Kodwa uma kuvame ukufika ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, umqondo wokulunga, ngisho namalungelo angancishiswa kuze kube yilapho, noma isikhathi eside ukuphikisana.
Ukuhamba isikhathi eside yizo izikhathi lapho owesifazane enezibopho ezingaphezu kwamalungelo. Futhi ngisho nangemva kokuzibiza ngokuthi balinganise emalungelweni namadoda, izinkolelo ezindala zizenza zizwe. Iningi lalezi zivame ukubonakala ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, ikakhulukazi uma owesifazane evumelana kahle futhi engasetshenziselwa ukuphikisana nomyeni wakhe. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngisho nalapho enokuthile okushoyo, umane nje akanalo ilungelo lokwenza lokho. Kodwa ngemva kwakho konke, akekho owamkhansele, futhi leli lungelo alizange linyamalale noma kuphi, kwenzeke kanjalo.
Yile ndlela ukuphila komkhaya okungathandeki kuqhubeka kancane kancane. Futhi yimuphi umbuzo, senzani amaphutha futhi nendlela yokusekela amalungelo abesifazane emndenini?
Bona ngokwabo bayecala.
Imodeli yokuziphatha komfazi wesikhathi esizayo iyofana kakhulu nokuziphatha komama wakhe emshadweni, kulungiselelwe "okuhle nokubi." Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile izingane ziba yisisulu semfundo ejulile yabazali babo, futhi isikhundla sikamama sokuthi lo muntu ungumuntu oyinhloko endlini, kulandelwa igama lokugcina. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunjalo, futhi abaningi abaphika lesi simo sezindaba. Kodwa, empeleni, owesifazane nendoda bangamalungu alinganayo emphakathini, futhi emshadweni akekho ongakwazi ukukhansela lokulingana ngaphandle kwethu ngokwethu.
Ngokuvamile wonke amashadi omndeni axoxisana futhi abuyele evamile ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Uma phakathi nalesi sikhathi, amalungelo kanye nemisebenzi ngokucacile futhi okungenani ilandelwa isikhathi esithile, futhi esikhathini esizayo bayoba umthetho womndeni.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ngisho nowesifazane oshadile, kanye naphambilini, unelungelo lokuzikhethela, ukukhetha izinqumo ezizimele kanye nesenzo. Unelungelo lokuvikela izithakazelo zakhe, azimele futhi ahlonishwe umndeni wakhe. Kunamalungelo amaningi ahlukene maqondana nazo zonke izigaba zokuphila komndeni, kodwa ngalokhu kamuva.
Ngokuvamise ukufaka izindandatho zokuthembeka, thina ngokwethu siwela ingxenye yengxenye yethu yamalungelo, ikakhulukazi labo abahambisana nomqondo wenkululeko. Ngakho-ke, sikholelwa ukuthi senza umhlatshelo oyigugu njengophawu lwesifiso sethu sokwakha umndeni, ukuthanda umyeni wethu nokubeletha izingane zakhe. Nakuba, empeleni, izisulu ezinjalo azidingeki, futhi akudingeki. Isibonelo, uma owesifazane eshada, uzikhohlisa ukuthi manje impilo yakhe izoshintsha ngokuphawulekayo, futhi kusukela osukwini lokuqala uqala ukufeza ngenkuthalo imisebenzi yakhe yokuzihlanganisa, ugxilise amehlo akhe kunabo ngaphezu kwamalungelo omshado wakhe. Umkami ulungele ukuthatha konke okuwukuphela kwamandla akhe, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ahlangabezane nazo zonke izidingo zomyeni wakhe. Kodwa futhi unelungelo, into okufanele ayifunde kumyeni wakhe, futhi ufisa ukuthi izidingo zizogcwaliseka. Khona-ke bayamangala lapho umyeni, ngokuphendula isicelo sosizo kumuntu oyedwa, uyaphendula: "unelungelo luni kimi lokufuna okuthile." Ngakho-ke, amantombazane, unakekele abancane hhayi ukuhlonipha kuphela, kodwa futhi amalungelo abo angokomthetho, khona-ke kuyoba nzima ukuqhubeka.
Ilungelo eliyinhloko.
Kwabesifazane emndenini kukhona amalungelo amabili asemqoka ahlobene kakhulu. Owokuqala unelungelo lokuthandwa, kanti owesibili ilungelo lokuba ngumama. Ukuphulwa kwala malungelo kakhulu kunayo yonke imiphumela yekhefu elidabukisayo.
Owesifazane engxenyeni enkulu ukhona ngokomzwelo futhi usetshenziselwa ukubona umhlaba wonke owuzungezile ezingeni lemizwa. Uma owesifazane ethandwa, futhi uzizwa - lokhu kubonakala kukho konke. Kodwa uma owesifazane ephoqeleka ukuba ahlale emndenini lapho uthando lufana nomusa kunokubonakaliswa okuqotho kwemizwa, owesifazane uzwa ngokuphambene nokuphulwa kwalesi sigwebo futhi ngokuvamile uyaziphendulela ngokucacile kuso.
Ilungelo lokubeletha cishe akufanele lixoxisane. Phela, akusiyo owesifazane ongafuni ukuzwa lo mzwa. Ukuphulwa kwalesi lungelo ngokuvamile kuboniswa ukungathandi komuntu oshade naye ukuba abe nengane ngesizathu esicacile. Ebhekene nesimo sengqondo esinjalo, lona wesifazane uzwela kakhulu kulokhu ukwenqaba. Into ekhethekile akuyona ukuqashelwa kwengane, noma isidingo somyeni sokukhipha isisu. Ngokuvamile lesi simo sithinta kakhulu impilo yengqondo yomama.
Futhi, ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ikakhulu uma owesifazane engakwazi ukuthola imali eyanele ukuze anikeze izidingo ezidingekayo. Unelungelo lokufuna kumyeni wakhe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi inhlalakahle nokuchuma komndeni. Ngokufanayo, amalungelo anjalo abesifazane, angakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphila komndeni, ngaphandle kwesibopho sokuwusebenza. Phela, emndenini, le ndoda yayiyi-earner, lo wesifazane wayengumgcini wendawo. Izisekelo ezinjalo zokuphila kwansuku zonke zigcinwa namhlanje, umehluko kuphela ukuthi owesifazane uzama ukuthatha izibopho ezengeziwe, futhi umyeni wakhe kule ntshisekelo uyasisekela kuphela.
Ilungelo lokuzwa.
Uke wabhekana nokungafuni ukukulalela nje ngoba ungowesifazane? Noma mhlawumbe wazi ukuthi uhloniphekile futhi awuhloniphi i-frazochki, njengokuthi "owesifazane, usuku lwakho ngo-Mashi 8," noma "futhi owesifazane lapha akekho owanikeze izwi." Izitatimende ezinjalo zenza imizwa enengekayo kunazo zonke kulabo abababizayo, futhi abahawukele izitha zabo. Phela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudabukisayo kangakanani, amadoda emndenini asetshenziselwa ukuthatha indima yophiko kuphela, engavamile ukuthinta isikhulu. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi amazwi omuntu omoyeni, nowesifazane - ifosholo esandleni. Futhi zama nje ukuphikisa. Ukuze ubuhlobo obunjalo, ungabonga futhi okhokho bethu. Phela, emasikweni amaningi, ukucabanga komuntu wesifazane kubandlulula ngokuphelele amalungelo akhe, ukuzibonakalisa njengelungu elilinganayo lomphakathi. Uma ubheka ngokucophelela ezenzweni eziningi engikugqugquzela kakhulu ukuthi uphile, ungabona umkhuba owodwa. Okuvamile owesifazane, ngokuvamile kuvame ukusetshenziswa umqondo othi "kufanele", futhi kumyeni wakhe - unelungelo.
Ngakho-ke, amadoda abathandayo, izikhathi zishintsha, futhi manje kufanele futhi, nabesifazane emndenini nabo banelungelo. Ikakhulukazi banelungelo lokukhuluma ngamalungelo abo, ukubakhumbuza nokufuna ukuqaliswa kwazo. Futhi kumelwe uzwe futhi uwaqonde. Uma kungenjalo, ngeke sifeze ukuqonda okufanele.