Noma yikuphi ukwehlukana kunesimo esiningi isimo esingathandeki nesicindezelayo, noma ubani owaqala ukuphumula. Kubuhlungu ngokukhethekile uma ushiya umuntu osevele edlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yakho, ozwa ngayo imizwa ejulile, mhlawumbe nothando. Namuhla sizoxoxa ngokuthi kungani ubuhlobo bezinye izikhathi buphela, nokuthi bangasinda kanjani ekuhlukaneni.
Abantu ababili abanobuhlobo noma emshadweni kufanele bafanane noma baxhasane - zonke ngezindlela ezahlukene. Uma ngabe kunjalo, kodwa ekugcineni kudlulile, inyunyana ingasongelwa ngokuphuka. Isibonelo, ngaphambili lo mbhangqwana ube namaphoyinti oxhumana nabo nobudlelwane obuvumelanayo, bese omunye wabo washintsha kakhulu. Futhi bonke, ngezinye izikhathi umlingani wesibili akakwazi ukwamukela lezi zinguquko, ukuvumelana sekuphelile, ubuhlobo buwa. Lokhu kungaba esinye sezimbangela zobuhlobo obususwe kanye negebe elihle. Kodwa kunzima ukushintsha noma yini lapha, ngoba umuntu akakwazi njalo ukulawula indlela uhlamvu lwakhe olushintsha ngayo, imibono yakhe empilweni, uhlela ikusasa, imvelo yakhe, izithakazelo, ukuthanda izinto njalonjalo.
Izazi zengqondo zithi ubuhlobo abuphikisana nezihlobo ezikhuphukela empilweni yabashadile, izingxabano eziqhubekayo nokuphikisana mayelana nokuphila kwansuku zonke, imibono ehlukene ekukhuliseni izingane, ukuhlubuka, ukungamhloniphi umlingani nemibono yakhe, nokunye. Ebudlelwaneni udinga ukubekezela, ukuhlakanipha, ukulalela. Emva kwakho konke, ukuphikisana konke, kodwa umphumela wokuxabana ungahluka, konke kuxhomeke kulowo mbhangqwana uqobo.
Kwenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho wobudlelwane uphela ngokuzumayo. Futhi awukwazi ngisho nokuqonda okwenzekile, kungani lowo muntu enqume ukuphula uxhumano. Eqinisweni, ngokungazelelwe ubuhlobo abupheli, imizwa ngokuzumayo ayidluli. Ngokusobala, ngokusobala, kwakuphuza okwesikhathi eside, cishe, kwakukhona izibonakaliso zenkinga esondelayo, mhlawumbe ukupholisa komlingani nokunye okunjalo. Kodwa ngokuvamile abantu abafuni ukuphawula lezi "bells", abafuni ukucabanga ngokubi. Laba bantu bangaqhutshwa ukwesaba ushintsho ebuhlotsheni noma ukwesaba isizungu. Bavala amehlo abo, futhi lokhu kubangele umuzwa wamanga wokuzinza nokuthula.
Kwenzeka ukuthi abantu babenothando lomunye, kodwa ekugcineni ludlula futhi indawo yakhe yanyuswa ngomkhuba. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezihlukahlukene, abantu bayeka ukuthandana futhi banquma ukuhlukana. Yebo, uma bobabili abalingani bebona igebe ngokwanele, ngokuvamile baxoxisana. Khona-ke abalingani bokuqala baqonda ukuthi impilo iyaqhubeka, akeke omunye nomunye futhi ngezinye izikhathi abe abangane.Kubi nakakhulu uma umuntu ethanda, kanti owesibili uvela othandweni. Kulesi simo, ukwehlukana kobudlelwane kubulethela ubuhlungu obukhulu, ukushaqeka, ukucindezeleka nokubhujiswa kokuziphatha. Lapha into eyinhloko ukuziphatha ngendlela efanele, hhayi ukusheshisa ngokweqile, ungathuli utshwala. Awudingi ukuphindisela, ukuphindiselela kuyimbonakaliso yobugovu, ukungavikeleki kanye nobuthakathaka. Ngokuba yikuphi ukuphindiselela, uma umuntu evele evele othandweni? Ngakho-ke, akusilo ikusasa. Futhi uma umuntu ekhonjiswe noma esetshenziselwa izinhloso zakhe, khona-ke asikho isidingo sokuphindiselela noma - kungani ubeke izandla kumuntu ongafaneleki, unake. Udinga ukuthola amandla okuthethelela futhi uvumele ukuhamba.
Izizathu zokuhlukanisa zingahluka kakhulu - ukulahlekelwa kwemizwa, inzalo, inhlonipho, imigomo ejwayelekile, njll njll. Yiqiniso, ukuhlukanisa akulula. Ngokuvamile abantu baqala ukuzihlola, bazilalele ngokwabo okuthile noma umlingani wabo, bacabange ukuthi umuntu angashintsha okuningi, cabanga ngokuthi "kwenzekani uma ...". Ukuze usinde kule nkathi engafanele yokuphila, udinga ukushisa, uthethelele umuntu, ake uhambe, wamukele isimo, futhi uthole ulwazi oluthile. Kodwa okuhlangenwe nakho kuphela kufanele kube nokwakha futhi kulungile. Ungacabangi ukuthi uthando nobudlelwane bubi, futhi bonke abantu bangabathengi. Lokhu kuzokwandisa isimo kuphela. Ngokuzenzekile esikhathini esizayo kuyoba umuntu ofanele, "okufanayo."
Ukuze ululame ngokuhlukana, zizinike isikhathi sokuphulukisa isilonda, ungagudli ngokushesha umcengezi ngomcengezi. Kodwa akudingeki uhambe kakhulu - akudingeki uziphendulele ngokwakho.
Udinga ukukhala, uthethelele izikhalazo zakho bese uzibeka ekugcineni. Ungazibeki icala ngokuphula ubuhlobo.
Uma lokhu kuzokhulula umphefumulo wakho, phonsa ukuhlukumezeka, ukulahla noma ukubhubhisa zonke izithombe, izipho nezinto ezikhumbuza zangaphambili, okubangela ukufutheka nokulangazelela.
Zama ukuzibandakanya ngento ethize: yenza ezemidlalo, thola okuzilibazisa, uzicabange emsebenzini. Ungashiyi isikhathi sokucabanga ngedlule, ngenxa yokuzisola nokucindezeleka.Ziqaphele, isibonelo, hamba kumuntu wezinwele, sitolo. Imizwelo enganaki ingaphuthukiswa ngosizo lokuzikhandla ngokomzimba - ezemidlalo, ukudansa. Yenza izipho, uhlangabezane nabangani, uye emaphathini, wenze okukujabulisayo, uletha injabulo. Zama ukuletha injabulo nokuhleka okukhulu empilweni yakho - ukubukela ama-comedies, funda izindaba ezimnandi, uye kumaqembu, ezindaweni zokudlela, bowling, rink skating nokunye.
Ungenza ubuciko, ube nesilwane, uhambe endaweni ethile ukushintsha imvelo kanye nemvelo - ngezwi, ujabule. Ungabi nesithakazelo endala, impilo yakhe nalabo abenza naye lokho, thintana naye kuye okungenani. Uma kunzima kuwe ukuba ubhekane nakho ngokwakho, cela isazi sengqondo - akukho lutho olungalungile ngakho. Uchwepheshe uzokusiza ukuba usinde ekuhlukaneni.
Zithande, zimele futhi uziqine. Khipha okutholakele, hlaziya amaphutha ukuze wakhe ubuhlobo obuhambelanayo esikhathini esizayo. Ungaqothule ngokuphelele kumuntu, ungalahlekelwa yiwe, ubuntu bakho, ungazinikeli konke ngenxa yomlingani wakho. Uma kunesidingo, zama ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha namadoda, isitayela sobuhlobo. Zama ukuthi ungahambisani nesigwebo esifanayo.
Ungacabangi ngendlela engafanele. Phonsa imicabango efana nokuthi "Angiyikuhlangana nalokhu," "Ngeke ngiphinde ngithandane," noma "Akekho ozokuthanda," njalonjalo. Akunjalo! Futhi ungayeki ukuthembela kubantu! Ukuhlukanisa akuyona ukuphela kwezwe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi esikhathini esizayo ngeke uhlangabezane nomuntu ozothandana naye, umuntu ongamethemba. Manje uyazi ukuthi yiliphi igebe, ukuthi kungani ubuhlobo buphela nokuthi singasinda kanjani ukuhlukana. Uyakuthanda futhi ujabule!