Yiqiniso, zonke izingane ziyazi ukuthi ukuphuza utshwala nokubhema ugwayi kuyingozi empilweni. Kodwa bambalwa abantu abazochaza ukuthi ingozi iyini. Abafundi nsuku zonke baba yizibuko lapho abantu abadala bephuza khona utshwala, umusi, ezikrinini zethelevishini cishe zonke ifilimu zibonisa utshwala kanye nokubhema okufanayo.
Akuyona nje kuphela ingane efuna ukuzibiza njengomuntu osekhulile futhi uzizwe njengomuntu omdala, imlingisa, iqala ukuphuza nokubhema. Ngakho-ke futhi ezinganeni kukhona ukuxoshwa kwengqondo ngenxa yokwaziswa okuphikisanayo ngokubhema nokuphuza utshwala. Futhi yilesi esinye isizathu sokuba izingane zesikole zizame utshwala nogwayi. Bayazibuza ukuthi empeleni bayithinta kanjani umzimba.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane yakho ifunde wonke amaqiniso kanye nezinsongo zokusebenzisa izinto ezilimazayo. Ungamhlukumezi noma usongele ingane yakho. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi abazali abaningi banqabela okuthile okufanele bakwenze, izingane zifuna ukuzenza. Kubonakala ukuthi izingane eziningi eziphuza utshwala noma ezibheka abazali abaqine kakhulu abangazikhulumi ngalezi zindlela ezimbi, kodwa bavele benqabe.
Ngakho-ke, lesi sithelo esinqatshelwe siba mnandi ikakhulukazi ezinganeni, futhi zizama ukubhema nokuphuza ngaphandle kwendlu, ngazo zonke izindlela zifihla kubazali bazo.
Kungcono uma ukhuluma ngokuthula nomntanakho ngokulimala kokuphuza utshwala nokubhema futhi izwi lakho ngeke libe "ngokungenakwenzeka." Izingane zakho kufanele zikwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukukhuluma njalo ngalezi zikhathi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, futhi ngeke uzijezise noma uzihlambalaze.
Okokuqala, ngesikhathi ingxoxo engeke ibe yinto ephoqelekile futhi engadingekile mayelana nezingozi zotshwala nogwayi, kudingeka utshele ukuthi utshwala nogwayi. Khona-ke kufanele kuchazwe ukuthi abanye abantu baphatheka kabi utshwala futhi bashunqisa ugwayi naphezu kokulimaza okuveziwe kwalokhu imikhuba empilweni. Tshela ukuthi noma yimuphi umuthi, ngaphandle kwemikhiqizo yokudla, ebonakale emzimbeni womuntu, ingaba yingozi kakhulu empilweni yomuntu. Okulandelayo, kufanele kukhonjiswe ukuthi le mikhuba emibi ingaholela ekuphukeni okumangalisayo kwemisebenzi yomzimba, ukwehlisa impilo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuholele ekutheni kube nomphumela obulalayo. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, tshela ukuthi uma uqala ukuphuza noma ukubhema, kuyoba nzima ukuqeda lokhu kuncike kwengqondo nangokwenyama.
Ngakho, iseluleko sethu kubazali.
Lapho uneminyaka engu-8, kubalulekile ukuhlala ikakhulukazi ngamaphuzu alandelayo:
- ukudla, utshwala, izidakamizwa kanye nogwayi - lezizinto ezihluke ngokuphelele;
- abantu abadala ngezinye izikhathi bangase baphuze inani elincane lokuphuza utshwala, kanti ingane ayikho, ngoba utshwala lunomthelela omubi ekwakheni ubuchopho nezinye izitho zomzimba wengane;
- abantu abadala bangabhema, kanti izingane azikwazi, njengoba lokhu kungaholela ezifweni eziningi ezihlukene ezinganeni zesikole, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ngoba izingane azikhuli emigqumeni;
Izidakamizwa zibhubhisa umzimba womuntu, ngakho-ke abenqatshelwe ukudla nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Ngineminyaka engu-11:
- ulwazi mayelana nezingozi zotshwala, izidakamizwa nokubhema kufanele zandise futhi zibe nzima kakhulu;
- kudingekile ukucaphuna amaqiniso angenakuphikiswa ngendlela yokuxoxisana. Izingane zalesikhathi zidonsa ulwazi futhi aziwamukeli imithetho;
- Sitshele ukuthi abanye abantu abadala bancike ekutheni abanesifo sengqondo emikhuba emibi;
- ukusetshenziswa kotshwala noma ugwayi kuholela ekulimaleni okukhulu emaphashini, ebuchosheni, esibindi nakwezinye izitho.
Amanye amathiphu ukuvikela ingane emikhuba emibi:
1. Abazali kufanele bahlanganyele kakhulu ekuphileni kwezingane zabo. Kulokhu, amathuba okuba izingane eziwela ezimweni ezingathandeki ziyancipha. Abantu abadala badinga ukwazi bonke abangane bezingane zabo, lapho bahamba khona nokuthi benzani. Zama ukubamema ekhaya kaningi. Vumela badlale kangcono ekhaya ngaphansi kokuqondisa kwakho.
Sebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe nezingane. Khuluma ngezintshisekelo zabo, babasekele kunoma yiziphi izinyathelo.
3. Njalo usize izingane ngesikhathi sokucela kuqala. Ingane kufanele izwe ukubaluleka kwayo.
4. Nikeza ingane yakho ingxenye ethile yezemidlalo noma udlale imidlalo yemidlalo ngokwakho. Abantwana besikole, abahlale behlanganyela okuthile, banesikhathi esincane namandla okubhema noma ukuphuza utshwala.
5. Ukunika amandla abasha ngemisebenzi yasekhaya noma i-dacha. Imisebenzi ivumela ukuba bazizwe beyingxenye yomndeni futhi babone ukubaluleka kwalokho abakwenzayo. Izingane ezinomqondo wokubaluleka kwazo, ezimweni ezingavamile, ziqala ukuphuza nokubhema.
6. Vikela izingane ekubukeni amabhayisikobho nezinhlelo, lapho abantu abadala kanye, ikakhulukazi, intsha ishaya futhi iphuza utshwala.
7. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungalokothi uphuze noma ubheme phambi kwezingane zakho. Emva kwakho konke, iningi labo balingisa.
Manje uyazi ukuthi ungatshela kanjani ingane ukuthi utshwala, izidakamizwa nokubhema kuyingozi. Sithemba ukuthi inkambo yethu, lapho sikhuluma khona ngezici ezikhethekile zosizo olunzulu emindenini lapho abantwana basebenzisa utshwala, izidakamizwa, kuzokusiza ukuba ugweme le nkinga embi.