Isiqondiso - eNtshonalanga
Lesi simo, okuthiwa "ukufuduka komshado wesifazane", saqaphelwa ochwepheshe phakathi nawo-1990. Ngemuva kokuthi "Ikhonti Lensimbi" lahleka ngodumo, abesifazane abaningi babe nethuba langempela lokufika ezweni lemilingo lamaphupho abo ngaphansi kwegama elivamile Lwamanye amazwe. Umcabango wethu wawumelelwe imifula yobisi kanye nama-puddles, lapho kukhona khona izindlu ezimhlophe ezakhiwe izikhulu ezinhle nezikhulu. Sasiyazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi "kukhona" okungcono. Ukuphakama izinga lokuphila, imithetho engaphendukiyo, ukuhlanza emigwaqweni, ama-hamburgers angcono kakhulu. Futhi bebazi ngokuqinisekile: "lapha" - abesifazane abakhulu kakhulu. Kuhle, unomusa, uzwela, umnotho futhi kubaluleke kakhulu - uyakwazi ukubonga. I-soul Slavic engaqondakaliyo ngokushintshaniswa nekhwalithi yasentshonalanga yokuphila - lokhu kushintshaniswa kwakubhekwa yizo zombili izinhlangothi ukuba zithembeke. Kodwa kwacaca ukuthi ukubonisana komunye nomunye emaceleni omabili kwendwangu yangaphambili bekhanga kakhulu futhi bebona ukuthi inhlalakahle yamadoda abo isekelwe emnothweni, emngceleni we-avarice, futhi ayamukelekile ukuphonsa imali endaweni yayo. Izikhulu zakwamanye amazwe zazibuza ukuthi kungani umfazi engaphili kahle ngenjabulo, ekutholeni indlu entsha insimbi, isiqandisisi nomshini wokuhlanza: ingabe akakunqatshelwe konke lokhu ezweni lakhe elihluphekile? Umlando wokuqala wokuzihlukanisa, izintatheli zansuku zonke mayelana nokuhlukanisa okulimazayo, ukwehluleka kwabathuthele emisebenzini, abaphangi bomshado, izakhiwo zobugebengu ekuthengiseni abantu ngokuthungathwa njengesichotho ... Sabe sithembeka ngokwengeziwe, sanele ngokwanele, saqala ukuhamba phesheya futhi sixoxisana nabo "njengabangani baseMartians , kodwa njengabalingani bebhizinisi futhi nje kumane uxhumano oluhle kumathengi e-intanethi, nakho konke lokhu ukuze maduzane ushade nomuntu owezinye izizwe ocebile. "I-Interdevochek" iye yaba encane, nakuba ukugeleza kwamaklayenti kuma-ejensi womshado wamazwe ngamazwe kuye kwahlala iminyaka eminingi. Indlela yokushada ngempela umfokazi - hhayi abaningi abakulungele ukuphendula lo mbuzo.
Futhi ekuqaleni konyaka uNgqongqoshe Wezobulungiswa wase-Ukraine uMykola Onischuk, ebhekisela emibhalweni yeminyango yokubhalisa, ubhala ukuthambekela: yonke imishado engu-30 ebhaliswe e-Ukraine iphetha phakathi kwabantu bakithi nabangaphandle. Ngisho noma sicabangela izakhamizi zamazwe e-CIS - izibalo zisamangalisa. Futhi, njengoba ngatshelwa eHhovisi Likahulumeni Olukhulu LaseKiev, ngobuningi balo mbhangqwana, umfokazi ungumkhwenyana. "Thatha amantombazane ethu ..." - wabubula isisebenzi, wangitshela izibalo.
Uma sikhuluma ngeminyaka yabashadile abangazi ukuthi bangashada kanjani umfokazi futhi baphupha umshado ojabulisayo, amaqembu amabili avele ngokucacile phakathi kwawo. Amantombazane okuqala - amancane kakhulu, kuphela okuvela ezikoleni eziphakeme: iminyaka engu-22 kuya kwangu-25. Owesibini - omama abanokuhlangenwe nakho, nomshado owodwa noma emibili engaphumeleli ngemuva kwamahlombe abo, ngezinye izikhathi nezingane kanye nemisebenzi eyenziwe kakade - baneminyaka engu-35 ubudala noma ngaphezulu.
Isizathu sogagasi olusha lokufuduka komshado likhona phezulu. Yebo, yebo, igama elibi kunazo zonke lezinhlamvu eziyisithupha, "c" yokugcina. Izikhathi ezinzima zinekhono lokuvuselela izinkolelo ezingapheli kakhulu kithi. Ngisho nokuzi kahle ukuthi "lapho" - izinkinga zabo nokuphila akuyona into ecacile njengoba sake sicabanga, sifisa ukuya endaweni lapho konke kufanele kube ngcono emiphakathini yenkinga. Kalula ngoba "kukhona" akusikho "lapha". Kuhle lapho singekho khona, futhi izikhulu ezinhle ezindabeni zezinganekwane azenzeki kuphela ekupheleni komhlaba, futhi akekho enqabeni engomakhelwane. Ukushiya konke nokushiya kuyindlela elula yokuguqula impilo, futhi inkinga iyisisusa ekuthuthukiseni, esenza sibe nesiphephelo esikhulu ekufinyeleleni imigomo eyayibonakala ingenakwenzeka ngaphambili.
Okokuqala, abesifazane baya phesheya ngezinga eliphakeme lokuphila kunamanje, futhi ngenxa yokuthi bafuna ukushada nomfokazi ocebile. Futhi, okwesibili, bafuna imodeli ehlukene yobuhlobo, isimo sengqondo esihlukile kubo kunalokho abakujwayele ekhaya. Akuyona ingozi ukuthi imishado eminingi yomhlaba wonke iphetha phakathi kwamantombazane amancane namadoda amadala aphakathi. Umfazi osemusha ulindele emshadweni wokuzethemba esikhathini esizayo, okuyinto, ngokombono wakhe, kuphela umuntu omdala oqinile onganikeza. Imicabango enjalo, eqinisweni, ihlotshaniswa nesithombe esihle sikababa - lesi sithombe sidalwe ngokusemthethweni nanoma yimuphi owesifazane.
Futhi yini eyenza izikhulu zasemazweni ngama-limousine amhlophe? Njengamanje, bayeka ukubuka abafazi baseSlavic njengabanini bezindlu abancinci noma isesekeli esihle sokuphuma. Okubaluleke nakakhulu kuzo ezinye izimfanelo zethu - okucacile kakhulu kunamantombazane aseNtshonalanga ngokushada, ukuqondisa emndenini, hhayi emisebenzini. Cishe wonke owesifazane wethu, ukushada nomfokazi, uhlela ukuba nabantwana kulo mshado.
Idatha yangaphandle yomfazi wesikhathi esizayo, noma kunjalo, isabalulekile kubasosha bezinye izizwe - uhlobo lobuhle lobuSlavic aluveli kumfashini hhayi kuphela emasendeni. "Efika e-Ukraine, amadoda aseNtshonalanga masinyane aqaphela ukuthi mangaki amantombazane amahle esinawo. Abesifazane baseYurophu nabaseMelika banomqondo othuthuke kakhulu wobunikazi.
Indoda kulula kakhulu ukuthola umfazi - hhayi nje kuphela enhle, kodwa futhi nomusa, othandekayo, ohlakaniphile. Ubuncane bakhe ibhonasi engeziwe endaweni enokuncintisana kakhulu. " Ngokusho kuka-Anastasia, osomabhizinisi abaningi baseNtshonalanga bathi bayavuma ukuqhuba ibhizinisi ne-Ukraine, ngaphansi kwesimo sezomnotho esingazinzile manje, kuphela ngoba bathola umfazi lapha. Ngakho abashadisi bezokuthunyelwa kwamanye amazwe benza umsebenzi omuhle kanye nesithombe samazwe ngamazwe - kunzima futhi kuyinzuzo ebalulekile.
Inkinga yokulindela
Imibono ye-Iridescent mayelana nokuphila okusha, okuyinto, kubonakala ngathi, kufanele ibe ngcono ngoba nje intsha, lapho kuthuthela kwamanye amazwe kuvame ukuphulwa - hhayi "mayelana nokuphila", njengalowo mkhumbi wothando, kodwa mayelana nokuhlukana kwamasiko nokungokwengqondo phakathi kwamazwe ethu . Izinkinga, njengoba kunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuqhubeka kokufaneleka.
Sitshele ukuthi esinye sezikhuthazo besifazane ukushada nabantu bezinye izizwe yisifiso sobudlelwane obuhlukile kakhulu kunokwesiko emasiko ethu. Ngenxa yokunqoba kwamakhosikazi, ukulingana kwangempela kanye nokungalingani kwamadoda nabesifazane eNtshonalanga kubonakaliswe ngokomthetho kuphela, kepha futhi nasezingeni elivamile: "umyeni" wezinzalamizi ekhanda lonke, kufakwa esikhundleni sobudlelwane, bobabili bafuna ukucabangela izifiso zombili abalingani. Isibonelo, ngenxa yemikhankaso eminingi yokulwa nodlame lwasemakhaya, amadoda aseMelika naseYurophu cishe afunde ukuthi uma owesifazane ethi "cha" - lokho kusho "cha." Ngisho nokungabaza nokungabaza kuhunyushwa ngokuthi "cha." Ngokwenza njalo, lokhu kungaholela esimweni: umyeni nje akangena ekamelweni lomkakhe, uma evala umnyango ebusuku. Ngakusasa ekuseni - ukuphazamiseka kokubili: "Kungani ungafiki kimi?" - "Kodwa uvale umnyango, ngingangena kanjani? "Futhi, amakhosikazi amaningi ase-Ukraine agxila umkhuba womyeni wakhe wokumbuza imibono nokuba nesithakazelo ekukhethweni kwakhe: intombazane ikhulume ngokuqinile" ukunquma indoda ", ayikwazi njalo ukuthi iyini ngempela into ayifunayo, nokuthi iveza izifiso zakhe ngokuzwakalayo - kuvunyelwe. Ngokuvamile, abaseYurophu kanye nabaseMelika ikakhulukazi bayakwazi futhi bazimisele ukukhuluma ngemizwa futhi baxoxisane ngobuhlobo. Uma umlingani wakho okhethiwe eye wabhekana nesahlukaniso esiyinkimbinkimbi, mhlawumbe naye wasebenza ngale nkinga ngumbhali futhi manje uyazi ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani ngalezo zinto ngaphambi kokuholela ekuweleni komndeni.
Umphefumulo omkhulu wama-Slavic awuhambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nesifiso esihlosekile sokuvikela isikhala somuntu siqu , amaMelika ahluke kakhulu (phakathi kwabe-Yurophu, isiNgisi, amaJalimane namaScandinavians, futhi ngezinga elincane isiFulentshi nabamele abantu baseningizimu baziphatha kanjalo). Umphakathi lapho uhlelwe kahle kangangokuthi umuntu ngamunye uhlala ngokwehlukana, eqapha ngokucophelela ukungahambi kahle kwempilo yakhe yangasese. Omunye angakwazi ukungena, angikwenzi. Ngiyakwazisa ukulula nokusheshisa ebuhlotsheni. " Ngisho embuthanweni wabantu abaseduze akuyona into engavamile ukuhlasela insimu yomuntu ngamunye - yingakho imindeni yabantwana nabazali ihlala ngokuhlukile, izingxabano phakathi "nomalokazana" kanye "nomkhwekazi" zivela ngokungajwayelekile, kanti izindlalifa ezikhulile "zixoshwa esidlekeni" lapho sezikhulile, uma isifiso senkululeko singasuki ngaphambi kwabo. Omunye uzobingelelisa ubuhlobo obunjalo bokuxhumana: njengoba uphumelele kakhulu, othile uzothatha isinqumo sokuthi lesi sidlo asinakho ukufudumala nokuphefumula. Kodwa ubudlelwane obuningi ngokuvamile obamukelekile emphakathini njengesimo sezulu: ngeke ukwazi ukuguqulwa, ungakwazi ukuzivumelanisa kuphela.
Emindenini yaseNtshonalanga akusikho "impi" phakathi kwezihlobo, kuhlanganise nabangaphambili abashadile: ipaki entsha "yabadala" bayakujabulela ukuhlangana, bachithe isikhathi nabantwana, njll - isibonelo esinjalo sezazi zomndeni okuthiwa i-polynuclearny. Akukho mhawu kulezi zimo azivuki - ngoba zonke izinkinga sezixoxwe futhi zasebenza isikhathi eside, akekho ogcina amatshe esifubeni sakhe. "5" kungasenza sihlobanise "nemishado yamahhala", lapho nathi singenangqondo.
Amaforamu amakhosikazi agcwele izikhalazo mayelana ne-avarice yabasosha bezinye izizwe: abafazi bethu abahambisani nekhanda nokuthi kungani umcebo uhambisana nokulondoloza okungenakwenzeka. Kungani, uma imali yomyeni ingamakhulu ayizinkulungwane zamaRandi ngonyaka, akakwazi ukumnika izinkulungwane ezinhlanu okwamanje? Lokhu ngisho nangemva kokuba umyeni eminwe yakhe echaza ukuthi yikuphi ngempela la mawaka ayizinkulungwane - izintela, izikweletu nokunye okunye. Ngokuvamile abashadikazi babhekene neqiniso lokuthi umyeni ophumelelayo akafuni ukuhola indlela evumelana ngayo (ngokubheka owesifazane) esimweni sakhe. Omunye wala maqhawe wencwadi yamazwe omhlaba washada nomdayisi waseNorway ohloniphekile futhi washaqeka ngempela ukuthi umyeni wakhe uthanda ukuhola indlela yokuphila yaseSpartan, ahlale endlini elula yokhuni enezinto ezincane ezidingekayo futhi asebenzise isikhathi esiningi ejimini.
I-Ukraine ayiyona iYurophu?
Sinezihlobo ezinhle futhi ezinomusa zase-Ukraine, kunokuba siqhube umyeni ukuba abe yi-stupor. Ukubala abaseYurophu abaqondi isifiso sethu namandla ethu okuphila ngaphandle kwezinto zethu: "Kuphi izimoto zokunethezeka ezivela emagcekeni ase Khrushchev?" Kungani uhlala efulethini elinjalo elinokunethezeka futhi uhileleke emalini amakhulu, uhlela umshado noma omunye umkhosi? "I-Skaryna, eNtshonalanga ikhetha ukuhlala ngokuthobeka futhi ingenasisekelo:" Amabhizinisi aseNtshonalanga athi amadolobha anomsindo futhi ajabule njengeMoscow neKiev afanelekile ngokuphelele ukuze basebenzise lapho intsha - ngesikhathi esihloniphekile kakhulu bakhetha izindawo ezincane zokuhlala ezihlala emadolobheni. " Abafazi bezinye izizwe baphinde baphazamiseke ngokuthi "abantu bayothini?" - bahlolisisa zonke izihlobo nomakhelwane abagcinwe emadolobheni amancane kuphela.
Ngokuqondene nomnotho ovelele, lapho abafazi base-Ukraine bephuthumayo khona ukumangala amadoda abo angaphandle, eNtshonalanga kuhlale kuphazamisa: ngenxa yokuthuthukiswa kobuchwepheshe, ukugcina indlu kudinga umzamo omncane. Kungani udala ubunzima ngokwabo, bese ubaqinezela ngesibindi uma zonke izinkinga zasemakhaya zingaxazululwa ngokucindezela izinkinobho ezimbalwa?
Kunoma yikuphi, ngisho noma abashade bekusasa benesikhathi sokwazi, ukuvakashela, ukujwayela izihlobo nabangani - cishe ngonyaka ngemva kokuhamba, bazokwazi ukuvumelanisa nesimo esisha. Futhi iphuzu lapha alikho emkhakheni wolimi (bonke ochwepheshe bathi ngenye inkinga inkinga encane kunazo zonke kungenzeka), kodwa endaweni ehluke kakhulu, ngezimiso ezahlukene, amasiko, imikhuba, isigqi sokuphila. Lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi engenakugwenywa, kufanele nje ulinde, ungapheli ukuphuthuma, futhi ungasheshi ukukhipha i-suitcase yakho engakabonakali kanye nekhaya lakho, njengabantu abaningi abasha abangapheli. Ngisho noma izwe libonakala liseduze ne-Ukraine - akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle kwesikhathi sokuzivumelanisa. U-Eugenia, owashada ePoland, wangivuma kimi ukuthi izinyanga eziyisithupha zokuqala kwakunzima ukubekezela: Angizange ngikuqonde ukuthi ngenzani lapha nokuthi ngingaphi. Kodwa-ke, ngokumangazayo, ngisizwa izihlobo nabangane ezintsha - ePoland baphathwa kahle nabase-Ukraine, ngakho baxoxa nami ngomusa kakhulu.
Uma sibheka ukuthi zingaki zalezi zinkinga ezivame ukubheka imishado yamasiko ahlukene, asiseyona iYurophu kakhulu njengoba sifuna ukubonakala. Ngakho-ke siyakhonyana ngokungazelelwe. Mhlawumbe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho sekuphelile inkinga, futhi ukuhlanganiswa okuphawulekayo kuzokwenzeka hhayi kuphela emifutshweni, kodwa ezingqondweni, sizokwazi ukubona hhayi abafokazi, kodwa nje abantu abathandekayo nabalungile. Ngoba umkhuba ubonisa ukuthi leyo mishado yilabo abashadile abahlukumezekayo emkhatsini womshado futhi ababukeli kuzo zonke izikhala phakathi kobudlelwane. Kodwa kulokhu, mhlawumbe, akusizi ukukhuluma ngomkhuba: kungukuphila kuphela.