Njengoba kuphawuliwe ngokufanele ngabalingisi bezinkanyezi nabasenkulumeni, amadoda nabesifazane bathandana futhi babonisa imizwa yabo ngezindlela ezahlukene, ngoba abesifazane basuka Venus, namadoda avela eMarro. Ngoba kunzima kithi, ingxenye yesonke, ukuqonda, ngoba kunzima ukucacisa - uyayithanda?
Akuwona wonke umuntu lo mbuzo oba yinto esemqoka empilweni, kodwa kubomama - wonke umuntu okungenani kanye empilweni, ngisho nesikhathi esifushane, kodwa ukukhanya ngombhede kuyaguquguquka kuso. Izwe kulo lonke ukuhlukahluka kwalo lidlula ngemuva, lishiya owokuqala umbuzo obuhlungu: wazi kanjani uma indoda ikuthanda? Sekuyisikhathi eside sekuyaziwa ukuthi owesifazane ukhululekile kakhulu ekuthandeni imizwa. Iningi lamadodakazi ka-Eva ahlala nemizwa, engazi ukuthi angabala kanjani into futhi ucabange ngaphambili. Futhi ngenxa yowesifazane kungase kungakhathazeki ukuthi ubani okhethiweyo wakhe, kuphi, ukuthi uthola kangakanani nokuthi usebenza bani. Akakwazi ngempela ukwazi ngaye, kodwa cishe njalo uphendula ngokulula ngombuzo onjalo olula, kusukela kumbono wakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayithanda ungowakhe.
Kuphi kunzima ukuphendula lo mbuzo kumuntu! Ngokuvamile, ngisho nommeleli wesigamu esiphezulu akanakuqonda ukuthi uyamthanda yini okhethiwe. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu akuyona into eyinhloko, abanye - ukuthi konke kucacile ngaphandle kwemibandela, okwesithathu bayesaba ukuvuma, kanti okwesine abasazi impendulo kuso. Akuyona into emihle noma embi, kubalulekile. Ubudala, ukukhuliswa, umbono, isikhundla emphakathini - konke lokhu kunomthelela omkhulu kumlingisi nokuziphatha komuntu. Kufana nabesifazane noma cha, kodwa bahlelwe njengalokhu - imizwa yabo, imizwelo ayikho ekuqaleni noma indawo yesithathu.
Ngakho ungaba kanjani? Indlela yokuthola iqiniso, ukuze ungabhekene nokungaziwa, ungenzi amapulani angahle awenzeke? Indlela yokunquma, noma ingabe konke lokhu kubonakala nje, isimo esifana nesibindi sobuhlobo bangempela?
Ukuze unikeze iseluleko esiqondile futhi esiwusizo ngalokhu lapha akunakwenzeka ukuba uqaphele: akusilo lutho abakushoyo uma ufuna ukulahlekelwa ikhanda lakho, ukuxazulula ubuhlobo phakathi kowesifazane nowendoda. Nokho, yilokho okungafanele ukwenze, ngakho "ukuhlola". Awekho "imidlalweni" ehleliwe, "izimo zokusetha", izinhlekelele ezivuthayo noma izinkinga ezakhiwe ngeke ziholele kunoma yini enhle. Futhi akuyona ngisho namakhono okwenza owesifazane nabasizi bakhe, hhayi endaweni "eyakhelwe kahle". Kulula lokhu konke, ngisho nokudlala ngempumelelo, ngeke kubonise isimo sangempela sezinto, ngoba wonke umuntu omdala, ngokususelwa ekuhlangenwe nakho, une "isethi" ethize yokusabela kulokhu noma kuleso simo, kufaka phakathi okungavamile. Futhi uma umuntu ehlakaniphile, uma ngokungazelelwe eqaphela ukuthi uhlolwe, ubuhlobo bungabhubhisa kanye nhlobo. Akuwona wonke umuntu onikezwe ukuphana, kodwa akekho umuntu onqatshelwe ukuziqhenya nokuzihlonipha.
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi umuntu uyamthanda ngempela, ukuphila kwangempela kuphela kuzokusiza. Eqinisweni, awudingi lutho ngamabomu. Owesifazane ungowokuthi futhi owesifazane azizwe futhi azibone. Okokuqala, phendula ngobuqotho umbuzo - ingabe uyakuhlonipha? Wabe esethula abazali bakhe, njengoba eveza isizungu sakhe sabangane, ozakwabo? Uma kunjalo, lokhu kuhle - kusho, nokuhlonipha kuboniswe, futhi ukwethemba, futhi uhlela ubuhlobo besikhathi eside. Uma kungenjalo, kukhona okunye okumele ucabange ngakho ...
Uma umuntu enganqikazi ukukhuluma ngabaphambili bakho nobuhlobo nabo, ngakho-ke, kusobala ukuthi akakuhloniphi ngempela futhi akayikuyiyeka imizwa yakho. Uma engakhulumi ngezinto ezedlule futhi aze ashiye imibuzo eqondile, lokhu kufanele kukuxwayise.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi amehlo ayiyisibuko somphefumulo, bhekani ngokucophelela, zikhombisa impendulo yombuzo oyinhloko. I-intuition ehlonishwayo yowesifazane nayo iyasiza kakhulu. Into eyinhloko ukufunda ukumethemba, nokungabi nabangane, izintombi nomakhelwane, ukumsiza ngokubheka nokuqonda, futhi ungaqonda konke wena ngokwakho.
Isibonelo, uma umuntu ekhukhulwa nge-nightingale, ekuboniseni ngezincomo, kepha "akabonanga" lapho anganikeza usizo, futhi uma ukhuluma nje, thola phansi, - akunakuthandi. Futhi uma ngezikhathi ezithile ekhuluma "ubunzima bezezimali" futhi ecela okuthile okumele akhokhe, khona-ke lapha, njengoba bekusho, futhi izizathu zekhofi azidingekile: wahlala nje ngokunethezeka. Futhi noma ngabe okhethiweyo wakho unomoya omnene futhi ongenasici, onakekelayo futhi ophanayo, kodwa kuphela ngezikhathi ezithile, nalokhu akuyona inkomba yothando lwakhe.
Kodwa uma ezama ukukusekela ngisho noma ungakulungile, ukuzola futhi uphazamise lapho uphelelwa amandla, ungakhohlwa into encane noma idethi yakho, uma engakhononi ukwesaba kwakho futhi uhlanganyela nobunzima bokuphila, unikezi izipho kuphela, kodwa futhi ukunakwa kwakho, isikhathi, ukufudumala komphefumulo - khona-ke wena, kusobala, unenhlanhla. Phela, umbuzo ukuthi uyakuthanda, nje awuveli ekhanda lakho.