Ukwesaba 1. Ukulahlekelwa ubuntombi .
Ukwesaba kokuqala wesifazane kuhlale kuhlotshaniswa nokuhlukunyezwa. Mayelana nokulahlekelwa ubumsulwa kuhamba ngamahlebezi amaningi kanye nezinganekwane, futhi, igazi, futhi yikuphi owesifazane ongesabi ngegazi? Nakhu kuyadingeka ukukhombisa izimangaliso zokubekezela nesibindi - ukunquma, ukuthembela kumuntu, ungenzi iphutha kulo, ukugxila kuye, ukubekezela ubuhlungu nokugcina ubuso.
Amadoda awazange abe nesifiso esinjalo.
Ukwesaba 2. Ukukhulelwa.
Ukuzikhukhumeza kuyesaba, mhlawumbe, ngisho nangaphezu kokuhlambalaza. Ngokokuqala ngqa kunesikhathi esisodwa empilweni hhayi isikhathi eside, futhi ukukhulelwa kungenxa izinyanga ezingu-9. Ngalesi sikhathi, ungakhula, ulahlekelwe umsebenzi wakho, uphume ngaphandle kwesikole, uhlale ngaphandle kokusekelwa amadoda, kodwa yini engenzeka ezinyangeni ezingu-9 lapho owesifazane engenakuzivikela ngokuphelele?
Ukwesaba 3. Ukubeletha.
Lapha le fantasy iyahamba nxazonke. Ukubeletha kubi, kubika, kuthiwa bafa. Okucacile kakhulu ekhanda yizo zonke izintatheli zokubeletha, ezizwile konke ukuphila kwazo, zigcwele imininingwane yegazi futhi ziphela konke njengomphumela owodwa, umphumela obulalayo.
Ngokwamanye amaziko okucwaninga, indoda ayikwazi ngokomzimba ukuthwala lokho owesifazane abhekana nakho ngesikhathi sokuzalwa okuvamile, okuphumelelayo. Kusukela ebuhlungu obunjalo, amadoda angafa njengomusa.
Ukwesaba 4. Ukungabi nalutho.
Uma owesifazane engesabi ukukhulelwa, uyesaba ukuthi akekho - lokhu kuyimvelo. Abesifazane abangenazo izingane babonakala bengavamile ngemuva kwesizinda sabanye. Emphakathini, umbono wokuthi owesifazane ongakaze abelethe akakaze akhiwe ngokugcwele kahle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isisulu sokubeletha siqala ukuthukuthela masinyane futhi singathuli kuze kube yiminyaka ephakeme, kunzima ukulwa nayo.
Ukwesaba 5. Umqhele we-celibacy.
Uma uhlala ungenazo izingane - kuyesabeka, kodwa ungakwazi ukuyixazulula, ngoba ungakwazi njalo ukuthatha ingane kusuka ezintandane futhi wenze sengathi ungowakho, bese uhlala ngaphandle komyeni - kubi kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, akunakwenzeka ukuthatha umyeni endaweni yokukhosela. Abesifazane balungele ukushada kusukela esikoleni esiphakeme futhi bangalahlekelwa ithemba, baphuthe umhlalaphansi. Lona umqondo wokulungisa futhi ukwesaba ukushiywa ngaphandle komyeni kukhulu kakhulu kangangokuthi kuchaza kalula ukuthandwa kwezincwadi ezingaba ngu-100 no-1 indlela yokushada .
Ukwesaba 6. Ukuguga.
Ukwesaba okunenhlanhla kakhulu ukwesaba ukuguga, ngoba akunakugwema. Abesifazane benza imizamo eminingi yokuhlala bebancane isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi intsha iyona kuphela into ebalulekile abanayo. Kule altare ukuthi iminyaka eyichithwa ku-salons, futhi izinkulungwane eziningi, ezichithe ngezikhwama ezahlukene, imijovo kanye nezinqubo ziyasebenza.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abantu bathi, owesifazane uyesabeka. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, ngandlela-thile siyazi ukuthi akuwona konke okubi njengoba kungase kubonakale ekuqaleni. Siyakwazi ukulwa nokwesaba kwethu futhi sibanqobe, sikwazi ukuphuma ngesithunzi ezivela ezimweni eziningi, futhi siqeqeshwe ukunqoba noma yikuphi ubunzima. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukuvumelana namadoda, ngokuba owesifazane ungcono.