Ukusabela kokuqala kwi-stimuli yangaphandle kuvela enganeni, kuye ngokuthi isimo sempilo yakhe kanye nemibandela yokuphila kwakhe. Isibonelo, ezinye izingane ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila zingasabela ekuzweni umsindo wezintambo, kudoti elikhanyayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo bafa isikhathi sokuhamba kwemilenze, futhi umbono uyama isikhashana kunento yokunakwa. Ingane ekugcineni ifunda ukuphendula izingcingo kuye, ukukhala insimbi, ithoyizi elikhanyayo.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwengane ngenyanga yokuqala yokuphila kubonakala nokuthi ngesikhathi sokunakekela ingane iyeka ukubuka ubuso bomama. Yile ndlela umbono wengane uqala ngayo. Uma ngesikhathi sokudla umama ekhuluma nengane, cishe uzoyeka kancane ebusweni bakhe, endaweni ethile ebunzini nasemakhaleni. Ekupheleni kwenyanga yokuqala yokuphila ingane isivele isakwazi ukugcina ithoyizi elihambahambayo, amehlo akhe agxila ngemuva kwayo, kodwa ngokushesha ingane izofunda ukugxilisa amehlo akhe, ukulawula umbono.
Ukuphumelela okulandelayo ekuthuthukiseni ingane enyangeni yokuqala yokuphila kuyoba ukuthi ekuzweni kokunciphisa ingane kuzama ukuyibuka nge-glance. Yile ndlela ukuzwa kuvela ngayo. Akuzona zonke izimpumelelo ezinjalo ezinikezwa ingane enyangeni yokuqala, ngokuvamile zizithatha kamuva, kodwa uma usiza ingane, yenza izimo ezidingekayo zokuthuthukiswa kwayo, ngokushesha ingane yakho ikhula futhi ikhule.
Ngisho nengane encane idinga ukunakekelwa kwabantu abadala, ekukhulumisaneni kwabo. Ngomntwana udinga ukukhuluma kaningi, amhubele amaculo. Ungamnaki ukukhala kwakhe, uthathe izingalo zakhe, ugubungele, ngakho umntwana uyohlale ezwa sengathi uyamthanda, uzoqala ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana, okuzokwenza ube nenjabulo enkulu. Yini engangcono kakhulu kunenyane lezinyanga elilodwa elibheke amehlo akho lapho ukhuluma naye?
Kuphela lapho ingane ifunda ukuxhumana nehlo, uzoqala ukubhekana nemizwelo yakho. Kancane kancane, uzoqonda ukuthi unina uphendule ekukhaleni kwakhe, futhi uma engakakhulumi esikhala, emva kokuba efunde ukugxila amehlo ebusweni bomuntu, uzokhamuluka kuwe. Lapho ingane iqala ukusebenzisa othintana naye ukuze uxhumane nabazali bayo, kungashiwo ukuthi ulungele ukuthuthukiswa kokuxhumana.
Ukumomotheka kokuqala kwengane kubonakala ngokushesha ngemuva kokufunda ukubuka emehlweni. Ukumomotheka kungadlulela ezinsukwini zokuqala komntwana wengane, kepha lokhu kumamatheka akungazi. Usana olusanda kuzalwa lungamomotheka ngamehlo avaliwe. Ukumomotheka okunjalo kubizwa ngokuthi ngokomzimba. Ukumomotheka kokuqala kwezinhlanzi, okuhambisana nokubukeka emehlweni akho, kubizwa ngokuthi umphakathi, ngoba usuvele ukhuluma nawe imizwa emihle eyenziwa yizingane. Ingane ingamomotheka ngokuphendula isikhalazo somusa kumuntu omdala kwezinye izimo. Inyanga yokuqala yokuphila, okuthiwa, ukulungiselela ukuxhumana.
Ukuthuthukisa ukuzwa nombono wengane, ukuze umntwana angathanda ukuxhumana, kudingeka sikhulume naye kaningi. Ungamane ufunde kuye, noma uchaze kuye lezo zimfanelo azothatha zona lapho esekhulile. ungasho lutho kunane, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi akakakuqondi okwamanje. Kodwa iqiniso lokuthi ukukhuluma nengane kuzuzisa ekuthuthukiseni izidingo zakhe zokuxhumana, kunciphisa isimiso sakhe sezinzwa. Futhi, ngenyanga yokuqala yokuphila, amakhono okubukwa kwengane kufanele athuthukiswe - uma ubona ukuthi umntwana ulele ngamehlo akhe evulekile, masinyane uzame ukuzibheka yena noma ithoyizi elikhanyayo. Shayela igama elimnyama, ukumomotheka, yenza konke okusemandleni ukuxhumana naye kweso eside ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukuze umntwana akhule kahle, kufanele akhuthazwe yizinsizakalo zakhe. Masiyeke kakhulu, ngisho nokumomotheka kwakhe kokuqala kufanelwe isikhuthazo. Mdumise umntwana onamazwi athandekayo, amshaye ekhanda, ithole. Ungazama ukubiza ukumamatheka ngokwakho - ukubiza ngegama ngothando ngegama bese uphikisa kancane ngesidama.
Kodwa ungagcizelelanga okuthile, uma ubona ukuthi ingane ilahlekelwe imizwa yakhe, ulambile noma ufuna ukulala. Ukuxhumana kufanele kuhlinzekwe, hhayi okushiwo. Kule ndaba kuphela ingane izofunda ukuxhumana futhi ibonise umsebenzi.
Cishe kanyekanye nokubukeka kwezenhlalo, umntwana uqala ukumomotheka lapho ebona ithoyizi elikhanyayo. Izingane enyangeni eyodwa iyasiza ukubeka idonsa esihlalweni. Vumela ingane kuqala ingayikhokhi kancane kancane, ngokushesha uzoqala ukuyibuka ngenentshisekelo enkulu. Izingane ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila zibuka ngaphandle kwefasitela, esibani, ezintweni ezikhanyayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ilukuluku lomntwana luyaqhubeka.