Imihlangano nezihlobo nabangane iyadingeka yiwo wonke umama. Ungasichitha kanjani isikhathi, uma uletha injabulo yenkhulumomphendvulwano kokubili, kanye nezingane? Ungakugwema kanjani izinkinga nabangani abavakashelayo?
Izinsuku zadlula lapho ingane ilele kuphela, idla, ivuke kancane futhi yalala futhi. Kwakuyisikhathi esimangalisayo sezinyathelo zokuqala, ukubonakaliswa kwenjabulo ngokumomotheka nokuhleka, imizamo yokuqala ngokobulili. Ingane yakho ikhulile futhi isilungele ukuhlangana nabantu abasha, hhayi nje ontanga nezihlobo eziseduze, kodwa futhi nabababa nabomama abajwayele. Ngomntwana, ukufika nabazali kuyohlala umcimbi obalulekile womndeni wokuphila. Ngisho noma ugijimela isigamu sehora ukuya e-cafe eseduzane, ingane izojabula nayo yonke imininingwane yalesi senzakalo! Sawubona, ngingumama wakho!
Ukuvakashela, noma yimuphi umama uzokhathazeka kabili - yena nomntwana. Uyazi umuzwa wokuthi uhlezi esinqumweni, unjenge "zasendle"? Abangane bavuselele ikhabethe ngokuhambisana nemikhuba yezimfashini, abangane ngesikhathi sezenzakalo, owaziyo kuphela ngezwi lokuzwa, ngoba ulahlekelwe ukuvakashelwa okuphawulekayo kwamaqembu omculo, imibukiso ethakazelisayo nokunye okunjalo. izinkinga eduze accustom ingane ukuba Potty nokuthuthukiswa ingane imvuthu amasu zakamuva. Kodwa ngokushesha usuku lokuzalwa mzalwane komyeni wakhe ... isikhathi sokugcina wena wahlangana izihlobo esehlakalweni esinjalo, uma ngenkuthalo wasebenza futhi kwadingeka isithombe esihlukile ngokuphelele. Namuhla, konke ishintshile, kodwa yini noma cha lesi uvalo ngawe?
Inethonya elikhulu kunomqondo wengqondo wengane ngesikhathi semibuthano ingumama womama. Uma unina ejabule ngobuqotho izivakashi, uzizwa eqiniseka, ingane izokopisha isimo sayo ngo-99%. I-1% izohlala enduduzo yemvelo yengane.
Ukuzwa ukhululekile futhi uqiniseka kunoma yisiphi isimo akulula. Kodwa ukuze ungaqhubeki umkhathi futhi ungacabangi izinkinga ezingadingekile nokukhathazeka, zama ukuveza isimo seholide ezayo ngokuningiliziwe. Ungakugwema kanjani izinkinga ingane ngokuvakashelwa? Njengoba ejwayele ukuba yikhungo somuntu wonke, ingane ithola esimweni lapho wonke umuntu ehlanganyela ekuxoxiseni izinkinga ezingahlobene nokuziphatha kwakhe noma impilo yakhe. Ngisho nabazali, benesifiso esixoxweni esijwayelekile, zama ukwenza ingane ibe "ithoyizi elithambile" eludla okuthile emenyu yezingane futhi lingaphazamisi nokuzijabulisa. Imiboniso kuphela ngobaba nomama yiyona ekhululekile kunazo zonke, ngoba azixhomeke ekuthandeni kwabangamazi esimweni. Ubude kanye nokuhlelwa kwezehlakalo zibekwa ngabazali, hhayi ukulungiswa kwezinye izimo. Amama nobaba abangaboni kahle balindele ukuthi ingane ishintshe amafomu okusebenzisana ok. kuye ngokuthi isimo somhlangano, kodwa ukuthuthukiswa kwengane encane akukakusivumeli ukuba uphinde wakhiwe ngokushesha ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene zomphakathi.Nokho, uma kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala ubona ukuthuthukiswa okungathandeki kwezehlakalo kanye nengqondo yomntwana ukwenza "amandla," sincoma ngokuqinile ukuthi ushiye ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi uhlangane futhi .
Yilungele!
Ukuhlaziya uchungechunge lweminye imihlangano ehlulekile, ungase uthole umbono wokuthi ingane isiteleka, ukuthi umane engeyona iSoviet noma iphangiwe (lokhu kuvame ukugwetshwa kukagogo). Kodwa ungaphelelwa ithemba, incane ayifuni ukucasula abazali bakho abathandekayo. Ngane nje ingane yakho yayididekile ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni, wayefuna ukulinganisa, kepha wakhubeka ekungaboni kahle, ekujezisweni nasekuhlaleni. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ugweme izinkinga, kubalulekile ukulungiselela umhlangano ngamunye kusengaphambili.
Imemo yabazali
Lapho uneminyaka eyodwa kuya kwemibili, ingane ifunda ukuziphatha, iqondiswa ukuhlolwa kwezenzo zakhe ngabantu abadala abakuzungezile. Ngokuvamile badumisa abantwana bakho! Lokhu kuzobanika ukuzethemba. Uma kuwe ukuthi ingane ihlanganyela ithoyizi nontanga kuyinto yokuziphatha evamile (ngemuva kwakho konke, kufanele kube njalo!), Khona-ke ngenxa ye-crumb kuyimpumelelo enkulu edinga isikhuthazo kubantu abadala.
Uzimisele ukuya endaweni ethile nomntwana? Ngaphambi kwesikhathi, tshela ingane ukuthi uziphathe kanjani. Isibonelo, ekhaya lakho, ingane idlala ikakhulukazi ngamathoyizi, ngezinye izikhathi ithatha izitsha zokupheka, kodwa awusoze wamvumela ukuthi adlale ngommese obukhali! Ngakho kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila ingane ifunda ukuthi kungenzeka, futhi lokho - akunjalo neze.
Ngaphambili ingane ifunda imiqondo "ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka, futhi ingafana nalokhu," kuyoba lula ngaye ukulungisa izimo zokuphila. Zama ukuvimbela "okungenakwenzeka" hhayi njengokuvinjelwa okuphelele, kodwa njengenguquko (noma kubalulekile) emithethweni yomdlalo nokuphila .
Imithetho yokuziphatha emndenini, eyaziwa kusukela ezinyangeni zokuqala , izokusiza ukuba uvumelane nokuvuma imithetho emisha yokuziphatha emphakathini ongabaziyo. Isibonelo, lapho uya kubazali bomyeni wakhe, chaza ngokuningiliziwe futhi, uma kungenzeka, ulahlekelwe isimo somhlangano ozayo. Batshele ukuthi uma uhlangana nawe kufanele uthi: "Sawubona." Udinga ukubuza njalo: "Ngingayithola yini?" Uma ufuna ukudlala indaba ethile. Xoxani ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani uma ungavumeli ukudlala nento. Akuqondi ukuthi yini oyichazelayo, kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso, ingane ihlale ihlupha, kodwa izokuhlola wena kanye nezihlobo zakhe ukuze uthole amandla. Yenza uhlu lwamalungiselelo (amaphuzu angu-5-7) bese uyisebenzisana nomntwana.
Ingxoxo yesibonelo
Kukhona uhambo oluya kubazali bomyeni wakhe.
- Alyonushka, maduzane sizoya kukaTogo nomkhulu uDima, - kusho umama wami.
- Yebo, aah, aah, - intombazane eneminyaka emibili ubudala iyaphila.
"Sithini uma singena?" - Umama uyabuza futhi, lapho ebona ubuso obusweni bomntwana, uyaqhubeka. - Sawubona! Phinda nami ndawonye!
- HAPPY! Le ntombazane nomama baphinde baphinde bahlabele.
- Masicabange ukuthi sesifikile kakade. Leli bhere lizoba ngumkhulu, kanti udokotela kaValya uzoba ugogo, ungumfana, ngingumfana, ubaba uyakuba unogwaja. Lapha siza, sizothini? - Ngokuqhubekayo ohlelweni. Zama ukulahlekelwa zonke izakhiwo zomhlangano ucabangela amalungiselelo.
Sithi: "Sawubona - hlehlisa." Siyabonga ngezipho nokuphatha, uthi: "Ngiyabonga." Uma ufuna ukuthatha into ethile, sibuza: "Ngingayithola yini?" Asikwazi ukugijima ngendlu (asikwenyusi isiteji, asihlukumezi ikati, asikhiphi esangweni, ungadabuli iphephandaba - kubalulekile ukuligcizelela.) Ngaphandle kwe-caprices, sizotshela umkhulu no-Grandfather inkondlo ngoTanya nebhola elahlekile.
Umsebenzi oyinhloko womsebenzi wokulungiselela lokho ukuchaza ingane ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha abadala abakulindele kuye. Ngikholelwa, okusobala kumama nabesilisa akusobala nakancane kubantwana. Imfanelo yezingane yifiso yokuhle futhi yenza konke okulungile. Futhi abantu abadala kufanele baqonde ukuthi azikho izingane ezimbi, izingane nje zingenza okuthile okungalungile ngokungazi.
"Malume" kaDobrenky
Ngezinye izikhathi kulula ukuba izingane zifundise ukuziphatha okulungile kunabanye abadala. Phela, kuthiwani ngokuba namalume nobahlonipha, ngezinye izikhathi ezivela ezisusa ezinhle, bahlelele izinkumbulo ezingalindelekile futhi ezingadingeki njalo kubazali bazo?
Ngesizathu esithile, izinkinga zokukhulisa, ukufundiswa kanye nokuthuthukiswa kokuthuthukiswa kwezingane cishe azibangeli ukungezwani nokuphikisana eqenjini labangane nezihlobo. Kodwa, uma kuziwa esimisweni sokudla kwengane encane, izingxabano zingaba yizikhalazo ezinkulu.
Ukulungiselela umntwana ukuba angene ezweni, kufanele kube khona ukuvumelana nomunye, ohlangothini lomdala. Isibonelo, tshela abangani ukuthi uzoza nomntwana, futhi uma umkhosi uqhubeka endaweni yokudlela, igumbi lokungabhemi liyadingeka. Uzokhokha ukuvakashela ugogo nomkhulu wakho? Khumbuza umndeni wakho ukuthi ngenkathi ungakunikeli ushokoledi wengane yakho.
Lungisa ubumnandi ingane yakho ehambisana nezidingo zakho. Uma uqinisekile ukuthi uzobhekana nesimo lapho abanye abantu abadala befuna ukuphazamisa okuthile okumnandi, ukuzinika ngokuhlakanipha, isibonelo, izithelo ezomile eziboshwe nge-candy wrappers, noma amakhukhi akhethekile.
Ukuya emphakathini womhlaba wonke nomndeni wonke, ngaphandle kwezinto ezibalulekile ezinjengama-diapers, izintambo ezimanzi, i-pantyhose ne-shirts evikelekile, qiniseka ukuthi uthatha isimo sengqondo esihle, okuqinisekile ukuthi konke kuzodlula ngaphandle kwezinto ezingadingekile. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - umndeni wakho uzothola injabulo enkulu ekukhulumisaneni nabantu abasondelene nenhliziyo yakho. Eminyakeni embalwa, ebuka i-albhamu yezithombe zomndeni, uzohleka ngokujabula futhi ujabule ukukhumbula izikhathi ezijabulisayo ezisebenzisiwe nengane yakho.