I-trimester yokuqala iphela amasonto angu-12
♦ Indlela owesifazane ethatha ngayo izindaba zokukhulelwa. Izinga elithile lokungaqiniseki, ukukhathazeka, ukudideka - lokhu kuyinto evamile. Inkinga yisimo lapho owesifazane eqhubeka nokuphatha ukukhulelwa njengesithintelo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngesizathu esithile, uyigcina.
♦ Indlela umndeni, ikakhulukazi ubaba wengane ozayo, uthathe izindaba zokubuyiswa kabusha. Okubi kakhulu kwakuwukuqala ukusabela kwabantu abaseduze, kunzima kakhulu ukuba owesifazane abe nemizwa emihle nokuzethemba esikhathini esizayo. Kodwa uma isimo siphenduliwe, ukushayisana kokuqala kuholela ekujabuleni.
♦ Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lona wesifazane waqala ukuzizwa ekhulelwe kuyilapho izimpawu zangaphandle zingekho. Ukuzwa "Ngikhulelwe," ukumela kwalowo "mbewu" encane ehlala ngaphakathi kwakho kubalulekile ukuze uvumelane nesimo esisha ukuze uqhubeke ngokuphumelelayo. Uma owesifazane ezwa ekhulelwe, kuyamsiza ukuba akhethe izindlela ezinhle zokugqugquzela ukulondolozwa kanye nenkambo ephumelelayo yokukhulelwa. Lolu shintsho embusweni wosuku, ukudla okunomsoco, ukunciphisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene. Uma owesifazane ehola indlela endala yokuphila, ngaphandle kokuyeka imikhuba emibi, ingane ihlupheka.
♦ Izinguquko emlandweni we-hormonal kanye "nokwazisa" kwabesifazane abakhulelwe.Ngomnyaka wokuqala wokuqala, owesifazane ubonisa ukuzwela okukhethekile, ukuziphatha okungalingani, ikakhulukazi ngenxa yezinguquko ze-hormone, kanye nenqubo yokujwayela isimo sangempela.Lezi zinguquko ziyimvelo bese zidlula.
♦ Ukwakheka kwesimo sengane "isiguli." Ukukhulelwa kuyinkqubo yemvelo, kodwa kufanele uvakashele udokotela kaningi, uhlole izivivinyo eziningi, uhlole okuningi, futhi esimweni esinjalo kubalulekile ukuba owesifazane agcine "isikhundla sesiguli esiphelele." Zizenzele ukuthi konke kuhamba ngendlela efanele Inkinga kulesi simo yandisa ukhathazeka komama ozayo.Iqala ukuqala izimpawu ezibonisa i-malaise, ibona isimo sayo njengesifo futhi ifuna ukuzicima emhlabeni, isichitha kakhulu ukukhulelwa ngekhefu lokugula.
I-trimester yesibili iphela amasonto angu-26
♦ Ingane yokuqala evuselela. Amasonto angama-17 kuya ku-18 kuyisimangaliso sangempela: umama wami uqala ukuzwa ukuthi ingane ivuselela kuqala. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzibona kanjani. Yiqiniso, ikakhulukazi abesifazane bazizwa bejabule kakhulu, bekumangale, beqhosha futhi behlonishwa. Lapho kufika ukunyakaza kokuqala, into ebizwa ngokuthi i-Ya kabili iyakhiwa. Umama wesikhathi esizayo uzizwa unomusa wobubili: ngakolunye uhlangothi, yena nomntanakhe bayedwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unomuzwa wokuthi umntwana uzimele, ungumuntu ohlukile. Lesi yisisekelo sokwakheka okujulile kwemvuthu.
♦ Umbuzo wobulili wengane. Ku-trimester yesibili (emva kwamasonto angu-20), imishini yesimanje ye-ultrasound kanye nodokotela onolwazi uyakwazi ukunquma ubulili bomntwana. Ngokuvamile abazali balindele ngokulangazela lolu lwazi. Kodwa uma kubonakala sengathi ubulili obungalungile, khona-ke ubaba nomama esikhathini esizayo bangadumala.Uma lokhu kwenzeka, udinga ukubhekana nesimo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.Ukukhanuka kocansi kwengane kuhlotshaniswa nokwenqatshwa ngaye, okulimaza kakhulu ukuvumelana komama- ingane ". Isimo esihle kunazo zonke lapho abazali befuna ukuba babe nengane enempilo, engalungiswa ebulili bakhe.
♦ Ukushintsha isimo somzimba wakho. Esikhathini sesibili sesibili, owesifazane wesifazane uqala ukushintsha. Ekuqaleni, uyabona lezi zinguquko ezincane ngokuhle. Kodwa njengoba isisu sanda, abanye omama abazoqala ukukhathazeka ngokuvumelana okulahlekile. Lezi zinkinga zidlulele kakhulu kulabo abathintekayo imibuzo yabo, futhi obani, ngaphambi kokukhulelwa, benza umzamo omkhulu wokugcina isibalo esincane. Kodwa, kusukela engxenyeni yesibili yokukhulelwa, izinguquko zomzimba ukwamukela kuyisidingo. Esikhathini sokulungiselela ukubeletha, izazi ze-psychologist zinikeza umzimba ama-mamma esikhathini esizayo, lapho bonke abahlanganyeli bethi kungani owesifazane okhulelwe enhle. Ngenxa yokuthi ngokuvamile babababaza esikhathini esizayo ngezifundo ezifanayo, amazwi abo mayelana nokuheha kwabafazi abakhuthaza ukuzethemba hhayi kuphela kubalingani babo, kubalulekile kwabanye omama.
I-trimester yesithathu ihlala emavikini angu-40
♦ Isimo sengqondo sishintsha futhi. Manje lokhu kwenzeka ngezinye izizathu, kanti okuyinhloko kukhula ukukhathazeka ngaphambi kokubeletha.
♦ Umsebenzi wakho wehla. Ku-trimester yesithathu, kokubili ukusebenza ngokomzimba (ngenxa yesisu esikhulu) kanye nomphakathi, okuhlotshaniswa nomsebenzi nabathintana nabo abanobungane, kunciphisa. Lena inqubo yemvelo, okungeyona into okufanele uyihlasele yona njengowesifazane, noma njengabangane abaseduze nabangane. Owesifazane uthanda kakhulu konke okuhlobene nengane, ukuzalwa kwakhe, ukunakekelwa okulandelayo. Ukuxhumana nabanye manje ngokuyinhloko ngokukhulelwa nokubeletha. Umama wesikhathi esizayo angase ahoxiswe, angathokozi kangako. Izihloko ezingahlotshaniswa nobunina, okwakubaluleke kakhulu, zingamthandi. Ukungena engxoxweni, lona wesifazane uhlala ebanda ngokomzwelo, njengokungathi awunandaba. Vala it kungase kubonakale ukuthi ayinandaba nhlobo. Ubaba wengane ngezinye izikhathi uqala ukucasuka: "Wayeka ngokuphelele ukuba nesithakazelo ezindabeni zami!" Kodwa bobabili owesifazane nomndeni wakhe kufanele baqonde ukuthi inqubo yokunciphisa izithakazelo ingokwemvelo futhi inenzuzo, evumela ukuba bangene esimweni esisha nenhle sokuphila komama ngaphandle kokucindezeleka.
- 1 trimester. Isithombe somntwana engqondweni yakho ukuthi isikhathi siyinto engabonakali. Ungammelela umuntu okhulayo ngokufaka imininingwane ozoyifunda mayelana nezihloko nezincwadi. Ekupheleni kwekota yokuqala, owesifazane ulindele i-ultrasound yokuqala ehleliwe, lapho ezoqala khona ukubona ingane yakhe. Kusukela kulo mzuzu isigaba esisha siqala. Uma ngaphambi kwalowo wesifazane engakhathazeka kakhulu ngempilo yakhe, manje into esemqoka yile impilo yengane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho ebona ukuthi uvele esikrinini sokweqapha, yena uqobo uyaqiniseka ukuthi ukhona, naphezu kwesisu esingekho. Lokhu kuvumela umama wesikhathi esizayo ukuthi athathe isimo sakhe futhi ahlolisise umama ozayo.
- 2 trimester. Leli "sikhathi segolide" sokukhulelwa: isimo sengqondo sizinzile, isisu asikhulu kakhulu futhi asiphazamisi, umsebenzi wakho uvamile. Kubonakala sengathi ungakwazi ukuvula izintaba! Awunayo nje injabulo ngesimo sakho, ujabulela ukukhulelwa! Sebenzisa le nkathi ngangokunokwenzeka: hamba nomyeni wakho ukuba uhlale , ngoba eminyakeni ezayo awunakwenzeka ukukwenza ngaphandle kwengane, yilungisa efulethini, yakha - upende, upende, uhlabe! Ngomunye wesithathu, ingane iyaba nobuhlungu kakhulu ekuhlangenwe nakho komama - kokubili okuhle nokubi, ngakho-ke isimo esizolile siyisiqiniseko sempilo yengane. Akufanele sikhulume futhi sibe nokwesaba.Uma lokhu kwenzeka, tshela ingane yakho ukuthi uyabhekana nani.Thola isisu sakho bese uthi: "Umama uyadumala, ingane, kodwa uyakuthanda futhi konke kuyoba kuhle! ".
- 3 trimester. Isikhathi sikhethekile lapho owesifazane ekugcineni eqala ukulungele kwengqondo ekubelethweni. Ukubonakaliswa okunengi okubonakala sengathi kungabonakali (ukukhathazeka okwenyukayo, ukukhathazeka okuncane, ukunciphisa umsebenzi) kuyadingeka ukuze owesifazane akwazi ukugxila ekuhlangenwe nakho okusha okuzayo komama. Ngalesi sikhathi, okubizwa ngokuthi umama okubaluleke kakhulu kunomzimba owakhiwa ngokuqinile - isimo esikhethekile somzimba womama obeka izithakazelo zomntwana ngaphezu kweyakhe. Ngenxa yalokhu okubalulekile, emva kokuvela kwemvuthu, umama uzozizwa izidingo zakhe kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Ngenkathi ingane ingazimele ngokwengeziwe, yonke imicabango yakho iyoba ngaye.