Ungazuza kanjani ekugxekeni, noma ngabe akujabulisi?

Ukusola kusicasula njalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyindaba yokuzwa ukuthi "sinjani esimhlophe futhi siphelile". Kodwa uma ungafundi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokugxekwa okunobungane nobumnene, okungafani nokungalungi, kuyoba nzima ukwakha ubuhlobo nabanye. Empeleni, yini ukugxeka kithi? Lokhu kungavumelani okukhulu noma ukungabaza ekukhuthazeni kwezenzo zethu, futhi kakade ilungelo lethu lokuvuma noma cha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu kufanele akwazi ukuthola umsindo oqala ukugxeka futhi awisebenzise ngokwabo. Ukugxeka kubangane kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni. Sizikhethela thina, zisezinye izindlela njengathi. Inkathazo ukuthi inothi enobungane lingase lingazwanga kahle ngesikhathi (umngane ngeke amise umkhosi futhi aguqule isimo sakho sengqondo). Iningi lethu lizovula izikhwebu zethu, esikhundleni sokwamukela ngokuzithoba ukugxeka nokuyisebenzisa.

Abangane abakwazi ukukhuluma iminyaka emva kokukhuluma okungajwayelekile, isibonelo, ngomshado ophuthumayo kakhulu nentombazana engazi lutho. Futhi ngemva kweminyaka embalwa uqiniseke ukuthi umngane onesidingo, uhlamba kanjani ukungabaza kwakhe, kwakulungile. Abangane kudingeka bakwazi ukulalela, ukugxeka kwabo kuyakha kakhulu. Ok, abangani bangalalelwa, kodwa ukugxeka kubazali kunzima kakhulu.

Iningi lezincomo zihloswe ukuxhumanisa ukulinganisa kwamagugu nezingane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi - inhlonipho ngemibono yabazali, ngakolunye uhlangothi - ilungelo lokuphila impilo yabo. Kodwa kulapha okusanhlamvu zakopanoratsionalnoe okusho ukuthi ubudlelwane bezingane ezindala bekungakafiki senile marasmus. Iseluleko silula - zibeke endaweni yazo. Ubani, uma kungenjalo, wazi izinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni komama wakho, ukwazi ukuqonda izinkani zezikhundla zikababa wakho! Ukugxekwa kwabazali bakho kungase kube nokuhleleka, kuhlaziywe, kodwa kulandela ngokucacile umgomo - ukwenza okulungile. Ukuzibuka emehlweni abo, umuntu angaqonda ukukhathazeka kwabo, isibonelo, mayelana nokuzilibazisa kwakho ukuqhuba kusihlwa "ubhiya" ngenxa ama-mugs webhiya. Futhi uzibuze, empeleni, awufuni yini ukuthatha okwesibili ngemva kwekomishi ehlobo elishisayo? Ubusika be-Asli, bese ugcina ama-vodka amagremu afudumele ngamakhulu? Kakade, okuthile, nokukhuliswa kokuphila kokungalungi kokuqala, abazali bangakwazi ukudweba phambi kwamehlo akho. Baqonde ukuthi baqonde, ngendlela, nawe nibazali noma maduze kuzoba yibo, futhi izimangalo ezifanayo, kodwa kakade ngolimi lwakho kuzonqunywa ngokugxila kwezingane zenu zomngcele weminyaka. I-anecdote enhle: "Umama ujezisa indodakazi yakhe ngokuba lula, ngombono wakhe, ukuziphatha:" Ngineminyaka yakho ... ". Indodakazi yakhe iphazamisa: "... Eminyakeni yakho ... Eminyakeni yakho ... Yebo, kule minyaka usuvele unyaka nonyaka!". Ukuhlonipha nokudumisa kubazali, bayakwazi ukuveza okuthile okungalungile ekusebenzeni kwakho okuhle, ekuboneni kwakho, ukuba, ukulalele, ungabilisi, isigamu sehora ucabange ngalokho okuzwakalayo (emva kwakho konke, akuzange kushiwo), futhi wenze iziphetho.

Emsebenzini, ukugxeka kufanele kuthathwe ngokufanelekile, akukwazi ukubonakala ngokuzenzekelayo, kanye nokulahla. Ukusuka ekugxekeni okunempilo ukwenza intando, isinyathelo esisodwa. Uma iqembu eligxekayo lingenza kube nzima nakakhulu ukucaciswa kwamazwi, nokudlulisela amagama ajwayelekile njengokuthi "Lokhu akulungile!", Khona-ke akusizi ngalutho ukufaka ingxabano. Ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle kuwe. Lapha ungakwazi ukuncoma impendulo enhle ngokuyinhloko, ukuze umphikisi angabambeli emazwini akho futhi akaqali ukungahambisani nokumangalelwa okusha. Bacele ukuthi bacacise izinhlamba ezingenhloso. Kodwa uma ukugxekwa kulungile, ungesabi, ukugxeka okunempilo kuyisisusa ekukhuleni kwakho, i-anikak ayiyona isongo. Yamukela ngobuqotho iphutha, ngaleyo ndlela ubonise isimo sakho sempilo, esizoqinisa idumela lakho kuphela.