Ngokuvamile, abantu bazama ukunqoba izinkinga zabo ngokwabo, esikhundleni sokuvakashela isifo sengqondo. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nokuntula kolwazi ngesihloko salokho okubizwa ngokuthi "umqondo wezifo zengqondo" kungasisiza. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, singazi ngokwayo, silahlekelwa yithuba lethu lokubuyiselwa ekuhluphekeni kwethu okungokomoya. Ngakho-ke, kunesidingo esingakanani ukubhekana nodokotela we-psychotherapist? Ake sizame ukuthola lokhu.
Okokuqala, udinga ukubhekana nodokotela ezimweni ezinjalo, uma unesifiso esikhulu sokuthuthukisa nokuthuthukisa amakhono akho (umsebenzi, umsebenzi nokunye okunye), ufuna ukushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo noma isimo sengqondo ezintweni, izenzo noma abantu abakuzungezile. Futhi, lochwepheshe uzokusiza ezimweni ezinjalo, uma wena nezenzo zakho ziboshwe ngokungaqiniseki okukhulu kuwe, isimo sengqondo esibi sibe umngane wakho ohlala njalo, uhlale unqotshwa isifiso sokuvala ekhaya futhi, ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukukhala, ukuxhumana kwakho nomndeni kanye nozakwethu umsebenzi wawunzima futhi wesaba kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lo mhlukumezi uyakwazi ukukusiza esimweni, uma ungenandaba nokusebenza ngokuphelele, impilo yakho, izindinganiso zomndeni ziyeke ukukujabulisa, unezinkinga nomyeni wakho, izingane, noma uhlangabezana nezinhlobo ezahlukene zezakhiwo eziphathelene nawe. Uma uwedwa futhi ungasakwazi ukuhlela impilo yakho ngenxa yokuthi amadoda "agijima" kuwe ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, khona-ke udinga ukuxhumana nodokotela we-psychoanalyst.
Okuthakazelisayo futhi, mhlawumbe, okumangalisa kakhulu ukuthi ukwamukelwa kumtholampilo akuhambi nje kuphela ngohlu lwezinkinga ezingenhla, kodwa futhi ezimweni uma ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho okuqhubekayo kwemizwa uye wanda isisindo. Khona-ke ubuza, kodwa akufanele yini uye kumculi wezokudla? Impendulo yethu izoba eqinile futhi ekholisayo, engesiyo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ngokuvamile, iningi labantu liqala ukuhlupheka ngenxa yenkinga ehlobene nokungahambi kahle komzimba emzimbeni futhi bathola ama-kilogram ebonakalayo. Njengomthetho, lokhu kungenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho okunezinzwa eziqinile. Isimo esinjalo, ngokuvamile kaningi kunalokho, sichazwa kalula ukuthi uma umuntu esesimweni sokuphazamiseka kwesaba, uvame kakhulu futhi ufuna ukudla okuningi. Ngakho-ke, udinga i-psychotherapist ngokunembile ukuze akwazi ukubona inkinga ekunikhathazayo futhi ikugcine ukhathazekile okwamanje. Khona-ke udokotela uzokwazi ukuthatha ukwelashwa kwe-metabolism yakho. Kuyafaneleka ukuphawula ukuthi izinkinga ezinezinkinga zokugaya kungabangeli ukukhuphuka kwesisindo somzimba, kodwa futhi ziphuthumise inqubo yokuguga. Ngakho-ke unganqikazi ukuya kumthandi wezengqondo.
Ukuze ukwelashwa kwezifo zemithi, lo dokotela unezindlela zakhe namasu akhe. Isibonelo, kungaba ukusetshenziswa kwe-hypnosis, indlela yokusikisela okungaqondakali kanye nezinye izindlela eziningi ezingokwengqondo, esekelwe lapho isiguli, ngokusizwa amandla akhe, singelashwa.
Ngendlela, uma ufika aphoyintimenti nomhlengikazi ngesikhathi esifanele, ngakho-ke, ngemva kokudlula inkambo ekhethekile yokwelapha ngokwendlela yakhe, ungakwazi ukuqeda izifo ezinjengezinyosi, ukuphathwa ikhanda njalo nokugula kwamathumbu. I-psychotherapist, esebenza ngqo nomqondo wakho ongaqondakali, izokusiza ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi zezempilo.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke okungenhla, udinga ukuxhumana nengqondo ye-psychoanalyst uma ngabe unqume ukushintsha isithombe sakho sengqondo nomlingiswa ngokujulile. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ezimweni lapho umuntu evinjelwa ukuba aphile ngokujwayelekile njengezimfanelo ezinjengamahloni aqinile, ukunganaki nokungaqiniseki kwamakhono abo namakhono abo. Ukuqeda lezi zinengiso zemvelo uzokwazi ukusiza ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile kwengqondo, okuyokwenziwa nawe "ngodokotela wakho wengqondo".
Ngokuphathelene noshintsho esithombeni sakho sengqondo, udinga ukufaka isicelo ku-therapist, ukuze akusize ufunde indlela yokuziphatha kahle, ukukhuluma, ukuphatha ukulinganisa ubuso nokuthinta. Udokotela onjalo kuphela uzokunika ithuba namakhono okuthi uzodinga kanjani ukuqapha isimo sakho sengqondo esimweni esinikeziwe. Ngemuva kokwelapha okunjalo, umuntu uzokwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe ezivele emsebenzini, ekuphileni kwakhe kanye nezinye izici zalo.
Futhi okokugcina kodwa okungenani, ngenxa yalokho okunconywa ukuba kusebenze kumsizi we-psychotherapist usizo, kuyinkhono yokwenza ngokuphumelelayo nangesikhathi esifanele ukuxazulula izimo zokuphikisana noma ngisho nokuwagwema ngokuphelele. Futhi, ingumqondo wezengqondo oyokusiza ukuba ufunde inqubo elula ekukhulumisaneni njengethonya lezingqondo nokulungile ku-interlocutor yakho. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzokwazi ukuqhuba ngempumelelo izingxoxo zakho noma izingxoxo, futhi ngokujwayelekile, ukuze ukhulume nabantu abakuzungezile.
Ngakho sihlolisise izizathu eziyinhloko, okumelwe ngokuqinisekile zikugqugquzele ukuba uphendule ochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe ukuze balahlwe ngokushesha. Futhi, njengesiphetho, ngifuna ukungeza ukuthi ama-psychoanalyst akufanele agqatshwe. Uma usuzizwele lezo zinkinga noma ezinye izinkinga noma uma ukhathazekile nganoma yini, kusukela ngenhla esikulesi sihloko, udinga ukwenza ngokushesha i-aphoyintimenti nomtholampilo. Ngosizo lwaso kuphela ungathola ukuthula nokuthula kwengqondo. Kuyinto yokwamukela lokho kudokotela ukuthi ungaphumule, ugxile, uthuthukise intuition yakho, inkumbulo futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ususe konke okukukhukhumeza, okukukhathazayo, noma nje akuvumeli ukuthi uphile. Khumbula ukuthi impilo yakho yengqondo nengokwenyama ixhomeke kuwe kuphela. Inhlanhla!