Ekukhuleni, abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi bangashintsha umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele. Kodwa, umkhuba ubonisa ukuthi akulula. Izazi zengqondo zithi akunakwenzeka ukuhlela umuntu emibonweni yabo eminingi nezifiso.
Abantu abaningi bayazi le nkulumo - uthando luyimpumputhe, yingakho umuntu ejwayele ukuzibopha ngemizwa yakhe ecacile ngekhanda lakhe, kanti yena akaqapheli ukuthi umuntu ozwelana nguye i-antipode yakhe. Uthando luyakwazi kakhulu, luyakwazi ukwenza izimangaliso, kodwa hhayi ngezinga elinjalo. Ungathathi njengesibonelo isimo esifanayo, esingathuthuka kahle kumuntu wabangane bakho. Akekho oyokunika isiqinisekiso sokuthi ubuhlobo besikhathi esizayo buzoba ngcono.Zitshele ngesikhathi "hlala" futhi ucabange ukuthi udinga ukungena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze nalowo ofuna ukuyibuyisela. Cishe, ubudlelwane obunjalo kanye nesikhathi buzohlaselwa. Ubuhlobo obuvumelanako yilobo buhlobo obungadingi ushintsho lobuciko kusuka kumuntu wesifazane noma kumuntu, kwenzeke ngokwabo. Emva kwakho konke, kukhona umehluko uma kukhona ukugijimela okuvela ezithambelwaneni zakho zangaphakathi, futhi nakwezinye izinto lapho uphoqeleka ukwenza okuthile.
Isifiso sokushintsha okhethiweyo ngandlela-thile sinomthelela ngqo kunoma iyiphi indaba yomuntu siqu. Ake sivume, siphupha umlingani ofanelekayo, futhi isithombe sabazali bethu sigcinwa endaweni ethile ezinganeni ezingaphansi kwezingane zethu. Noma ubani kithi uyokhululeka nomuntu osondelene naye ukuthi sizokhululeka ukwenza imisebenzi ethile evamile, ukuzizwa imizwa ejwayelekile, yingakho ukukhetha kwethu kuvame ukuwela esimweni sokuziphatha kwabantu abadala esikwaziyo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Uma uqala ushintsho lomhlaba wonke, noma ngabe uphumelele okokuqala, ngenxa yalokho ungadumala kakhulu futhi ulahlekelwa yizo zonke izithakazelo kumlingani wakho, ngoba okunye okudingekayo kuwo kuyokwenyuka. Ngakho-ke, isiphetho sinye - sebenze ngokucophelela ngokwakho.
Ukugxeka - into, akuyona into embi, kodwa ihloswe ekuziphatheni komuntu, hhayi kuye ngokwakhe, noma ubuntu bakhe. Vumelana, ungahlakazi izinto, nomaphi lapho ungafunda khona kulula kunalokho, uthi, kusukela ekuthuleni ukuguqula umuntu abe yi-interlocutor ethakazelisayo nohlakaniphile. Zonke izinhloso zomuntu kufanele zifunde ukuqonda, ngisho noma zingakuthandi nhlobo. Umqondo onjalo njengesikhala somuntu siqu usuke udingekile kithi, ngaphandle kwalokho noma ubani ozovele evele ephule ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kulula kunoma ubani wethu ukukhononda ngomlingani wethu. Lesi simo sikhululekile - asikho isidingo sokushintsha ukuziphatha kwakho. Iningi labesifazane abavame ukunganeliseki ngokuthi amadoda abo abathandayo abafuni ukwenza lutho nxazonke zendlu, kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho umyeni ehlangana, uthi, isando, bayisisusa ngokushesha bese bebeka ukungenakwenzeka. Mhlawumbe, enhliziyweni yami, iningi lethu alifuni ukuthi lo mlingani ashintshe ngokweqile: simane nje sesaba ukulahlekelwa amandla ethu phezu kwakhe. Indima elula kakhulu yomgxeka - lo mkhuba wokuziphatha uzuzisa, ngoba ungathola njalo imbangela yokungazitholi.
Nakhu imikhuba yokulutha komunye wabalingani - lokhu kuyindaba ehlukile. Isibonelo, ukudakwa noma ukumane uthanda ukuzithokozisa ngemidlalo ehlukahlukene yekhompiyutha kungabhubhisa ngisho nobuhlobo obuqine kakhulu. Kodwa ungazami ukuxazulula le nkinga, ngosizo lwe-blackmail. Kungcono uzame ukukhombisa umlingani ukuthi indlela yakhe yokuphila iyethusa futhi ikucindezele, ngakho ungazama ukuvusa inzalo kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi, ngenkathi ulungisa impilo yakhe.
Wonke umuntu kufanele abone imiphumela futhi aqonde incazelo yomsebenzi owenziwe ngokwabo. Asikwazi ukuvala umlingani wethu emgodini wegolide wezinhloso zethu. Ukukhula kwangaphakathi komuntu kumuntu kwenzeka ngokwayo esimisweni esithile. Usizo kulokhu lungaba namandla othando, okukwazi ukuhambisana nesikhathi, ngokuzikhandla ukuguqula impilo yabathandi ababili.