Uma ukukhohlisa komuntu kungakabi nesimo sengqondo sokubekezela, manje, umuntu oguqukile ulahlwa yilapho umphakathi.
Ngisho nengxenye yekhulu leminyaka edlule, ukuhlukumezeka kwamadoda kwakungeke kukhulunywe ngakho. Wonke umuntu wayazi ngalokhu, kodwa bathula, babekezelela futhi bamukela isimo njengoba kunjalo. Imishado ayizange ichithe ngakwesokunene nangakwesobunxele ngenxa yokuthi le ndoda yayingathembeki engxenyeni yakhe yesibili.
Manje izinto zihlukile. Mayelana nokungathembeki, memeze kuzo zonke izingxenyana, ungabi nalokhu ngokuqondene nomuntu siqu futhi obuseduze. Okungafanele ukulethwa enkantolo yomphakathi.
Abesifazane ngaso sonke isikhathi babesaba ukuhlukunyezwa kwamadoda. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi bahlale bekulungele ukukholelwa okusemandleni. Kodwa konke okufanayo: kholwa-ungakholelwa, futhi lokhu kwesaba kuphakama ngokushesha, kanye nokuzwa okuvelayo. Kukhona uthando - kukhona ukwesaba ukukhashelwa. Kubonakala ukuthi, kusukela ekuqaleni, owesifazane uqala ukuzihlela ngokwengqondo ethile. Lokhu bekungeke kugwenywe uma isimo sengqondo esifanele sokungathembeki komuntu sase siqalile emphakathini. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele sivuselele futhi sibuyele ezikhathini zokhokho bethu. Thola lokhu okuyiqiniso njengendaba. Akunakwenzeka! Ukuphatha ngokufanele ukuhlukumezeka kwabantu - kuvele nje ukuba nemikhakha engokwengqondo ezosindisa i-psyche yabesifazane ekuhluphekeni okungadingekile, okuvelele. Kudingekile ukuthi ufunde ngendlela efanele, usabele futhi ulawule ngokwanele noma yikuphi inkinga, ngisho nakwezinye izinto ezinengqondo. Vumelana ukuthi isimo sengqondo esifanele kunoma yikuphi ubuciko bokuphila kwethu kukuvumela ukuba ubuke ngokucophelela isimo futhi uthathe izinqumo ezibandayo ezingekho elula. Konke mayelana nokungafundi kahle kwengqondo yethu, yingakho isimo sengqondo sokungathembeki engqondweni yethu kuyisimo esiyinkimbinkimbi semicabango kanye nezindlela ezimbalwa zokulwa kulokhu.
Isithunzi somuntu ekukhakheni asihlupheki, okungenani, ngakho-ke bonke abameleli benkolelo yokwenza ucansi enamandla bayakholelwa. Futhi abesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, bayaqiniseka ukuthi banyathelwa, bahlazeka futhi bacasulwa ekujuleni komphefumulo ngalesi sinyathelo. Abasilisa abaningi abagijimela ukushiya ngemuva kwesenzo sokungathembeki, baqinisekisa iqembu elimele ukuthi namanje bayamthanda kakhulu futhi bazizwa benethuba lokuthuthumela. Abanye abantu bakwazi ukugqugquzela owesifazane, ukuthi ngale ndlela wamnika inhlonipho ejulile. Uchaza lokhu ngokuthi akafuni ukuphoqelela ukusondelana ngesikhathi esagula, noma engakalungi. Isizathu singatholakala ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lapha konke kuxhomeke ekuhlakanipheni komuntu. Ngakho, kubonakala sengathi basitshela ukuthi akukho ukuhlazeka. Amadoda isithembu ngokwemvelo. Ngakho ukungathembeki besilisa.
Uma umuntu engathandeki kuwe, akusizi ngalutho, bahlupheka. Sakhuluma futhi sahlakazeka ngezindlela ezihlukene, endleleni esithatha into engalungile, kodwa konke okuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo.
Uma umuntu ethandekayo kuwe, futhi ungafuni ukuhlukanisa naye, thatha isimo sengqondo sokulinda nokubona, esiwusizo kokubili. Ngalesi sikhathi, kungaba yedwa noma ngosizo lochwepheshe (owemukelwa), kufanele uvuselele isimo sengqondo esifanele ngokuphathelene nokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu. Lapho, uyini "isimo sengqondo esifanele" - uzozikhethela wena kuphela futhi unqume zonke izindlela zokulungisa.
Ukulungiswa okuncane kuphela: kuyadingeka ukuba wenze kusukela ekubukeni kothando olukhulu ngokwakho.
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