Noma yikuphi ukuphawula komyeni, izinguquko zobulili ebuhlotsheni (emva kwakho konke, ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, ubuhlobo bobulili buyashintsha ngezindlela eziningi), ubusika ngaphandle kokulala, kusetshenziswe ekotini, ukukhathala okuqhubekayo kanye nesisindo somthwalo wemfanelo yengane, nokunganeliseki kwabo ngokwabo, ukubukeka kwabo - konke lokhu uyakwazi ukwehlisa owesifazane okhungethwe ngengqondo endaweni ecindezelekile. Futhi imicabango enjengokuthi "Angithandi umyeni wami", "uyangibona ngingathandeki," "engikudinga lokho" ngokuqinile nangokujulile ukuhlala ebuchosheni bomama osemncane. Futhi ngaphandle kokuphikisa okuhle, umphumela wemizwa enjalo ye-decadent ingaba yindabuko kakhulu. Ukucindezeleka kuholela kwezinye izifo, hhayi nje ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Futhi inkulumo eyaziwayo "zonke izifo ezivela emithanjeni" akuyona inganekwane nhlobo. Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele uyenze uma uzizwa izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, ulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kwakho kwangaphambili ekuthandeni kwakho, noma nje uqaphele ukuthi waba nobuhlungu ngokwengeziwe ngamazwi ngawe?
Okokuqala, ungayinaki inkinga, ungavali amehlo akho ekushintsheni okwenzeka kuwe. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nokwesaba kwakho kuzothola kuphela kuwe, azipheli ngaphandle kokulandelela. Yiqiniso, akufanele uphonse ngakwesobunxele nangokwesokudla ngezinkinga zakho, kodwa uthintane nabangani bakho abakhulu, uye ekuxoxisaneni nomcwaningi wezengqondo - konke lokhu kungaba yikhambo lakho. Abantu abaningi, ukuze baqonde izizathu nendlela yokuphuma kwezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi, kudingeka nje ukulalelwa. Ungalindeli ezinye izixazululo ezinkingeni zakho, konke lokhu kufanele kunqunywe nguwe. Futhi ungesabi ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngalokho okwenzeka kuwe, futhi kunzima ngani. Ukuqonda okufanayo nokusekelwa komuntu oseduze kuzokusiza ukuba ubhekane nokuphazamiseka nokuxazulula izinkinga ezinkulu.
Isinyathelo esibalulekile futhi ukuzamukela ngokwakho. Izinguquko zangemva kokubeletha emzimbeni wesifazane azifaki ukuzithokozisa kanye nentsha esheshayo emfanekisweni wakho, futhi abesifazane abaningi izinyanga ezingu-9 ezedlule bebengamantombazane amancane, kunzima ukubekezelela indlela entsha yomama onesihlengikazi. Kodwa-ke, intsha ngeke ihlale phakade, bonke abantu bayaguga futhi bashintshe, kodwa ukudla okunomsoco nokusebenza ngokomzimba okulinganayo kuzokusiza ukuba uphinde uthole ukukhanga kwakho kuqala emehlweni akho. Akulula kumama osemusha ukuthola isikhathi sokuphumula, ukubuyisela amandla. Zama ukuthola umsizi, mhlawumbe uzoba ugogo noma unina ozozinakekela yena nomntwana. Ungakhohlwa, hhayi ingane yakho kuphela, kodwa futhi udinga ukunakekelwa kwakho. Thatha isikhathi sokuphumula, hamba emoyeni, zama ukungazinaki izinkathazo eziningi, umthwalo ongenakubekezelelwa uzodala isimo sakho kuphela. Kanti futhi akunconywa ukuthi kusetshenziswe okunzima ngokomzimba, okubangela ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe emzimbeni. Xhumana nochwepheshe mayelana nokuzivocavoca okukhethekile okuzenzekelayo, ukuzivocavoca okuvamile endaweni yokuzivocavoca kungadala isimo.
Abesifazane abaningi banenkinga yocansi.
Ukubeletha kuyisivivinyo esinzima ngokomqondo, ngisho nokubeletha ngesigaba seKesariya. Kusukela ekubukeni kwezokwelapha, isikhathi esiphezulu esidingekayo ukubuyisela owesifazane ngemuva kokubeletha inyanga nengxenye. Futhi ungesabi, uma ungenalo isifiso sangaphambili nesifiso, lokhu kuncipha kulungile ngokugcwele ezingeni lokuphila. Okokuqala, isimo sakho se-hormonal sishintsha futhi owesifazane emva kokubeletha kugxila kakhulu kwengane yakhe, okuyinto engokwemvelo. Futhi ukukhathalela ngenzalo kuyaphonswa ngemuva ngemuva kokukhangwa ngokocansi, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi kuba imbangela yezimpikiswano kubantu. Ngezinye izikhathi bangabonisa umhawu ocacile kwengane yakho evamile, becabanga ukuthi bayeke ukudlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yakho. Njengamazikhathi amaningi, kufanelekile ukuba nengxoxo nokuthembela okugcwele kumlingani wakho wokuphila. Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho, ungesabi ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile.
Ukuvela kwamalungu omndeni omusha akubalulekile kuwe kuphela, kodwa futhi kumngane wakho, nengxoxo engagwegwesi nokuqonda okufanayo kuzosiza ukudala umoya odingekayo ekuthuthukiseni ingane ngokuvumelana. Zivikele ezinkulumweni ezingathandeki noma imikhosi enomsindo, umama yisikhathi esikhethekile, esidinga ukuthula nokuthula. Ungagxila ezinkingeni ezikukhathazayo nokungaqiniseki mayelana nokungazitholi kwakho. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungalokothi uvale izinkinga zakho futhi unganqikazi ukukhuluma ngabo nomndeni nabangane. Sithemba ukuthi le nkulumo ithi: "Indoda emva kokuzalwa kwengane yathi angikuthandi", ngeke usithinte.