Kungani izingane zifana nezinganekwane?

Indaba yezinganekwane iyingxenye ebalulekile yobuntwana. Abazali, ngosizo lwezinganekwane, bangasiza ingane ukuba ilele, ngaphezu kwalokho, izindabakwane zinikeza imibono yokuqala mayelana nezwe elibazungezile. Kusemncane ukuthi imodeli eyingqayizivele yendawo yonke yakha, esebenza kuwo wonke ukuphila. Izinganekwane zingasiza ekubhekaneni nezimo ezinzima ekuphileni komntwana noma ukuchaza into engaqondakali. Ingane ibona ukuthi kunezinto ezinjalo zomphakathi ezifana nokuhle nokubi. Isimo sengqondo esiphezulu se-inganekwane sibaluleke kakhulu, ngakho kufanele sigcine kahle.

Kuzo zonke ezinye izinto, izindabakwane zezinganekwane ziveza ngokucacile ukuxhumana phakathi kwengane nabazali bakhe. Yini engase ibe mnandi futhi ibe mnandi kangcono kwengane kunokuchitha isidlo kanye nonina, efunda inganekwane? Futhi uma umama futhi echaza izenzo zeziqhawe, ahlanganyele umbono wakhe noma afunde umbono wengane, ngaleyo ndlela ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa okujabulisayo, lokhu kuzoletha izinzuzo ezinkulu.

Ngomqondo walo, izindabakwanekwane zilula futhi ziyaqondakala, ikakhulukazi abantu, njengoba zakhiwa ngaphezu kwamakhulu eminyaka, zidlula emlonyeni kuya emlonyeni. Ehliziyweni yezinganekwane zonke kukhona ukuphikiswa kokuhle nokubi, ubuwula nokuhlakanipha, ubuhle nobubi, ngakho-ke inganekwane iyisibonelo esihle sezinyathelo zokuqala ekuphileni kwethu. Amatheksthi agcwele zonke izinkomba kanye nokuphindaphinda, ayinganekwane - lokhu kungenye yezizathu ezenza izingane zilandele izindabakwane. Ngokwesibonelo, inganekwane "Kotygoroshko" ngomfana owahlula uSyoka Gorynych. Kodwa kunezintwana eziningi zezinganekwane ezincwadini zezwe. IsiRashiya, isi-Ukrainian, isiFulentshi - konke kusekelwe emlandweni, eminyakeni eminingi, eminingi. Njengengane, ingane ifikela okuthile okuzalwayo futhi iyaqondakala - lena yindlela yabo yokuzimela, ngoba inengozini kakhulu kule minyaka.

Izindabakwanekwane zihle kakhulu futhi kukhona imilingo kuzo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ziyaqondakala futhi zilula, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi zihlale ziyisimangaliso. Njengokuba kungekho ubuhlungu nobubi, futhi uma ikhona, ibuthakathaka futhi ihluleka kalula. Ukuqala ukulalela inganekwane, izingane zivula umnyango emasimini lapho imilingo ihlala khona, kanti izilwane zikwazi ukukhuluma. Elula kangaka ukukholelwa, ungakwazi kalula ukusebenzisa umdlalo, kuhle ukuhlala.

Ekhanda lakhe ingane ihlinzeka izinto, amathoyizi, izilwane, izitshalo ezinabantu abalingiswa abaphilayo, ngoba kubalulekile kuye ukuthi konke ukwesaba nokwethaba kwakhe kuboniswe futhi kube ngumuntu. Izingozi nezinye izinkinga ingane ezivame ukuzihlanganisa nezidonshu noma izilo, eziqine amaqhawe amantombazane kufanele ziphumelele. Ngakho-ke, indaba yezingane, emva kokufundwa yingane noma abazali bayo, inomphumela omuhle wengqondo - inciphisa imizwelo emibi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene.

Ukufunda ngamunye kuyi-session ye-psychotherapy yengane, ngoba umhlaba "omdala" ugcwele izingozi eziningi futhi ingane ivame ukuyesaba. Naphezu kokuthi abazali banakekela ingane, ingane ibuye ibhekene nento entsha futhi ingacaciswanga nsuku zonke, futhi lokhu akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi umqondo wenjabulo nenjabulo. Ngezinye izikhathi ukwesaba nokucindezeleka okuhlangene nakho kudinga indlela yokuphuma, futhi indaba yezinganekwane, ngale ndlela, idlala enye yezindima ezibalulekile. Indaba yezinganekwane ingafundisa ingane ukunqoba ubunzima, ukunqoba izitha, ukungesabi izingozi nethemba lokuhle.

Nakuba umbhalo we-story ulula, kodwa njalo ufundisa kakhulu, kufana nezithombe ezithintekayo. Ingane ingahlakulela ikhono lokuphupha, futhi umcabango uba lucebile. Ngokuqondene nobudala obuncane, ingane inezilinganiso ezithile ezingakuvimbela ukuba ungaboni imizwelo ethile, noma kunjalo ngokobuqiniso bezinganekwane konke okungahle kwenzeke, ukuphupha nokucabanga. Izingane zithanda inganekwane, ngoba indaba inganekwane yinto engokoqobo lapho engazizwa engumntwana ongenakuzivikela, khona-ke uyumuntu okhulayo futhi othuthukayo.

Izindabakwane zikhuluma ngezwe labantu abadala futhi zenziwe ngendlela elula futhi efinyeleleka, ngoba ingane ayikwazi ukuqonda ngokushesha yonke inkohliso ehlakaniphile yezwe "elikhulu," futhi ezindabeni zezinganekwane zivezwe kuhlaka lokumlingo. Ngisho noma emlandweni wezinganekwane umbuzo onzima kangaka njengokubulala, amanga, imali, ukukhwabanisa kuphakama, kulula ukuba izingane zibekezelele uhlobo oluthile lokungabi nabulungisa noma ukukhathazeka, ngoba bayazi ukuthi ngenxa yalokho, okuhle kuzobe kunqoba.