Ubuhlobo buyashintsha kanjani emva kocansi obungane?
Inketho eyodwa. Le nsizwa, osanda kuhlangana nayo, ikufezekisa ngazo zonke izindlela ezitholakalayo. Ulalela umuntu wakho nezifiso zakho, ukukhalipha, okuthakazelisayo kuye. Ukuziphatha kwakhe okuphelele kukukwenza ucabange ukuthi le ndoda kufanele ibe nawe. Kodwa, kufanelekile ukuyivumela emzimbeni wakho, ukuba nobulili naye, ukuthi isikhulu sakho esihle sishabalale kanjani. Uhlala unomuzwa wokuthi mhlawumbe yonke indaba owaphuphayo, noma unenkinga ethile.
Wake wahlangana nabantu abanjalo? Baneba negama - i-pikapery. Iphuzu elilodwa lokuphila kwabo ukufeza indawo yowesifazane onentshisekelo. Futhi, ngokushesha nje lapho ethola lokho akufunayo - ubulili - akanalo lutho nawe eduze kwakho. Futhi akukhona ngawe nhlobo. Ungaba ngowesifazane ongcono kunabo bonke abantu abaphuphayo, kodwa ngeke uphinde ufundise iphepheni.
Ungakugwema kanjani ukuthuthukiswa okunjalo kobuhlobo? Lo mbuzo kunzima ukuphendula, ngoba ukubekezela kwabaculi be-pick-up kunemingcele. Futhi wena, ngicabanga, futhi akuyona intokazi yensimbi.
Option ezimbili. Ngemuva kokuya ocansini, indoda ayihambanga noma kuphi, ngandlela-thile, ayidabuli empilweni yakho. Kodwa, ubuhlobo abanikeza lona, awuthandi neze. Uhlangana kuphela uma kulula. Imihlangano yakho incishisiwe ibe ukuvakashelwa kokuvinjelwa endaweni yokudlela, bese iya ocansini. Akafisi ukukuvumela empilweni yakhe, yebo, nokuthi uthini, akanandaba nesakho. Uyiyona ithoyizi elihle nje, elithokozisa ngayo ukulala naye. Ngokwemvelo, angeke kube khona inkulumo yanoma yiluphi uhlobo lothando.
Yini elindele lobu buhlobo? Uma ungewona i-masochist, khona-ke iphuzu elilodwa ukuyeka lobudlelwane. Kodwa, uma imibono yakho ihambisana - wena, kanye nokuthi udinga nje umlingani wezocansi, khona-ke le ndlela izokufanelana kokubili.
Ukuqaphela kanjani indoda edinga ubulili kuphela, ngaphandle kobuhlobo obunzima? Qaphela ngokwengeziwe ukuthi uthini nokuthi ukhuluma kanjani; indlela aziphatha ngayo. Indoda engakuphatheli njengomngane wokuphila ngeke ivumele ukuhlasela kwakho kwesikhala sakhe siqu.
Indlela yesithathu. Kunomthetho - "ubulili buhlanganisa ndawonye." Emva kocansi, ubuhlobo bakho buyavumelana futhi bujabulise. Mhlawumbe, ukuthandana obuseduze, ngoba uyisisusa sokwahlukana okungathí sina. Kule nkinga, ungaqala ukujabula, ngoba uma ubule ndawonye futhi ungenalo ucansi, cabanga nje ukuthi kungakanani ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho emva kokusondelana? Kuthulwe?
Futhi-ke, kufanelekile ukugcina lokho onayo kakade. Futhi uqale usebenze ebuhlotsheni bakho futhi uthuthukise kubo.
Mhlawumbe, ukuphendula lo mbuzo: "Ubuhlobo buyashintsha kanjani emva kocansi obusondelene?" - akuzona zonke izinketho ezithathwe ku-akhawunti. Futhi kufanelekile ukubuza umbuzo onjalo, ukungena esiteji esisha sobudlelwano nomuntu? Uma unesifiso sokungena esondelene naye, ke lo muntu ufanelwe ukuthembela kwakho nesimo sakho.
Phila ngesimiso - "ungalokothi uzisole ngesenzo". Ukuphila, komunye wethu, kuyedwa. Ungazishiyi, izintandokazi zakho, izikhathi ezingakhohlwa futhi ezijabulisayo, noma ngabe ubulili ubusuku obulodwa.
Futhi uma ubuhlobo bobulili bubushintshile kakhulu, ungazitshele ukuthi ungalindelekile futhi uyisiphukuphuku. Thatha futhi uzame esikhathini esizayo, mhlawumbe ungenzi amaphakctures anjalo.
Ukuphila kwakungabonakali kuhle kakhulu, uma, okungenani ngezikhathi ezithile, asiyikukhala nokudabuka.