Ngokuvame kakhulu lokhu kukhwabanisa kuvela ekuboneni kokuqala, kuphila isikhathi esifushane, ngakho kufanele ujabulele le njabulo kanye nomuzwa wendiza ngokugcwele. Ngalesi sikhathi esifushane, yonke imizwa yakho ibukhali futhi ihlanzekile, futhi wena ngokwakho uveza amandla aphezulu ocansi. Ukuheha, "hook" kumuntu kungenza okuningi: iphunga, indlela yokukhuluma, indlela yokuhamba, ukubukeka nokumamatheka. Ngezinye izikhathi ukukhanga okunjalo kungaholela ekuqhutshweni kobudlova, ngokwesibonelo, kokuya ocansini.
Ubulili ngosuku lokuqala, ngokwemithetho yokufaneleka kanye namazinga wokuziphatha, akuvumelekile kakhulu. Wena ngokwakho, mhlawumbe, ukungabaza - futhi ufuna futhi ulahlekile, ngoba ukulala ocansini ngosuku lokuqala - kusho ukuvikela idumela lomuntu ofinyelelekayo, ongcolile. Yenza noma cha, kungcono kuwe, ake sizame ukumba ngokujulile izizathu zokuthi kungani ngezinye izikhathi ufuna kabi ukulala nobulili nomuntu ongazijwayele.
Mhlawumbe uhlangane nendoda ehambisana nomqondo wakho wendoda enhle kakhulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kunzima, ukuthi kunzima ukuyeka ubusuku bothando ngomqondo omuhle, ngokungazelelwe umcimbi onjalo ngeke usuhanjiswe. Cabanga ngokuthi yikuphi okukujabulisayo. Ukuzwa ukukhangwa ngokocansi kuyisenzo esivamile sokuphila okunempilo. Ekugcineni, uma wenqabe ubulili, khumbula ukuthi kuleli zwe ugcwele amandla okukunika indlela yokuphuma, ugijime ngezinto ezibalulekile ezenziwe esikhathini esidlule.
Uma, noma kunjalo, unqume ukuqhubeka ngezifiso zakho, khumbula ukuthi indoda, lapho yenza ukuxhumana okusheshayo, ayikho into ecabanga ngokuqhubeka kwayo. Uma uvumelana nobuhlobo bobusuku obunye, ngakho konke kucacile, uma kungenjalo, ke ungabonisi ngisho nomusa umuntu akuvusa ekuthandeni okunjalo okuthakazelisayo.
Ukuze uqonde umuntu ngempela, udinga ukulinda isikhathi esithile. Isifiso sakho sizophelelwa yisikhathi, uzolahla, uzofika esimweni esivamile futhi unqume ukuthi ufuna ukuthola le ndoda noma cha. Ngokungazelelwe, esimweni esizolile, ngeke usithande.
Khumbula, akufanele neze ugcizelele ekusondeleni wena. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyakhangwa kangakanani, lo muntu uqobo kufanele avuse ucansi. Ungakwazi kuphela ukumazisa ukuthi awuhambisani nobudlelwane bakho obuseduze. Imibuzo emithathu eyinhloko ehlukumeza amantombazane kuleso simo: kanjani ukuthi ungadumala indoda, isikhathi esingakanani sokulinda ngaphambi kokuba ulale ucansi, ukuthi ungadumala kanjani lo muntu?
Ubulili ngosuku lokuqala luyibhizinisi eliyingozi, ngoba awukwazi uma ubona indoda yangempela noma nje imaski enhle, ngaphansi kwazo izimfanelo ezingakhethi ezifihliwe. Uma ubalulekile hhayi kuphela izici zobulili zamadoda, kodwa nakwabanye, kungcono ukuthi ungasheshi nocansi. Ngokuvamile ubuhlobo ngemuva kocansi ngosuku lokuqala luyadluliselwa. Ukuvumelanisa nobulili, khumbula ukuthi emva kwalokho ungalindela kokubili okumangazayo nokumangalisa okukhulu.
Ubuseduze obuseduze ngosuku lokuqala, njengokungena emanzini avela emshinini wokugubha - okwenziwe, owakhishwa, akazange aqaphele - ukukhulula i-trampoline. Futhi, uma uhlotshaniswa ngokocansi nakuba unomthwalo wemfanelo othile, khona-ke kumuntu - le nto ibonakala ngokucacile, ize ibe yinto engeyona imbopho.
Futhi iphoyinti lokugcina, uma izintshisekelo zakho ezikhuthele zivimbela ukufinyelela kwe-oxygen kuwe, okungenani unakekele impilo yakho! Ubulili obuphephile buya ocansini ngekhondomu. Ukukhathazeka kuyisifiso, futhi impilo ingaphezu kwakho konke!