Sakhetha, basikhetha
Ubani "amagundane grey"? Lawa angamantombazane angakaze aphumelele, ahola indlela ephilile futhi ejwayelekile yokuphila. Ngakho-ke, izicelo zabo nazo ziphelela ekulula futhi okufanayo. Abadingi umfana ozocaphuna i-Kant, agijimele eTibet bese eqa i-sparachute. Amantombazane anele ngokwanele ukuthi wayejwayelekile, wasiza umndeni futhi akazange amcasule. Ngokwemvelo, amadoda ajwayelekile, anganikezwa amathalenta akhethekile futhi angabonakali ngento engavamile empilweni yethu, angaphezulu kakhulu. Futhi yonke imidlalo ye-lady-beauty-extreme ngokweqile yayibhekene ncamashi nalaba bantu, futhi babonisa isithakazelo kuye. Kodwa yena ngokwakhe wayenomsindo kakhulu umuntu onjalo. Wayengazizwa ebuhlotsheni obukhethekile obungokomoya naye. Futhi amantombazane afuna ukuphila ukuphila okuqhakazile futhi abe nokuthula okujulile kwangaphakathi, abheka abalingani babo hhayi nje nje, ubaba wezingane kanye nesinkwa sokudla. Bafuna umphefumulo wabo womshado, lowo muntu okhethekile ongeke abe nesithukuthezi futhi enesizungu. Intombazane enjalo isuke ishaqhamuka endleleni yokuphila elinganisiwe neyodwa. Ngokuvamile, laba besifazane bahlelwa ngamadoda, hhayi ngoba baningi kakhulu ngobuhle noma isimo. Cha, umgomo oyinhloko wokukhetha umqondo wokuthi "kufanele ngibe nesithakazelo kuye." Leyo nkosikazi enzima kakhulu ukuthola abantu abangeke bangabi nabo. Bahlala isikhathi eside kakhulu futhi bakhetha ngokucophelela umlingani, ukuze bangazishintshanisi ubudlelwano obungenangqondo. Amantombazane angcono kakhulu ukuba abe yedwa kunanoma ubani. Lokhu kungukuthi, umuntu othile ovela esigabeni esithi "obesabekayo" bangamadoda nabababa abalungile. Kodwa kuye akuzona okwanele ezithakazelisayo. Leyo ntombazane enomfana onjalo ayikho into yokukhuluma ngayo. Futhi laba besifazane badinga izingxoxo ezithakazelisayo njalo. Ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngezinto eziphakeme, abesifazane bavele bome. Awukwazi ukwaneliswa ukubukwa kwe-TV evamile. Badinga okungaphezulu, into abantu abaningi abangenakukunikeza. Yingakho bechitha abantu abade kangaka. Hamba, kusukela ohlangothini kungase kubonakale ukuthi akekho obeka indlebe kumfana onjalo. Akunjalo nhlobo. Ngokushesha masinyane "otshivayut" abantu abasha abangabathandeki kubo, ukuthi abantu abakuzungezile abaziqapheli ngisho nokuzama ukuzama ukuxhumana noyena. Intombazane enjalo ingcono kwi-yoga, ifunda inkaba yendawo ekhona, noma ibhala inkondlo kunokuchitha isikhathi sayo kumfana ongenasithakazelo kuye.
Ngendlela, ungakhohlwa ukuthi amadoda amaningi ayesaba abesifazane abanjalo. Ukubheka izintshisekelo zabo, izifiso namaphupho abo, abafana ngokwabo baqala ukukhubeka phambi kwamantombazane anjalo. Besaba ukuthi bazokhipha nje ubuhlobo obunjalo, ngoba owesifazane onjalo uhlale ehlakaniphile, ehlakaniphile, efundwa kahle, emthonjeni ngemibono ethile futhi engahle abe nesithukuthezi. Ngakho-ke, laba bantu banquma ukuthi kubo ukuphila okunjalo kungaba nzima kakhulu futhi baye ohlangothini. Nakuba ekujuleni komphefumulo abaningi banjengamantombazane akhethekile nalawo angavamile. Kodwa esikhundleni sokukhetha othile ozithandayo, abafana banquma ukuxhuma izimpilo zabo "namagundane aphuzi". Yiqiniso, amantombazane anjalo kulula kakhulu. Badinga kancane kakhulu, bahola impilo ejwayelekile futhi elinganisiwe. Ngabo, ungahlala phambi kwe-TV amahora futhi udlale imidlalo yekhompiyutha, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa i-gyrus noma i-fantasy yakho. Ngamantombazane anjalo kukhululekile kakhulu ukwakha umndeni. Futhi amadoda amaningi adinga lokhu kududuza. UTihoni akalokothi axabane futhi axabane. Babonakala beqondakala kakhulu, nakuba empeleni laba bantu bavame ukuvaliwe. Abayithandi izingxoxo ezinkulu futhi balwa. Kulula ngabo ukuba bathule kunokuba baqale ukucacisa ubuhlobo. Bathi, njengamanye amantombazane, bacabanga ukuthi indoda kufanele iyiqonde ngaphandle kwamazwi, kodwa ngeke isho njalo futhi izothula kangcono kunokudala isimo sokuphikisana.
Kodwa nokho, njengoba kungadabukisi ukuvuma, amadoda amaningi ayenesibindi ngokwanele. Besaba ubunzima obungabuka kubafazi abanombono wabo futhi babheke kuzo zonke izimo. Kusukela emcabangweni wokuthi owesifazane angase agxeke imibono yakhe, akavumelani ukuwacosha, nokunye njalo, la madoda aqala ukuthuthumela. Bafuna ukuzifakaza ngokwezigaba zabo, futhi bangazihlaziyi njalo futhi bazithuthukise ngokwabo ukuze bakwazi ukuphikisana ngokulingana okulingana nomuntu ohlakaniphile. Cha, laba bantu banamuhla abahlambalazayo babonakala bengakulungeli ukuhamba. Kulula ukuthi baxoxe ngokuphila komuntu ozohlala ethule noma avumelane nakho konke. Lezi "amagundane grey". Abavamile ukuhamba endleleni yokuthuthukiswa kwangaphakathi, banesithakazelo ezintweni ezingavamile nokunye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, la masantombazane akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi kubi. Zihle, zomusa, ezomnotho. Ngaphandle kwabesifazane abanjalo umjikelezo wokuphila-umndeni-umsebenzi uvamile futhi ulungile. Abafuni enye, ukuphila okuthakazelisayo. Yebo, kanye nokuphila okuhlala abahlakaniphileyo, abesifazane abakhuluphele, abesifazane abanjalo abayithandi. Yingakho amadoda edonseleka kakhulu ekugumbeni. Ngemuva kokubuka intombazane enokuthula futhi ethobekile, lo mfana uhlala enethemba lokuthi ngeke enze into engavamile, ngeke akwazi ukwenza noma yini ehlakaniphile futhi angeke abe nesithakazelo kumuntu ohlakaniphile, onokudala futhi othakazelisayo kunokhethiweyo wakhe. Ngamantombazane anjalo, amadoda akasoze adinge ukuhlanganisa. Bahlala endaweni ekhululekile, impilo evamile yeningiliyoni ijabule. Bayajabula futhi ngezinkanuko zabo, ngoba bashada futhi bazala izingane. Ngokuvamile, ngokuvamile lezi zintombazane azidingi. Ngakho-ke wonke umuntu ubonakala ejabule futhi ejabulile, lokho kungukuphela kokuphila okungahambisani nabesifazane abafuna ukuthola konke okuthathwe, kunokuba baneliswe ngamahlamvu.
Uma ungathuli
Uma ucabanga ukuthi kungani abantu abathulile beshada ngokushesha, futhi awunjalo, futhi uzama ukuthola okunye uhlobo lokunciphisa - awukwazi ukukwenza. Wonke umuntu uphila impilo yakhe. Ngeke uphile njenge "grey grey". Ngakho-ke, ungazitholi ngokwakho amehlo. Lokhu akusikho izicelo zakho ezivelele, laba bantu abalula banamahloni ngokuphelele futhi abafuni ukwenza noma yini. Futhi akudingeki ukuba ulingane neningi, ngoba awukaze ube yi-gray, ngakho-ke ungabi khona manje. Phila injabulo yonke, ujabulele impilo yakho, futhi ungikholelwe, ngelinye ilanga uzohlangana nendoda ezokwabelana ngezinto ezithandayo futhi ufune ukuphila ukuphila kwakho eduze kwakho. Futhi ngenkathi kungenjalo, yenza lokho okuphuphe ngakho futhi ungakhathazeki. Ukuhlala njengeningi, akusho ukuhlala ulungile.