Imibono ebalulekile mayelana nokuphila okuvela ku-Ph.D.

Kuyini uthando? Iyini injongo yokuphila? Ungazithuthukisa kanjani umsebenzi okhiqizayo? Ingabe ikhona indlela elula yokukhipha imikhuba emibi? I-Consultant yebhizinisi eyaziwa kakhulu, i-Ph.D. kanye nochwepheshe e-psychology yenhlangano, u-Yitzhak Adizes uphendula imibuzo ebaluleke kunazo zonke ekuphileni kwakhe encwadini ethi "Imicabango emisha ekuthuthukiseni komuntu siqu." Imiqondo embalwa ethakazelisayo esuka kuyo - okwamanje.

Umgomo ukhulisa impilo

Ukuze uphile impilo enempilo, kudingeka ube nomgomo othile. U-psychiatrist wase-Austrian u-Victor Frankl wabhala kahle ngalokhu encwadini yakhe ethi "Man ekufuneni incazelo". Wafika esiphethweni sokuthi ekamu lokuhlushwa, owayeyiboshwa, labo ababenomuzwa wokuphila kanye nezizathu zokulwa nokuphila bangaphila.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusukela emithonjeni eminingi yezokwelapha (futhi nakubhekana nakho), siyazi ukuthi abantu abazama ukuthola inhloso ethile futhi benza izinhlelo zokuphila esikhathini esizayo kunezifo eziningi ezibekezelayo kunelabo abazinikezele futhi balahlekelwa isithakazelo ekubeni khona. Ngaphandle komgomo ekuphileni, sisheshe sikhule, siphelelwe amandla futhi siphila impilo.

Qaphela ukuthi ngokushesha kangakanani impilo yalabo abahlala umhlalaphansi ngaphandle kwamalungiselelo okuphila okuwohloka. Ukwenza imali nomsebenzi kakade akusijabulisi. Izingane zakhula futhi zizimele. Yini okufanele ucabange? Udinga ukuthola lokho okukholelwayo ngenhliziyo yakho yonke. Faka esikhundleni esithi "yikuphi" ngegama elithi "obani". Ungazami ukususa isignesha esheke, ngakho-ke ngeke kuvele lutho. Sebenzisa isikhathi sakho. Masibe nesizathu sokuvuka ekuseni.

Indlela yokubhekana nemikhuba emibi

UDeborah Mackinnis, iphini likaNobhala weqhinga nokucwaninga eMarshall School of Business, wenza ucwaningo lwesayensi olunolwazi. Ngenkampani yakhe, wafunda ukuthi ukuhlukana okungafani nokucabanga kwangaphakathi kusiza ukulwa nesilingo. Abahlanganyeli ekuhlolweni babehlukaniswe ngamaqembu amathathu. Ngamunye wabo wayemenywa ngokweqile ekamelweni lapho kwakunamakhekhe ama-chocolate amaningi anamakha amahle kakhulu.

Isihloko esisodwa sasikhunjuzwa umuzwa wecala ukuthi babezoba nawo uma badla ikhekhe. Abanye babelulekwa ukuba bacabange ukuthi babezoziqhenya kanjani ngokwabo ngokubonisa amandla. Iqembu lesithathu lishiywe ngaphandle kwemilayezo. Ngenxa yalokho, amalungu eqembu lesithathu adla kakhulu, nalabo abaphoqeleka ukukhumbula ngokuziqhenya - okungenani.

Kuvela ukuthi umuzwa wecala awuphumelelanga kakhulu futhi unikeza amandla amancane ukulwa nezilingo kunokuziqhenya. Noma yimuphi umuntu uvame ukuhlangana nesifiso sokwenza okuthile okuthakazelisayo, kodwa hhayi okunengqondo noma ngisho eyingozi empilweni. Kungenzeka yini ukunqoba izilingo ezinjalo? Impendulo: yebo. Vele uqhathanise injabulo owutholayo uma ungamelani nezilingo, ngokuziqhenya okuzovela kuwe uma uhlala kude nezenzo ezingenangqondo.

Amandla Okuphilisa Othando

Njengoba ucwaningo lubonisa, izingane ezingenalo uthando zikhula kancane kancane kunalokho okufanele. Futhi labo abathandwa kakhulu ebuntwaneni, bahlangabezana nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo lapho bekhulile. Ngaphandle kothando, sishabalalisa. Konke umuntu akwenzayo empilweni, ngaphandle kwalokhu okuhloswe ngokuqondile ngokusinda ngokomzimba, wenza egameni lothando.

Isidingo sethu sokuqashelwa nokuhlonipha akuyona into ngaphandle kwesidingo esifihlekile sothando. Futhi ukukhala, ukuhlambalaza noma ukukhala, simbiza ngokumangazayo. Inkulumo yentukuthelo iwukubonakaliswa kwesaba sokwenqatshwa. Ubhekana kanjani nomntwana okhalayo? Uyomjezisa ngokumemeza? Noma ngomusa ukwamukela ukuzola? Kungani ungenzani okufanayo nomlingani othukuthele noma osemusha?

Zonke izinkinga zomuntu siqu, mhlawumbe nezomuntu siqu, ziwumphumela wokwenqatshwa uthando noma ukusesha okuphumelelanga. Yini evame ukwenziwa ezibhedlela zaseMelika ezigulini ezilala phansi? Balethwa ezinja, abaqeqeshwe ukukhotha izandla zabo bahlale eceleni kombhede ukuze bakwazi ukulandwa. Kuyini lokhu? Ngokunikeza nokwamukela uthando, siphulukiswa.

Imibono nemibono ethakazelisayo nakakhulu - encwadini ethi "Imiqondo emisha ekuthuthukiseni komuntu siqu."