Kuyini - ukuxoxisana okukhulu nakakhulu nokubonisa okuyimfihlo noma, ngokuphambene, isheke, mhlawumbe ngisho nokubukela?
Embuzweni wokuthi kungani umfana ethula intombazane kubangani bakhe, impendulo elula futhi engaqondakali, mhlawumbe hhayi. Ngempela, bonke abantu bahluke kakhulu. Futhi abangane bahlukile. Kukhona ubungane besilisa iminyaka eminingi, kukhona ukusebenzisana, njengoba bethi, ezindabeni ze-firm, okungukuthi, ubudlelwane obuseduze, futhi kukhona ubungane obuseduze - ukuxoxa, ukuhleka. Ngakho kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi isoka lakho lifuna ukukutshela. Kusukela impendulo yombuzo obhekwe, izizathu zokuzijwayeza nabangane bomuntu othandekayo nazo zizoxhomeka. Ngakho-ke, ake sibone ukuthi kungani umfana engenisa intombazane kubangani bakhe.
- Vala abangani. Uma insizwa yakho ifuna ukukujwayela nomngane wakhe oseduze (futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nobili, emva kwakho konke, akuningi abangane abasondelene kakhulu), ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuluma ngobukhulu bezinhloso zakhe kuwe. Lo mlingani, njengokungathi, uzethula embuthanweni wabantu abasondelene nendoda. Ngokungangabazeki, lokhu kuyisenzo sokuthembela kuwe. Othandekayo wakho uthi: "Ususondele kakhulu kimi, ngiyakuthanda kakhulu njengabangane bami abadala nabangethembayo, ngilungele ukukuthemba"!
Ukukwazi nombuthano wabangane abaseduze kungaholela emiphumeleni ehluke kakhulu. Ukuzijwayela okuphumelelayo kanye nombono omuhle ozokwenza ngeke nakanjani uphakamise isimo sakho emehlweni esoka lakho. Ngemuva kwalokho konke, kuzokukhuluma kuye futhi kuqinisekiswe ukuthi ukukhetha kwakhe kulungile. Yiqiniso, umbono wabangane abaseduze kubalulekile kuye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umphumela omuhle walo mhlobo, ngokungangabazeki, uzothinta ubungane bakho. Mhlawumbe manje uzoba "umngane nemindeni" nomuntu ovela kubangani bakho bekhamera, ukuxhumana eduze, ukuvakashela, njll. Ngakho-ke, ihlanganisa isiyingi sakho sabangane, futhi, mhlawumbe, ngandlela-thile iyoyithinta nendlela yakho yokuphila.
Ngokuvamile, kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi, ngokuphambene nalokho, intombazane yayingathandi ngempela imvelo yomuntu, kodwa iyaqhubeka nokuhlangana nayo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kuwe, khona-ke kuzodingeka akhethe - kungaba ubungani bamdala, noma othandekayo. Njengomthetho, esimweni esinjalo, amandla okuzwa ahlolwe ngokumelene nentombazane. Umfana uzohlala nawe kuphela uma ehilelekile kakhulu futhi engahlose ukuguqula izinhlelo zakhe ngisho nangenxa yabangane abaseduze.
Ngokuvamile abangane abaseduze bendoda ezimpikiswaneni eziyinhloko bavumelana naye. Akusizo ngalutho ukuthi baye balondoloza ubudlelwane obuseduze, bethemba iminyaka eminingi, balungele ukusizana, uma kunesidingo, futhi balungele ukuthembela komunye nomunye. Ziningi izinto ezifanayo, ngaphandle kwalokho, zithemba ukukhetha umngane.
- Osebenza nabo emsebenzini. Ngokuvamile nalesi sigaba sabangane umfana uyazi lapho lezi zisebenza nabo zingabangane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wena kanye nomthande wakho osebenza ngokuqinile, ubuhlobo bakho naye buzuza kuphela umlingiswa wenveli. Kulolu cala, uvela ngaphambi kosebenza nabo emsebenzini njengokungathi esimweni esisha.
Esikhathini sokuqala, isifiso sokukujwayela ungaba nezinhloso ezihlukahlukene. Lokhu kungase kube isifiso sokushaya phambi kozakwethu wakhe okhethiwe (ukuziqhenya ngobuhle bakhe, charm). Ngakho-ke, umuntu angakwazi ukuphakamisa ukulinganisa kwakhe phakathi kozakwethu (lapha, bathi, intombazane enginayo!) Ngokuvamile, lokhu akulungile, akukubi. Empeleni, kuyaqondakala isifiso sokubonisa isimo sabo besilisa nokuziqhenya kwabakhethiweyo babo. Ukuziqhenya kwamadoda akukakhanselwa okwamanje, futhi, ngokufanele, isoka lakho lingase lijabule ukuzwa kusuka ozakwabo abaphendula ngokuzithobayo ngawe. Kodwa uma umfana ebonisa intombi yakhe kusebenza nabo, kuphela ukuzibiza, ngokuqinisekile uyalahleka emehlweni akho. Mhlawumbe, akanakho lutho lokuziqhayisa ngakho nhlobo, futhi lokhu akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu. Bheka eduze nomngane wakho!
Esikhathini sesibili, indoda yakho ifuna ukuvula zonke izihlobo zakho. Lapha, lapho umfana engenisa intombazane futhi, ubonakala ekutshela ozakwabo ngesimo esisha. Lokhu kungenziwa ngezwi elincane le-jocular, futhi ngokujulile. Kulesi simo, kufanelekile ukusekela injongo yalowo muntu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, wena ngokwakho, ngokungangabazeki, unesithakazelo sokuba nabalingani bakho ababili babonwa njengombhangqwana. Ngakho badlala nomthandi wakho uma efuna ukutshela ngakho ngethoni edlalwayo!
- Abangane. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyedwa kuphela, lapho ungaba khona ukusola okunembile mayelana nezinhloso zokuzijwayeza. Hhayi, uma umfana efuna ukuthi uhlangane nabangane bakhe - abahlobo bakhe ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo, ukuxhumana nabanye, njll. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi uyethula intombazane kubangani bakhe, ngokwesibonelo, ukuhleba ngawe ndawonye, ngisho nokuhleka. Enye yezinketho ezimbi ukujwayela umgomo wokuziqhayisa ngawe ngenxa yokukhulisa isimo phakathi kwabahlobo (satsho okufanayo ngokuzijwayeza nabalingani bethu).
Kwenzeka ukuthi isifiso somfana ukuletha intombazane kubangani bakhe inhloso yokungabonisi kubo, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho. Ngokuvamile insizwa ifuna nje ukukukhombisa ukuthi uhlala kanjani, okukhulumisana naye. Mhlawumbe nguye phambi kwakho obala abangane bakhe! Msekele, ngitshele ukuthi inkampani yakhe ikuthande ngempela. Thola izihloko ezivamile zengxoxo, faka umbuthano wabo. Ikakhulukazi uma ingaphikisani kakhulu nemibono yakho empilweni. Khumbula, kubi kakhulu uma umfana engafuni ukwethula intombazane endaweni yakhe. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe unamahloni noma unesihawu kakhulu futhi yingakho ekufihla ngisho nakubangane, noma efihle okuthile kuwe (noma omunye umuntu). Mhlawumbe udlala umdlalo ophindwe kabili? Ungangcolisi ngaleyo ndlela! Ubudlelwane naye ngeke bulethe injabulo, futhi amandla kanye nesikhathi kuzothathwa okuningi. Bheka umuntu ozokuthembela wena nezithakazelo zabo, nabangane babo, mhlawumbe, ngeke ube nesihawu sokuphila ngokujabulisayo impilo yonke. Futhi lokhu, kufanele uvumelane, kuningi!