Kunezizathu eziningi eziholela ekuqinisweni ukuthi ngisho nobuhlobo obuhle bungaba khona ukubola. Noma kunjalo, noma yini eyenzekayo, isinqumo sokuqeda ubuhlobo ngokuvamile sinikezwa kunzima kakhulu. Sicabanga isikhathi eside ngombuzo, okungcono, ukuhlala noma ukuhamba. Uma ungeke unqume nganoma iyiphi indlela ukuthi uthathe isinqumo - zama ukwenza njalo izinyathelo eziyisithupha ezilandelayo.
Isinyathelo # 1. Yiba ngokwakho, hhayi lokho ofuna ukubona umlingani wakho
Uma ufuna ukwenza okuthile okungenasisekelo kuwe, wenza njengokungathi uyathanda, noma usaqhubeka nokuvikela isikhundla sakho? Uma ufihla njalo umbono wakho bese uzama ukujabulisa abanye, khona-ke lokhu kunomthelela omubi kakhulu kwisithunzi sakho, okungukuthi, ungasho, kuyo yonke imizwa yakho. Ngakho-ke, uma ubona izenzo ezinjalo, zama ukuhlola - vumelana nomlingani wakho ukuthi ngesikhathi esithile uzokhuluma kuphela ngalokho okucabangayo ngempela, ngenkathi uthatha, noma kunjalo, yonke into engokomzwelo yabakaki. Lokhu kuhlola kuzobonisa ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukubuyisela ukuvumelana kwangaphambili noma ngabe ubudlelwane bufanele bume.
Inombolo yesinyathelo 2. Yeka ukukhathazeka ngalokho abanye abakucabangayo ngawe.
Kubudlelwane kubalulekile ukuthi bathi, cabanga noma wenze okunye. Lokhu kungokwakho kanye nesinqumo sakho kuphela sokwamukela nokuthwala umthwalo wemfanelo, okuzoba khona kuphela. Bangakunika izeluleko eziningi ezahlukene, kodwa kungcono ukukhumbula isisho esidala "lalela wonke umuntu - uzicabange". Ungacindezeli isimo, uthathe ukwesaba kanye nama-alamu kwabanye abantu. Indlela elula yokunqoba ubunzima bobuhlobo kuyoba uma uhlala uzolile futhi ucabange ngokucophelela.
Isinyathelo # 3. Thatha enye yezinhlangothi ze-"forkedness" yakho
Ngokuvamile, uma kudingeka ukuba uthathe isinqumo esiyinkimbinkimbi, engqondweni yomuntu kukhona okungenani ukungabaza okubili kulokhu okushiwo, okushiwo ngokuphambene ngokuphambene. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, umbono owodwa wokufaka ingozi, isisusa sakhe esikhulu "konke okwenzekayo kungcono kakhulu." Ngenkathi elinye izwi lithi mhlawumbe ngokwenza isinqumo, uzokwenza iphutha, noma ukuthi empeleni ngeke liguqule noma yini. Ngenkathi ungaqapheli ukuthi kukhona le mpikiswano yemibono, uzobe usuqothule cishe nxazonke, ungazi ukuthi wenzeni.
Ukubhekana nalokhu, vele uhlale phansi bese ubhala zonke izimpikiswano eziholela embonweni wokuqala, futhi ngokuphambene nabo bhala phansi imibono yombono wesibili. Bhala ku-tech kuze ukwazi ukumboza ngokugcwele isithombe esiphezulu, zonke izici ezinhle nezibi zesimo samanje futhi ungafinyeleli esiphethweni esinengqondo ngokuphelele. Njengomthetho, emva kwalowo msebenzi, lezi ziphikisana ezimbili zibhekwa njengekhambi elilodwa lemvelo.
Isinyathelo # 4: Qonda ukuthi isixazululo esihle kunenkinga ikhona
Ake sithi uthola iseluleko sokufakela isahlukaniso bese ushiye izingane kumyeni wakho. Ngokuvamile impendulo yalokhu kuyoba "Angikwazi ukwenza lokhu!". Manje zama ukuveza inkulumo efanayo, kodwa ushintshe "Angikwazi" enkulumweni ethi "Angiyiku." Kuyinto engavamile, kodwa lokhu kusebenza kuyasebenza - umkhathi ebuhlotsheni ubonakala lapho abantu beqaphela ukuthi empeleni bafuna ukulondoloza ubuhlobo babo. Lokhu kufakazela umuntu oyedwa ukuthi aqonde ukuthi empeleni bakhululekile ukwenza lokho abakufunayo, futhi kwabanye - ukuthi bangakhetha njalo lokho abakudingayo.
Isinyathelo # 5. Cabangela izithakazelo zakho
Ungalindeli ukuthi omunye ohlangothini uzofika futhi akutshele ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kahle, lokhu ngeke kwenzeke. Ungazami ukulandela izeluleko zabanye abantu bese uhlangabezana nokulindela namazinga. Ungesabi futhi unganqikazi ukuziphatha njengoba ubona kufanelekile.
Isinyathelo # 6. Cabanga ukuthi uzoziphatha kanjani uma wazi ukuthi unezinyanga eziyisithupha kuphela zokuphila
Cabanga ukuthi udinga ukuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha - ngaphandle kwalesi simo ube ukhathazekile ngamaphuzu amancane obuhlobo, njengokungqubuzana kusihlwa. Uma uzimisele ukuqeda ubuhlobo - yenza ngokushesha. Uma unquma ukuwasindisa - vele uqale ukulungisa into engahambisani nawe. Lo msebenzi usiza ukubona isimo sangempela sezindaba bese uqala ukwenza okuthile.