Obaba abangabodwa kanye nezici zabo

Umama ongashadile - uzwakala njengomusho wamadoda athile. Akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukukhulisa ingane yomunye ngezizathu eziningana.

Abesifazane bahluke kakhulu ngobaba-abacebile, endaweni ethile ngisho nangokwemvelo. Kodwa-ke, obaba abangashadile abayena amadoda ajwayelekile, ngoba banokuningi okuzohamba nawo futhi baxoxe nabo, futhi, kuhlukile kunabo bonke abanye. Ngakho-ke bangabani abangabodwa?
Ukuze uqonde uhlobo lomuntu ongayedwa, kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu 'zesizungu' sakhe. Izizathu zingase zihluke: isehlukaniso, ubufelokazi, ukungafuni ukukhokha nokunye okunye.

Nokho, kunezici ezivamile ezihlukanisa bonke obaba abangabodwa. Isibonelo, banomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu, ngoba banomsebenzi obalulekile - ukukhuliswa kwengane. Ngokufanayo, obaba abangashadile bahlale benemizwelo eminingi, banesineke futhi baqonda ngokucophelela noma yiziphi izenzo. Phela, ukukhathalela umuntu omncane owathi, ngenkathi ethembele ngokuphelele kuye, akuyona umthwalo kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi umuntu kumele aqondiswe kakhulu ukuze akhulise ngokwanele ingane.

Eqinisweni, kungase kubonakale sengathi ubaba ongayedwa uyindlela engcono kunomuntu ongakaze abe nakho kulokhu. Ngokwezinga elithile, lokhu kunjalo, ngoba upapa ongeke abe nemibuzo mayelana nokuthi ungashintsha kanjani i-diaper yomntwana nokuthi ungathatha kanjani ingane ngezimpelasonto, okuzoba usizo kakhulu uma uthola izingane ezishadile.

Kodwa-ke, kunezimo ezithile zokuba obaba abangabodwa. Ingane yakhe iyohlale ihamba phambili, iyohlale ikhumbula izithakazelo zomntwana lapho ixazulula inkinga ethile, kufanele wamukele lokhu. Uzodinga kakhulu ukuqala ukuxhumana nengane yakhe, kodwa kubi? Lapho ubhekene nosana uzothola omunye umngane omuhle.

Kunombono wokuthi obaba abangashadile kuqala bahlola owesifazane ovela "kumama kumntanakhe". Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela. Indoda ifuna umyeni wakhe kuqala, kodwa-ke, uyayibheka ngokuqondene nomama wengane. Obaba abangabodwa bafuna abesifazane abanjalo, abakuthandayo, bazokwazi ukuthanda izingane zabo, bazokwazi ukunakekelwa kwengane, bazohlanganyela nabo bonke ubunzima bokukhulisa ingane futhi babe ngumama wangempela wengane!

Yiqiniso, kunezimo lapho izingane ezikhuliswe ngubaba ongayedwa zingavukela kuwe ngobuqotho futhi zibonise isimo sengqondo sabo senzondo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuzodingeka ubonise ukuhlakanipha nokubekezela ngaphambi kokuba isimo sibe ngcono. Mhlawumbe baze badinga usizo lomqondo wengqondo womndeni. Kodwa ungayeki ngaphambi kwesikhathi, wenqaba ukubhekana nobaba oyedwa. Akulula ukuthi agijime phakathi kukaScylla no-Charybdis womsebenzi wabazali kanye nokoma injabulo nje yomuntu.

Kunoma yikuphi, indoda eyedwa, ngaphandle kokusizwa owesifazane, ikhulisa ingane ifanelwe inhlonipho enkulu.