Ukubola komndeni kanye nemiphumela yayo, isehlukaniso njengesici somndeni wanamuhla


Noma kunjalo, usuku nosuku, ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi umhlaba wesintu awufani nanoma yini evela ezweni lezilwane. Ukuthi kulokhu, ukuthi kulowo mhlaba abesilisa, abafake umsikazi wesifazane, baphonsa kokubili owesifazane nomntwana. Hhayi ezinhlobonhlobo zezilwane ezinesilwane ezibandakanya ekukhuliseni inzalo. Umehluko kuphela phakathi kwezwe lomuntu kanye nezwe lesilwane ukuthi isilwane, ngokuphonsa insikazi nabancane, asibacasuli, sishiya buthule, ngokukhohlwa kuze kube phakade. Indoda, ishiya umndeni, icasula bobabili izingane nomkakhe, ibeke lezi zidalwa ezingenakuzivikela ubuhlungu obukhulu nokuhlupheka, ngokuvamile zibenza zikhala, futhi zibopha izinhliziyo zabo ezinkanyeni.

Ekuphileni, ngokuvamile sihlangana nalesi simo esingavamile, esibizwa ngokuthi isehlukaniso. Ngifuna ukunikezela lesi sihloko esihlokweni esithi " ukuhlukana komndeni kanye nemiphumela yaso, isehlukaniso njengesici somndeni wanamuhla ". Namuhla yonke imindeni yesibili isinda esahlukanweni. Futhi izingane ezimbalwa futhi ezimbalwa zikhula emndenini ogcwele. Mhlawumbe, bekungeke kube khona imishado ephumelelayo uma sizwa futhi siqondana, senze izinto ezishintshayo futhi sikwazi ukusekela. Sizilungiselele thina ngokwethu futhi sivalelwe ngaphakathi kithi, siyazi ukuthi singazibona kanjani thina kuphela futhi singaboni omunye umuntu. Futhi empeleni kuvela ukuthi abantu abanalo izimfanelo zabantu ezinhle, noma nje abazi ukuthi bangayisebenzisa kanjani, ngoba sisebenza kuphela.

Sitholephi umonakalo omkhulu kangangokuthi singabacasula izingane zethu. Ukwesaba okudabukisayo kunazo zonke, futhi kubantu abanjalo akukho ukudonsa komuntu hhayi ukwehla kwezingcwele. Ngempela, ingane ingcwele. Ukucasula, ukulimaza umuntu ongenasici othandweni lwethu, kulula kakhulu, ngoba abazi ukuthi bangabetha kanjani ubuhlungu futhi badakwe yize.

Kuze kube nini silindele ukuba azalwe izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, zingaki singalali ebusuku, singakanani esilenza ukuba ingane ihlale ijabule, futhi ezinye izilwane eziziphatha kahle zithatha ingane yonke ebuntwaneni, zihlwitha i-alimony, zithi ingane yakhe. Futhi ukuthi ungachazela kanjani ingane ukuthi uyise uyayinqamula u-alimony? Ingane engazi ukuthi i-alimony iyini futhi ayiqondi ukuthi kungani abazali bakhe bahlukanisile. Ngingachaza kanjani kumntanami ukuthi umama akakwazi ukuthenga le doll noma umshini wokubhala, ngoba ubaba wayiqedile?

Ukwahlukanisa - le nqubo iveza umonakalo omkhulu kumntanakho, iphula umthetho wakhe, futhi ingane ayikhuli umuntu ogcwele. Ukungaziphathi kahle kwakhe akubonakali nje ekukhulisweni komzali oyedwa, kodwa futhi ukuthi ingane, (ikakhulukazi uma iyintombazane), ikhula ibe ngumculi wamadoda. Ngeke aqaphele umyeni wakho wesibili, noma isoka lakho, futhi ngeke abone oshade naye esikhathini esizayo. Uzocabanga ukuthi bonke abantu bafana nobaba wakhe. Uzoyesaba ukuthi umshado wakho olandelayo uzokuzwisa ubuhlungu, kodwa ngenxa yengane, ukuhlupheka kukaMama kuletha ukuhlupheka okuningi. Ingane izohlupheka ngenxa yokuthi ayikwazi ukwenza noma yini, ukuthi ngeke uhlupheke. Kuzolimaza ukubona izinyembezi zakho. Futhi kunzima kanjani ngezinye izikhathi ukuyeka izinyembezi ngaphambi kwengane, kunzima kangakanani ukuzenza sengathi unamandla, noma wenze sengathi akukho okwenzekile. Kodwa awuyikukhala, okungenakulimaza ingane futhi, ngoba ingane iyincazelo yokuphila kwethu.

Ukwahlukanisa kuzoholela ekufundiseni ingane yakho, ukuyeka ukulalela, uzokwenza okuphambene nalokhu. Kuzoba nezinkinga ngenqubekela phambili, nabangani, ngenkumbulo. Kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukubhekana nengane uma ishintsha. Ngokuziphatha kwakhe, uzobonisa ukuthi uphikisana nomshado. Kuyoba khona ukuhlukumeza wena nakwabanye. Uzozibeka icala ngenxa yokuthi ubaba washiya unina ngoba wayengesiye ingane elalelayo. Ingane izohlala iphakathi kwakho, uxabana noma uhlukanise. Ingane izohlala ihlupheka ngaphezu kwabazali bayo.

Ngaphambi kokuba isehlukaniso, ingane iqala ukuzwa ukuthi abazali abakulungile. Izingxabano zakho, ozifihla ngokucophelela ingane, ngeke zibonwe yingane. Noma iyiphi inkinga phakathi kwabazali iba inkinga kumntanakho.

Futhi wena ngokwakho uzoqala ukwesaba abantu nemishado, ngoba noma yikuphi ukuhlukanisa kuyabuhlungu, futhi noma yibuphi ubuhlungu bushiya impendulo emphefumulweni nasenkumbulweni yomuntu. Uzoqala ukwesaba ukuthi okokuqala kungase kwenzeke futhi, ukuthi ingane yakho nenhliziyo yakho ibuye ihlupheke futhi.

Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukushada nobaba omuhle wezingane zakho zesikhathi esizayo kunokwakho othandekayo. Uthando luphela, futhi izingane zizohlala kuze kube phakade. Uthando luncane kakhulu, lufana nenkungu, lungase luvele ngokungazelelwe futhi luphelise yonke into, futhi lungabhidliza ngokujulile, bese ubona ukuthi wenzeni. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuthatha lesi sinyathelo esibalulekile empilweni yakho, cabanga ngokucophelela ngemiphumela. Akudingeki uziphonse echibini.