjalo? Futhi akunakwenzeka neze ukuvumela umntwana ukuba abe "ulimi", ebika ukuthi "umama wabiza umalume wami," futhi "Ubaba, lapho sihamba naye, wahlangana nomama omuhle."
Yiqiniso, kunzima kunoma yimuphi umuntu onomhawu ukwenqaba ukubhekwa nokunye ukubonakaliswa kokungathembeki kwakhe. Zama ukutshela umyeni wakho ngokusobala ukuthi awuzwa kahle, futhi umcele ukuthi akugcine kulezi zenzo nakwezithombe zomhawu. Zama ukusebenzela kuso ngokuqhubekayo futhi ngokubekezela ngangokunokwenzeka. Msize, uma ungasusi "i-Othello complex", okungenani unciphisa, uyayiphatha. Umvuzo womzamo uzoba ukuzwakalisa ukwazisa kwemizwa, ukuthula nenjabulo emndenini.
Futhi wokugcina. Ngaphambi kokumangalela umlingani ngomhawu owedlulele, landela ngokwakho: mhlawumbe awuphuthelwa ngempela ithuba lokukhuluma nomfana omncane noma omncane kakhulu? Futhi mhlawumbe uchitha konke kusihlwa ngekhanda le-dissertation yakho, futhi lonke isikhathi ozinikela ukuxoxa ngokufaneleka kwayo? Khona-ke ungamangali uma ku-Othello umkakho ovuka ngokuzumayo!