Okokuqala, amantombazane nabesifazane abazibuza yona lo mbuzo akulula. Phela, iningi labo liyamthanda umyeni wabo, iningi selivele linabantwana futhi lihlala impilo yabo elinganiselwe, lenza umsebenzi womndeni, futhi bonke bayajabula. Kodwa kukhona namantombazane anjalo awathatha umshado ekuqaleni noma kumuntu ongathandeki. Futhi-ke u-HE uvela! Lowo oxhumana naye okuningi, futhi mhlawumbe hhayi okuningi, kodwa ukuxhumeka okunye kuye kwasala. Yena oye waba mnandi nakakhulu, onesibindi futhi othakazelisayo. Akunandaba ukuthi uhlangane naye futhi ngaphansi kweziphi izimo. Mhlawumbe akazange akubone. Futhi uqale ukuveza izithombe kusuka esikhathini esedlule. Naphezu kokuthi ubuhlobo bakho abuhle (ngokusekelwe ukuthi usuqhelile), kuvele izikhathi ezimnandi, ezikhazimulayo, njengoba zihambahamba paki, zidansa e-disco, zikhululekile emvelweni, zahamba uhambo, njll. . Konke lokhu kukhwela futhi kukhwela ekhanda lakho. Uzibamba ucabanga ukuthi ucabanga ngakho ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi uyazibuza kaningi, yini okufanele uyenze uma ushadile futhi uhlangane nothando lwangaphambili?
Ake sicabange, kungani ungakhohlwa umlingani wakho wangaphambili? Ake sicabangele izizathu ezikhona zalokhu:
® Izingqikithi zamanoveli asele esikhathini esedlule zivame "zibe ngcono kakhulu" kunokuba zenzeke emva kwesikhathi. Ukuhlambalazeka kwanyamalala kwenye indawo, futhi izikhathi ezinhle ziba nenjongo kakhulu. Futhi ebuhlotsheni bamanje, konke okungalungile nokuhle kuhamba ngokufana. Konke okuhle, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ngokushesha ukhohliwe, kodwa amaphutha aphezulu. Ikakhulukazi uma sicabangela iqiniso lokuthi imibono mayelana noveli eyedlule iqhubeka.
® Ubuhlobo obusha abuhambisani nawe ngandlela-thile. Okuthile akulungile, futhi awukwazi ukuyihlola. Ngenxa yalokho, kufihla ngemuva kwalezi zinkumbulo zakudala.
® Usizi olujabulisayo. Lokhu kuyisenzo esivamile kakhulu semicabango yabesifazane. Ucabanga ukuthi uyedwa, futhi emva kwakho wayengenalo omunye. Ushiye impindiselo ejulile emphefumulweni wakhe, futhi akekho ongakwazi ukukufaka esikhundleni sakho. O, yiyiphi i-balm elimnandi enhliziyweni yakho. Futhi kukhona isifiso 'sokumjabulisa' yena, ngoba uzojabula kakhulu, uzokuthwala ngezandla zakhe. Ngokusobala, wayeseqaphele ukuthi wayelahlekile, hhayi ukuthi ukhona manje, ongakuhloniphi.
® Uwedlula ngokweqile izinkumbulo zakho. Mhlawumbe yaphenduka umkhuba? Kungenzeka ukuthi esimweni sakho uhlangana ngezikhathi ezithile emgwaqweni. Kungenzeka ukuthi yilokho okukuvimbela ukuthi ushiye okudlule wedwa futhi ukwenze nje imemori enhle engajwayelekile.
® Ingabe uthando lwangempela? Lolu khetho lwenzeka futhi. Kulokhu, kusadingeka ukhulume nenhliziyo eyayiyintandokazi ngaphambili. Phela, kungenzeka ukuthi akaqapheli imizwelo yakho ephindaphindiwe, futhi akafuni ukubuyela emuva.
Manje ake sizame ukuqonda lesi simo ngokuningiliziwe.
Uma ushadile futhi uhlangane nothando lwangaphambili, futhi lo mhlangano uye wabangela isiphepho semizwelo nezinkumbulo, udinga ukunaka iqiniso lokuthi ngesikhathi esifanele uhlephula. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi kwakukhona isizathu salokhu. Uma uhlangane isikhathi eside, kepha usuhlakazekile, kufanele kube nesizathu esibucayi. Kuzo kufanele ucabange ngakho. Futhi, khumbula izikhathi ezinzima zobuhlobo bakho, ukuxhumana kwakho. Kunamathuba aphakeme ukuthi uma inkaba iyabuyekezwa, konke lokhu kungavuselela futhi ngeke ukwazi ukuhlanganyela nayo. Imicabango kanye nezinkumbulo ezinjalo ngokuvamile kuvimbela isifiso "sokubuyisela konke."
Zama ukuziqonda wena. Ingabe uyakwazisa umshado wakho, umndeni wakho, ikakhulukazi umyeni wakho? Uyabudinga?
Ingabe ufuna ukuphinda uqale ubuhlobo bokuqala? Uzokwenzenjani uma umthandi wakho wangaphambili ephakamisa ukuthi uqala futhi? Ukuphendula ngobuqotho lo mbuzo, uzisiza ngokwakho ukucacisa isithombe.
Yini ongayenza uma uhlukaniswe ngokujulile ngokuthanda uthando lwangaphambili? Okokuqala kudingeka uzame ukupholisa phansi. Lokhu kuyadingeka ukuze kuhlolwe ngokucophelela isimo. Zibuze ukuthi ngabe umuzwa obizwa ngokuthi "uthando" uvulwe kanjani kuwe? Noma ingabe nje ukuthanda, ukoma koxhumano obuseduze, ngokusekelwe ezinkumbulo zezinsuku ezedlule? Noma ingabe kuwukuhlasela okunamandla kwe-nostalgic? Uma lokhu kungakabonakali okwamanje, ngoba ubuchopho bakho buhlangene nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, futhi imicabango yokuphambana nomyeni wakho ihamba ekhanda lakho, zicabange wena nazo zonke imininingwane esimweni lapho usuvele uzibophe khona. Kuthulwe? Yebo, futhi uzizwa kanjani? Ungaphila nalokhu? Esikhundleni sabo, wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena.
Kodwa, uma usafuna ukuphila ngalokho onakho manje futhi uthande ngobuqotho umyeni wakho, awudingi ukumkhohlisa, ngisho noma kuphela emicabangweni yakho. Hlanganisa ngamandla wena kanye nhlobo ukuvinjelwa ukuvuselela okwedlule. Kuphela ngokuthatha lesi sinqumo esiqinile, uzoba nethuba langempela ukukhohlwa uthando lwangaphambili. Ngokuqinisekile ngeke kube lula, kodwa ubani othi ukuphila kuyinto elula?