Ekuphileni kwawo wonke umuntu kufika izikhathi ezinjalo, lapho enqotshwa yizinto ezibizwa ngokuthi yizinto ezimbi. Kungaba yinto yonke into: ukuzisola, ukuphindiselela, ukwesaba umuntu, njll. Yiqiniso, kudingeka sicabange, ngoba, njengombuso, sidala izwe lethu kuphela emva kokuba into ethile isungulwe noma siza esinqumweni. Kodwa-ke, ukucabanga njalo, ukuphila ngokwesaba imicabango engacabangi - lokhu, ngokombono wami, kokubili kuyisiphukuphuku nokungalungile. Ngakho ake sibone ukuthi singayilahla kanjani le nkinga enkulu kakhulu, kodwa inhlekisa kakhulu.
Kule ngqungquthela, izindlela ezintathu zizocatshangelwa ngokuningiliziwe ukuze kutholakale ukuzithokozisa ngokwengeziwe emicabangweni ekhungathekile.
Into yokuqala okumele iyenze akuyona ukuqhuba impi ngemicabango ekhululekile. Yonke imizamo yakho engeke icabange ngakho izobe ingasebenzi futhi uzobe ulinde ukuwa. Kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa kunjalo. Misa impi ngemicabango yakho !!! Cabanga ngomuntu ocabanga ukuthi akayena ohlakaniphile, ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi ulungile futhi obaluleke kakhulu - akungabazeki ukuthi ulungile. Manje uthi: "Ingabe kufanelekile ukufakazela ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kumuntu onjalo?". Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uzothi: "Cha, akufanelekile." Kuyinto efanayo ngokunamathela emqondweni: "ba" bangenangqondo, bayisiphukuphuku, kodwa banenkani futhi baziphatha kabi nge-nimvoy. Ngakho-ke, nje nge-irony unakekele ukwesaba okukuvimbela ukuthi ungaphila, unqabe ukulwa nawo bese u-vypobedite. Kuyinto engavamile, akunjalo? Kodwa uma uyisebenzisa "esikhumbeni" sakho, khona-ke uzizwa umphumela. Lesi yisikhali esinamandla kakhulu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sikwanele ukukhipha imicabango engacabangi.
2. Indlela yesibili yokuqeda ihamba kahle kakhulu kulabo asebevele bekhona empini ngenkinga enjalo. Ngiyaqiniseka ngokuqinisekile ukuthi wenza "amasiko" athile: ukugxilisa ngokujulile ukuzola, ucabanga kuze kube ngu-10, njengokungathi konke kuzodlula. Eqinisweni, lokhu kungukusikisela okuzenzakalelayo okuzenzakalelayo futhi, nakanjani, ngezinga elithile kusiza. Kodwa-ke, kufanele uzibuze umbuzo: "Ngabe ngizohlupheka konke ukuphila kwami, ukuzindla amahora amaningi, ukususa umqondo othile lapho?". Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ufuna ukuphila impilo evamile, ngakho-ke udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi le micabango ayinalutho. Ungenza lokhu ngale ndlela: Uma ucabanga ukuthi kuze kube ngu-10 ukulahla imicabango engacabangi, yiba, isibonelo, kuze kube ngu-200, 300, futhi mhlawumbe kuze kufike ku-1000. Yenza "amasiko" akho uze ulahle izinzwa zakho.
3. Indlela yesithathu futhi, mhlawumbe, into enhle kunazo zonke umuntu "aches" onjalo imicabango ukuxhumana nabantu, esiseduze futhi ethandekayo. Vele ukhulume nabo, ungatshela noma ubani ngakho, ngoba kunconywa ukwabelana nosizi lwakho ukuze lube luncane. Nokho, cabangela eyodwa: "Ungakhulumi ngenkinga yakho kumuntu ongayibamba." Ngamanye amazwi, kufanele ukhulume ngemicabango yakho ekhungathekile kuphela kubantu abanjalo abazethembayo, abangazibekeleli uhlaka olungaguquki lokuziphatha olungalokothi luqede amehlo abo kunoma yiziphi imicabango eziyiphutha. Ekuhlangenwe nakho kwami ngizosho ukuthi abantu abanjalo bazokwazi ukukusiza; kungenzeka ukuthi yizona odokotela abangcono kakhulu kule ndaba.
Futhi, ekugcineni, isihloko sokugcina salesi sihloko: "Hlangana" nemicabango yakho ekhudlwana, bheka ukuthi "badla", yiphi isimo sabo, bese ubatshela ukuthi ufuna ukuxhumana nabo noma cha. " Lesi seluleko kufanele siqonde ngokufanele: sisekelwe eqinisweni lokuthi awubaleki ukuhlangana nabo, kodwa ngokuphambene - hamba kubo, hamba "ukukhuluma". Lona uhlobo lokuzindla; wena, ngokusho, uphume ngemicabango yakho "kanyekanye." Zama ukuqonda lokho okushiwo yizicabango, uma uphuma kuzo, zama ukuqonda, ukuhleka usulu phezu kwazo, "inkulumo" kahle, bese ubona ukuthi imicabango yakho ayiyinto ephelele neyodwa. Skoreevsego, emva kokuzindla okunjalo uzoba funny kakhulu futhi ukwesaba kwabo kuyoba kancane!