Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi owesifazane oqinile akadingi ukuzwela nokukhathalela. Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. Ufuna futhi ukuthola uthando, akavumelanga nje ukuphumula. Ngakho-ke, akakwazi ukubonisa imizwa kumfana futhi enze njengowesifazane owazi ukuthi angayenza kanjani, onguchwepheshe wokudlala ngothando nokukhohlisa.
Umbuzo wukuthi owesifazane oqinile angathola yini uthando lwakhe, izinkathazo eziningikazi ezisetshenziselwa ukuphila impilo eyedwa, kodwa angafuni ukuthi lokhu kwenzeke kuze kube phakade. Ngakho-ke, singaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi uthando olunamandla lwamantombazane anjalo luhlangene.
Yebo, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi uthando lwabo luhlale luqinile. Laba besifazane abakucabangi lutho. Ngakho-ke, uma bewuthanda ngempela, bathanda kabi futhi ngenhliziyo yabo yonke. Kodwa lolu thando, ngesizathu esithile, aluhlali ngaso sonke isikhathi lubongwa ngabantu. Yini engalungile ngalesi wesifazane nokuthi ungayilungisa kanjani? Okokuqala, intombazane enjalo ayikwazi ukuvumela umfana ukuba abe indoda yangempela. Akenzanga ngenhloso. Intombazane enamandla yayisetshenziselwa ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga ngokwayo. Akalindeli lo mfana ukuba athole isikhathi futhi afisa ukumenza okuthile. Ngisho noma efuna futhi enethuba lokwenza okuthile, owesifazane kakade umane akawuboni. Akazami ukuthola isikhathi sokusiza isoka lakhe. Lo wesifazane uyazi ukuthi uzokwenza konke okusemandleni akhe. Yiqiniso, ngezindlela eziningi uqinisile, amadoda kuphela abathandi lokhu. Bafuna ukuba ngabaqaphi nabasindisi. Futhi uma intombazane engayidingi lokhu nhlobo, bayesabisa futhi bayashukunyiswa ukuziphatha okunjalo. Iveza ukwehlisa ubunzima kubantu. Ngakho-ke, la madoda ayazi futhi azama ukugwema amantombazane anjalo. Abafuni owesifazane oseduze nabo ukuba azenzele konke futhi angcono kunabo. Uma lo mfana eneliseke ngokuphelele ngalesi simo, akukho okuhle kulokhu okunye. Cishe, le nsizwa ngu-Alphonse kanye ne-rag. Uyathanda uma lona wesifazane emnakekela futhi exazulula zonke izinkinga. Akusizi ngalutho ukwakha ubudlelwane nabantu abanjalo ngoba basebenzisa abesifazane abanamandla.
Ukuze uthole uthando nendoda evamile, owesifazane kufanele akhumbule ukuthi ubuthakathaka futhi usengozini. Ungayeki ukugibela amahhashi futhi uhambe ezindlini ezivuthayo. Lona ngumklomelo wamadoda futhi kuphela. Intombazane kufanele yamukele kahle imizimba yazo futhi yenza sengathi ayengeke iphumelele ngaphandle kosizo lomuntu.
Enye inkinga yabesifazane abanamandla - njalo bathatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Amantombazane anjalo awadabuki nemizwelo, kodwa nje enza okufunayo. Kodwa, ngeshwa, lokhu akusikho njalo kuholela ekupheleni okuhle. Ngokuvamile, ebuhlotsheni zonke izinto zenzeka ngenye indlela. Uma le ntombazane iqala ukubiza futhi ibhale, owokuqala uvuma ngothando futhi uphakamisa ukuqala ukuhlangana, lo muntu, futhi, uzizwa ephungulwe. Unomqondo wokuthi konke kunqunywa ngaye. Futhi laba bantu abathandi kakhulu. Yingakho bebahlupha laba besifazane bese bezama ukuhlakulela ubudlelwano nabo. Ngokuvamile kaningikazikazi onamandla, abafana abamboni intombazane, kodwa umngane. Ngeshwa, abesifazane ngokwabo bawacindezela emicabangweni enjalo. Baziphatha njengabantu ngokuvamile abazenzayo. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane abanamandla bayakwazi ukuphuza, bangafunga ngomlingani, baxoxisane nabesifazane abayisiphukuphuku, bengathandi ukukhuluma ngezingubo nezimonyo. Bahlale bethi konke kulungile ebusweni futhi abangeke bakhathazeke ngokukhethekile ngengqondo yomuntu. Ngendlela, iqiniso lokuthi amantombazane anjalo awanandaba nezembatho akusho ukuthi abazi ukuthi bangakhetha kanjani izinto ezinhle futhi bagqoke kahle. Kungokuthi abafazi abanjalo abakhulumi ngalokhu njalo, abafaki ukubonakala kwabo ekhanda konke.
Amantombazane anjalo "abangane" abakhulu futhi "abafowethu". Nabo ungaphuza ubhiya, xoxani amantombazane futhi ningakhathazeki ukuthi le ndoda ngeke iqonde. Kodwa yilokhu ukuqonda okuholela eqinisweni lokuthi le ntombazane ayisaboni into yokuhawukela. Uba ngumuntu wakhe futhi lo mbono onzima kakhulu ukuwuqonda. Ngakho-ke, uma owesifazane oqinile ecasulwa ukuthi abafana bamphatha njengomfowabo, kufanele afunde ukusabela ezintweni ezithile ezifanelwe nentombazane. Yiqiniso, akufanele udlale le midlalo bese uphazamiseka ngegama ngalinye. Kodwa, futhi akudingeki ukuba uhleke ngokuhleka ngamahlaya, amantombazane ahlambalaza, ahlale ekhuluma ngokuthi abesifazane abanalo ubuchopho, futhi amadoda ajwayelekile kuphela angaqonda konke, futhi azibiza ngokuthi umfana. Uma le ntombazane ingenabesifazane, bayomdumisa njengomngane, kodwa ngeke bambone njengomfazi ongase abe ngumfazi. Ngoba ukushada nomngani wakho kungalungile futhi akuvamile. Ngokufanayo, le micabango ihlezi ngaphansi kokubheka abantu abasha. Yingakho, lapho esebenzelana nabantu abasha, owesifazane kudingeka azivimbele yena futhi angazivumeli ukuba azikhethele yena ngokwakhe futhi aziphathe njengabafana. Yiqiniso, okokuqala kuyoba nzima, kepha, ngesikhathi, umuntu ngamunye uyajwayele futhi kakade akaqapheli lokho okuye kwadingeka kulawulwe njalo. Ngendlela, uma kudingeke uqaphele ukuthi akekho owenza ukuba abesifazane abaqinile bakwazi ukuziguqula noma ukugqoka imaski. Kulula, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukuqonda ukuthi ungabonisaphi amandla akho, futhi kuphi - ubuthakathaka. Ama-nature ngemvelo athola i-intuition, okudingeka ifunde kuphela ukuthi ingayisebenzisa kanjani. Uma uqaphela futhi uzilalele, ubukele amadoda, ungaqonda ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi udinga ukubonisa ubuthakathaka nobumnene, futhi uma kufaneleka ukukhumbula amandla akho omlingiswa nokukhuthazela.
Amadoda athande labo abangabenza balwe futhi banqobe, kodwa abasoze baphelelwa enkingeni futhi bazokwazi ukuzivikela ezinkingeni eziningi ngokuhlakanipha nokuthanda kwabo. Amandla nobuthakathaka, ubukhulu besilisa nobufazi, ukuzola nokuzwelana kufanele kuvumelaniswe owesifazane ngokuvumelana. Uma kukhona okulahlekile, la madoda ayazizwa futhi amaphesenti azothandana nentombazane enjalo isuke encane futhi encane. Yingakho owesifazane oqinile kudingeka athole amandla nokuhlakanipha ngaphakathi kwakhe ukuze afunde ukuthi angabuthakathaka kanjani futhi abe ngowesifazane, njenganoma iyiphi indoda yangempela idinga.