Kubonakala sengathi amathoyizi amasha, abangani, imidlalo ehlukahlukene kanye nemisebenzi - konke lokhu kufanele kube umlingo wangempela kwentombazane encane, futhi ukuya enkulisa kuhlotshaniswa nokuzijabulisa okuthakazelisayo nokuthakazelisayo. Eqinisweni, kwabaningi kuvele kube yinkinga yangempela. Yisiphi isizathu sokuthi ingane ijwayele ukujwayela futhi isifundise kanjani engadini? Abazali abahlela ukuvakashela insimu esikhathini esizayo kufanele bazi ukuthi ukujwayela ukujwayela kuyinkqubo yemvelo kanye yemvelo. Ingane idinga ukujwayela umbuso omusha, abantu, izidingo.
Okunye okuwukuthi lokhu kulungiselelwa kwabanye kuyabuhlungu kakhulu: izinyane, elingafuni ukuhlukanisa nomama nobaba, livusa ukushaywa kakade ekhaya, futhi likwazi ukuqhubeka lonke usuku. Ukuthatha umntwana ofanayo kusukela ensimini, esikhundleni sezinhlanzi zakhe ezimomothekayo nezokulalela, abazali bayabona izinyane elinenkani, elinenkani nokucindezeleka. Ngokumelene nesimo sokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, ukuzivikela kunganciphisa ngisho, futhi ingane izoqala ukugula ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali, beletha imvuthu ensimini, bona ezinye izingane zingaya eqenjini ngokuphepha, zisebenzise ngokugcwele futhi zisebenzise usuku lonke ensimini nasebusuku nabazali babo. Futhi ngokwemvelo bazibuza: kuyini imfihlo?
Okokuqala, abazali kufanele bazi ukuthi uma ingane kuphela yodwa emndenini, ukunakekelwa okukhulu ekhaya, kuncike kumama futhi engaqiniseki, ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ukujwayela kwakhe engadini kuyoba nzima. Ngakho-ke, kubantwana abanjalo kungcono ukuqala ukulungiselela inkulisa izinyanga eziyisithupha ngaphambi komzuzu lapho ewela umngcele wakhe. Uthini?
Okokuqala, ngokukhululeka ukwandisa umbuthano wokuxhumana wengane yakho. Ngokuvame ukuvakashela amapaki abantwana, ukuthuthukisa amakilasi, ibhuku lokubhukuda. Thatha izinyane naye ngesikhathi sokuhlasela emvelweni, uya esitolo noma uvakashele futhi kancane kancane ujabulele ukuthi ahlanganyele nabantu abesilisa abahlukene, ubudala kanye nezikhundla. Zama ukushiya imvuthu kaningi ngokwakho. Tshela inganekwane, buka i-movie noma i-cartoon ngomntwana mayelana ne-enkulisa. Dlala kulo, chaza injongo yensimu. Ngaphandle kweminye imininingwane, tshela ukuthi yile ndawo lapho izingane zidlala khona ngenkathi abazali bazo basebenza. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, ungalokothi uxoxe ngegadi ngendlela engafanele, ungasebenzisi kabi izingane zokunakekelwa kwengane, kodwa futhi akufanelekile ukudumisa kakhulu.
Ngaphambi kokuhambela kokuqala, kubalulekile ukulungisa umbuso wengane yakho ngenye eyamukelwa engadini, umfundise ukuba adle, agqoke, aye endlini yangasese. Umqondo omuhle ungaba ukuheha ingane ukukhetha ikhabethe entsha yensimu.
Emagabeni okuqala okujwayele ukujwayela, kungcono ukunikeza ukuthanda ukuqeqeshwa kancane kancane, lapho ingane ishiywe ensimini ngamahora ambalwa ngosuku, enezela amahora ambalwa ngesikhathi esisodwa ngesonto ngalinye. Ngamathuba onke, dumisa umntwana, usho ukuthi usekudala yini nokuthi uyathanda kangakanani ukuya ensimini - izingane ziyabonakala kalula.
Lapho umntwana eqala ukuya ensimini ngokuphelele, zama ukuhlala uhlezi kahle ekuseni. Unganikeli okwenzekayo kanye nokwesaba kwengane yakho. Woza njalo ngesikhathi bese uzama ukwakha ubudlelwane obethembayo nabasebenzi bensimu. Yisho okuhle, smile futhi ukhulume ukuthi uzobuya nini ngempela ingane: emva kokuphupha, emva kokudla, ngemva kokuhamba, njll. Ngenaye, anganikeza ithoyizi oyithandayo noma ubumnandi.
Kodwa ngisho neyinkimbinkimbi ekulungiselele futhi elalelayo ukujwayela kungathatha isikhashana. Udinga ukulungele lokhu futhi uthathe ngokuthula nangokubekezela. I-crumb ithatha isikhathi ukujwayela. Ukusekela, futhi emva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa ngeke ubone ukuthi ingane yakho izojabula kanjani ukugijima engadini, yenza abangane abasha futhi ugqoke ubuciko bokuqala ngokuziqhenya.