Ukuzithanda ngokweqile ubugovu, okuyinto egcwele izinkinga ebuhlotsheni kanye namaphupho aphukile mayelana nekusasa elijabulisayo.
I-Egoism ibulala imindeni
Eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu edlule igama elithi "isehlukaniso" lalihlukumeza. Babesaba ukuhlukana, babe namahloni, futhi akuzange kwenzeke nanoma ubani ukuba abatshele. Manje ngaphezu kwengxenye yemindeni ihlukana nenombolo edalwe. Futhi lokhu akukona nje kuphela ngoba izindinganiso zomndeni ziphulwa, kodwa futhi ngoba akekho ocabanga ngokulwa nobugovu ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantu.
Empeleni, kukhona ukuxhumana okuthile phakathi kokunciphisa ukubaluleka kwamanani omndeni kanye nokwanda kwezinga lobugovu. Umndeni ungumzimba owodwa "owodwa kuwo wonke umuntu futhi konke ngenxa eyodwa." Emndenini kubalulekile ukukwazi ukuthatha kuphela, kodwa nokunikeza. Futhi okwesibili kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni impilo yomndeni ephumelelayo. Futhi omagazini abaluhlaza kanye nezindaba zezwe ezitholakala kwi-TV bakhuthaza uhlobo lokuziphatha okuhlukile ngokuphelele. Manje kuyimfashini ukuthola nokungahambisani ne-oligarch uma kungenjalo ngomshado, okungenani ubuhlobo obufushane nezipho eziningi. Amadoda nawo afaneleka ukuba angakapheli ukuba khona kwengqondo yowesifazane, ukufudumala noma ukuthuthukiswa komzimba wesifazane, kodwa ukufanisa izitayela zamuva zendlela yokubukeka. Amadoda asabe esaba njengoba ngaphambili, amabhasi amacilisi noma izindebe ezinomsoco ngendlela ye-pelmeni, bona abazikholelwa ukuthi owesifazane wabo wenze ngezinqubo ezilimazayo ngenxa yobuhle besikhathi esifushane.
Ukuziqhenya kubhidliza imisebenzi
Ama-egoists ngokuvamile ahloniphekile, ngisho umuntu angasho ukuthi uphakeme. Ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu abasemabhizinisini, lokhu kungaba kokubili kokunye nokunciphisa.
I-plus yilapho kulula kuma-egoists ukuzithengisa ngokwabo. Bathuthukisa kalula izimfanelo zabo namakhono abo, futhi bayakwazi ukunqoba ukuncintisana okunamandla kulo msebenzi. Lokhu kubalulekile ikakhulukazi emazingeni ahlobene ne-cinema, ezihlukahlukene, ibhizinisi lesimodeli noma ibonise ibhizinisi. Futhi ezinkampanini, amathalenta amancane awazi ukuzithobela ngokwawo ngezinye izikhathi ayadingeka ngaphezu kochwepheshe abaphansi futhi abahlakaniphile abawazi ibhizinisi labo. Kodwa lokhu kuyilinye icala kuphela lwemali.
Ohlangothini lwesibili yilokho ngokusho kwezibalo abantu abaphumelele kakhulu ebhizinisini baye bahlaziya kancane kancane ukuphumelela kwezimpumelelo zabo. Bahlale benganelisekanga ngento ethile ngaphakathi kwabo, kodwa abanelisekile ngezinto ezincane. Lokhu kubakhuthaza ukuba baguqule amakhono abo namakhono abo ngokungapheli. Futhi noma ngabe isisebenzi esinjalo senza okuthize isikhathi sesishiyagalolunye, khona-ke isikhathi esiyikhulu senza ngcono kunezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nesishiyagalolunye. Futhi eyikhulu neyokuqala uyokwenza iphrojekthi yakhe ibe ngcono kunekhulu. Abaqashi abahlakaniphile bayazi lokhu, futhi ngokuqondene nebhizinisi labo, khona-ke imakethe ngokwayo izobeka ngokushesha umuntu oye kude kakhulu endaweni.
Kuyinto evamile ukucabanga ukuthi abantu abaphumelelayo ezweni lethu ekuqaleni bavusa isimo sengqondo esibi kwabanye. Ikakhulukazi, bathi, iphathelene nabanomabhizinisi abaphumelelayo, abaphathi abaphezulu kanye nosomabhizinisi. Konke lokhu akunjalo. Abantu abakwazi ukunqoba ubugovu babo futhi bakwazi ukushiya ukuhamba ngezinyawo ngesikhathi, ukuthola ukuxhumana okufudumele nabanye, bangathola izigidi, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngeke babe nezifiso ezimbi. Yingakho ukunqoba ukuzingela komunye wemisebenzi ebalulekile ebhekana nanoma yimuphi umuntu obekwe umsebenzi ophumelelayo.
Indlela yokunqoba ubugovu
Uma wazi ngesono esinjengokuziphatha kobugovu, kumelwe ukuba wacabanga ngendlela yokunqoba ubugovu ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantu. Konke kuxhomeke ekugxileni ngokujulile ubugovu bakho.
Uma ngabe uwukuphela kwengane kanye nenkaba yezwe kubazali, kungaba nzima ukunqoba u-egoism. Okokuqala, udinga ukungena enhliziyweni yomcabango wokuthi abantu abakuzungezile abahlakaniphile, abanenjongo, abanenzuzo, abanolwazi kunabo.
Khona-ke kufanele ufunde ukuqeda i-egocentrism. Ngokuzicabangisisa, zonke izingane zihamba ngokuthuthukiswa kwazo. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubuntu bomuntu. Ukuphakama kwe-egocentrism yengane kuneminyaka engamahlanu kuya kweyisithupha. Ngenkathi yesikole, ukuziphatha ngokweqile kunqotshwa yingane, futhi uma lokhu kungenzeki, esikoleni angathatha "ama-cones" amaningi avela nabo ekilasini nabothisha. I-egocentrism ayizimisele futhi ayikwazi ukungena endaweni yomuntu. Uma ubona lezi zici kuwe, ukuzivocavoca ozimele endaweni yomuntu kuzokusiza, futhi ucabange ukuthi uzoziphatha kanjani esimweni sakhe. Ngaphandle kokuqeqesha nokuziqhayisa, kufanele uzame futhi ujwayele isikhumba somphikisi wakho noma umlingani wakho, umngane noma owaziwayo, futhi nje uhlanganyele ebhulogi ukuze uqonde imicabango yakhe, izinyathelo zakhe ezibhekwa njengezinyathelo zokuzenza.
Ukunqoba i-egoism kungaphumelela uma ufunda ukulalela abanye abantu. Ukulalela nje akwanele, kubalulekile ukwazi ukukhuluma i-interlocutor ukuze ivule ngaphambi kwakho. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukufunda inqubo yokulalela okusebenzayo. Ulawule ngokucophelela ukunaka kwakho ukulalela hhayi kuphela indaba elandwayo, kodwa futhi nokuhlaziya, ukuhlaziya izinkathi nokungaqiniseki, ulimi lwe-twisters nokubhuka. Konke lokhu kuyizingxabano ezincane ezikwazi ukuhambisa incazelo eyinkimbinkimbi yesimo kanye nesimo sengqondo somuntu oxhumana naye. Futhi endleleni, amasu okulalela ngokugcwele ngemvelo anamabalwa. Ngakho-ke, cishe, uzodinga imizamo yokuyiqonda. Kodwa umphumela uzoba yisigaba sokuqala: uzobona ukuthi umhlaba, owahlukaniswa waba yizinhlobo ezimbili - abathandekayo nabanobukhwele - ngokuzumayo ukwandisa futhi ikunike ulwandle lwamathuba. Abantu abanomona ongawahumushela kusigaba sabangani nabangane emaphrojekthi, futhi nabathandekayo uzokwazi ukuthola izihloko ezinjalo ezingxoxweni, lapho yonke into ingaba khona. Mhlawumbe uzothola okuthile kuzo ukuthi wena ngokwakho ungakujabulela ngobuqotho.
Futhi, ekugcineni, kuyadingeka ukuthi usho ngokunqoba "i-egoism" engenayo. Ngakho-ke izici zobuntu ezibekwe abezindaba. Ukuziqeda, ungakhipha okwesikhashana wonke omagazini bese uvala i-TV. Futhi ungazama ukwakha ibanga phakathi kwakho nemifanekiso esembozweni, ngaphandle kokuzama ukulingisa abadumile.