Umzimba womuntu uzivikela kanjani ekucindezelekeni?

I-White inemithunzi eminingi. Konke kuncike ekutheni uyibheka kanjani. Ngakho empilweni: awukwazi ukushintsha isimo, shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kulo. Ingabe nawe uhlale ungezwani? Muva nje, igama elithi "ukucindezeleka" lisetshenziswe njenge-cliché, elibeka yonke indawo futhi yonke indawo. Sikhuluma ngalokhu uma kunzima ngathi ukwenza okuthile, noma sisesimweni lapho wonke umuntu efuna okuthile kithi ngokushesha. Sinovalo, sisusa isimo, sidinga thina nabanye ukuthi asikwazi ukwenza. Imizwelo iyasiqeda, ingashiyi indawo yokucabanga. Akukho ngisho nesikhathi sokuyeka futhi ucabange: "Futhi kwenzekani kulo mzuzu ngaphakathi kimi?" Umzimba womuntu uzivikela kanjani ekucindezelekeni nokuthi yiziphi izinyathelo zokuzivikela ezithathayo?

Ukucindezeleka kubonakala kanjani?

Ake sicabangele isici somzimba wombuzo. Ukucindezeleka yindlela yokusabela komzimba emzimbeni, okusivumela ukuba sihlanganise wonke amandla ethu nezinsiza ukuze sibonise ingozi esongelayo. Sonke siyazi kahle le nzwa: "Yilwa noma ugijime." Yileyo ndlela ibukeka ngayo. Esimweni esicindezelayo, umzimba ukhulula izinto ezisilungiselela isinyathelo esinqunyiwe. Ngenxa yalokhu kusabela, umzimba wethu uthola ikhono elimangalisayo lokubhekana nezinkinga ezizelelwe. Kungani-ke, le ndlela eyigugu yokuzivikela, yimuphi imvelo eye isinike yona, ngokuzumayo yaba yinto yokubhujiswa, ibe yisifo esisikhathazayo? Kuvela ukuthi impendulo ilula - leyo nto, okubandakanya ukucindezeleka, isasebenza isikhathi eside kakhulu. Inyanga noma emibili, mhlawumbe iminyaka, sithwale umthwalo wokukhathazeka, okungaphezu kwamandla ethu; sesaba ukuhlukana nobudlelwane obuqeda amandla; Sekuyisikhathi eside sibambelele kugobolondo elibuthakathaka elibizwa ngokuthi "umndeni", okuyinto eqinisweni sekuphele isikhathi eside. Futhi ngakho-ke siyazitholela ngokungaziqondi emgodini ongapheli wokucindezeleka okungapheli. Ochwepheshe bathi okuningi futhi babhala ukuthi imithwalo yesabeyo ehlala njalo ithinta impilo yethu yengqondo nengokwenyama. Kodwa mhlawumbe usuvele wazi ngalokhu isikhathi eside, ngakho manje sifuna ukuhlala ngesici esihluke kakhulu.

Bheka inkinga ngaphakathi

Kuthiwani uma umthombo wokucindezeleka okuphakade ungaphakathi kithi, hhayi ngaphandle? Kuthiwani uma konke lokhu kungenxa yokuthi imibono yethu mayelana nokuphila ihluke nezinto zangempela ezikhona? Ukugcwaliseka kwalezi makhinobho kithi, kusishukumisela ukuba singene esivumelwaneni esingapheliyo. Ungakubuza kanjani lokho? Mhlawumbe, izici zangaphandle zibonakala umzimba ngokubaluleke kunalokho, kubonakala ekuqaleni. Ukuqhuma kwezimoto ezingapheli, ukungabi nemali, umbuso wezinyathelo, umholi wesikhulu ... Izizathu eqinisweni - inombolo engapheliyo. Indlela esiphatha ngayo izenzakalo emhlabeni osizungezile nendlela esabela ngayo kulokhu kuxhomeke kuphela kithi nakithi. Yebo, kusuka esimweni sangaphakathi somzwelo. Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani abanye abantu behlala bezolile ezimweni abanye abaletha ekushiseni okumhlophe. Sihlale sicabanga ngendlela okufanele sibe ngayo, futhi asizwa umzuzu wamanje. Siphila ngeminye imibono yokucabanga ngakho-ke asiqapheli ukuthi okwamanje kunezici ezinhle. Kudingeka bajabulele futhi bajabulele nje. Abaningi baqala ukubheka ukucindezeleka ngokuhlukile ngemva kokukwazi imisebenzi yomsayense waseMelika uKareem Ali. Ukholelwa ukuthi "ukucindezeleka umehluko phakathi kokukhona nokuthi yini engingathanda ukukubona. Okwamanje, wenzani, futhi ungathanda ukuthini. Okwamanje, lokho okukholelwayo, nokuthi unakho. " Kufanele sibe nesibopho sempilo yethu, esikhundleni sokukudlulisela komunye umuntu. Indlela elula yokusho ukuthi akukho lutho oluxhomeke kimi, futhi ngokujwayelekile, ukuphila kubumnyama nokungabi nabulungisa okuphelele. Ungahlala uhlambalaza uhulumeni ngokuphakamisa intengo kagesi, ukukhononda ngesimo sezulu sezulu, njll Phila esimweni sokuthi akukho lutho oluxhomeke kuwe, futhi kukhona umthombo wokucindezeleka ongaguquki. Ake sinike isibonelo: wangena emgwaqweni wezimoto, uhlala futhi ucabange ngakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa uma kungenzeki ... ", ukwesaba ukuthi ungenayo isikhathi. Futhi ngaleyo ndlela uzivusa ngokwengeziwe. Kodwa isimo asishintshi kulokhu. Noma, ngokwesibonelo, ngokuphathelene nomlingani wakho, ngokuqinisekile ufuna ukuthi ahluke - hhayi njengoba kunjalo, kodwa njengoba ufuna. Ngamanye amazwi, izimo zangaphandle zithinta isimo sangaphakathi, futhi umuzwa wokungabi namandla kuvela ngoba akukho lutho olungashintshwa.

Ungasheshi ukulungisa umhlaba

Ngabe ngizibuza ukuthi lesi sifiso senye into esivela kuvela kuphi. Kuphi lokhu isidingo sokwenza konke okuhleliwe, ngokulandelana okulandelanayo kanye nesimiso? Noma kungashiwo ngenye indlela: kungani ngiqhubeka ngidonsa umthwalo onjalo wemfanelo engingakwazi ukuwuthwala; Ngisekela ubudlelwane obungapheli amandla; ulalele izimfundiso zikamama, okungekho iqiniso? Njengoba uDkt Ali uthi, impendulo yalo mbuzo ayilula. Sivame ukubhekana nezinto ezingathandi nhlobo futhi azihambisani nemibono yethu. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Uma ubheka ngaphakathi kwakho, sizokhubeka kumgxeki wangaphakathi ohlala kithi futhi uzama ukwakha konke ngendlela yakhe. Ngenxa yalokhu, nomzwelo wokunganeliseki njalo nawe. Emva kwakho konke, kufanele siphile phakade ngezindinganiso zalelizwi langaphakathi, eliphazamisayo. Isibonelo, mina-ngumuntu ngokwemvelo ngithulile futhi ngingahlushwa, kodwa lokhu umgxeka wami siqu ungiqhubela phakade, ubeka isikhathi esingenakwenzeka. Kodwa uma ubheka nxazonke, eqinisweni, akekho odingayo ukuncishwa okunjalo kithi, sifuna nje ezinye izifiso, abazidonsa emcabangweni wabo. Kwenzeka ukuthi ngisho nalapho okufunayo kufana nalokho okwangempela, asisanelisekile ngokwethu futhi izwi lethu langaphakathi liqhubeka liphindaphindiwe: "Kodwa kwakungenzeka ukwenza ngcono!" Futhi inkinga enkulu ukuthi sithatha konke okusenhliziyweni. Masibuyele emuva ekuphuthumeni kwami ​​ekuseni, lapho lesibili esithi "Mina" siyakhuthaza ngaso sonke isikhathi: "Yenzani, ningenzi!" Mina, ngiyazi ngisho nokuthi ngidinga ukulala amanga, ikakhulukazi ngidonsela ngehora lesishiyagalolunye ekuseni, futhi ekuseni kunokuvuka ngokushesha kusukela embhedeni, ngizihlambalaza ngilale kuwo. Yilokho konke okwehlele! Njengoba ngiqaphela ukuthi konke lokhu akulungile, ngizama ukushintsha isimo. Uma nginomuzwa wokuthi konke kupheka ngokungajabuli, ngithatha umoya ojulile futhi ngizama ukucubungula lesi simo.

Nguwe kuphela olawula impilo yakho

Uma unquma ukuya emsebenzini emotweni, ke-ke, uthatha umthwalo wemicimbi yazo zonke izenzakalo ezalandela ezingase zenzeke. Lokhu kungukuthi, uyaqaphela ukuthi ungangena kumgwaqo wezimoto noma (Ungavumeli!) Ngengozi. Futhi uma kungazelelwe lokhu kwenzeka, kungenxa yokuthi ufuna ukungena emotweni bese uhamba nayo, kunokuba uhambisane nomphakathi noma ngetekisi. Ngakho-ke, akudingeki ukuba uqalekise izimo futhi ubheke onecala. Noma, isibonelo, kwadingeka uqedele umsebenzi othile ekhaya, kodwa wanquma ukubuka umculi omuhle owezwile impendulo enhle. Yebo, wayazi ukuthi kuzodingeka uqedele wonke umsebenzi wakho kusasa noma kusihlwa, kodwa wanquma ukuthatha isikhathi sokubukela ifilimu futhi uthole injabulo enkulu kuyo. Ngakho-ke, awudingi ukugxeka futhi uzihlambalaze. Ukwenza lokho okufunayo futhi ube nesibopho sezenzo zakho kuyisihluthulelo esikhulu sokucindezeleka ukulwa. Kuncike kithi ukuthi sizosabela kanjani esimweni esithile - njengesisulu noma njengomuntu omdala obhekene nezenzo zabo. Futhi lapha udinga ukuqonda futhi ube nesibindi sokuvuma ukuthi ungenza iphutha. Isibonelo, ungene emotweni ukuze uye emsebenzini, nakuba ngenxa yokuqhuma kwezimoto kuzoba ngokushesha ukufika kumetro. Okusho ukuthi, wenze isinqumo esingalungile, kodwa kwakuyikhethelo yakho, futhi kuphela ongakubonisa ukuthi yini enhle kuwe nalokho okungekho. Yiqiniso, ushintsho ekuzileni ngeke kwenzeke njengalokhu nje, ngokushesha ebusuku. Kodwa isifiso sokuzibona sizobonisa indlela efanele. Into esemqoka akumele ukhohlwe ukuthi esimweni sokuthula kulula kakhulu ukuba ubhekane nazo zonke izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba uhlaselwe usongo. Kunomthandazo onjalo: "Nkosi, nginike isibindi sokushintsha lokho okungashintshwa, ukubekezela ukwamukela okungenakuguqulwa, nokuhlakanipha ukuhlukanisa omunye komunye." Yisebenzise empilweni yakho, futhi ukucindezeleka kuzobonakala ngokuhluke kakhulu.