Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi abantu abangama-53% asele ekusebenzelaneni nomusa wabo banezinkinga ezithile. Sizohlaziya lezi zinkinga emashalofini, sithole ukuthi yini esivimbela ukuba senze abangane abasha futhi, sihlomile iseluleko, sibasuse.
Okokuqala, kusivimbela ekwenzeni abangane abasha bengathandi ukuwaqala! Kwenzeka kanjalo. Abanye abantu bathanda isizungu noma bavele bahlala ngaphandle komngane. Ngakho udinga ukwenza isinqumo, udinga abangane abasha, ufuna abajwayele abasha noma uzizwa uhle? Uma unquma ukuthi ufuna ukuba umngane futhi wazi kahle, sebenzisa! Musa ukufihla! Ungesabi! Ungahlali ekhaya!
Ungamomatheka? Lo mbuzo awuzange ubuzwe ngengozi. Mhlawumbe, ukwenza abangane abasha kuwe kuphazamiseka yi-grimace enesihlungu. Ubani ofuna ukuxhumana ne-bore. Inkulumo ephazamisayo igxeka futhi ibangele abantu abaseduze nawe. Qaphela ukuthi abangane abaningi banomuntu ovusa ukumomotheka, onomsindo, ohleka ukujabula, ngoba ukumomotheka kuyimbonakaliso yenzuzo, imfudumalo nothando. Kungenxa yalokhu abantu badonsela, ngoba abanakho lokhu. Ezweni lethu, futhi zigcwele imibala egijimi. Ngakho iseluleko: Smile! Futhi ebufakazini bokusebenza kahle kwalo mkhandlu kunezinkulumo eziningi: "Ukumomotheka akufanele lutho, kepha kubangela okuningi", "Ngubani ozowuthola, abe ocebile, ozopha - angeke abe mpofu", "Ukumomotheka kusheshayo, kodwa kumemori kuhlala kuze kube phakade", "Smile igcwalisa indlu ngenjabulo, ikhuthaza ukuthakazelelwa ekubambisaneni kwebhizinisi futhi iyisitatimende sobudlelwane obuhle "," Ukumamatheka kunika abantu amandla ukhathele, kubangela ukulahlekelwa yisibindi, kubangela injabulo, kuyindlela eyenziwe ngemvelo ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga! ".
Ungakwazi ukuvimbela umsebenzi oweqile nokuzibonga. Iseluleko: Bonisa isithakazelo kubantu! Bingelelana kuqala, smile, buza ngento ethile. Uma ubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho kubantu, uzothola abangane kuwe ngenyanga, kuneminyaka emibili yokuzama ukuphikelela ukwenza abanye isithakazelo kubo. Abantu abanesizungu benza iphutha elikhulu elifanayo kulo lonke impilo yabo: bazama ukuphoqa abanye ukuba babonise isithakazelo kubo. Nguye ongabonisi isithakazelo kubantu abathandekayo bakhe, ebhekene nezinkinga ezinkulu ekuphileni futhi wenza kabi kwabanye. Kulaba bantu akukho lutho olwenzekayo.
Ukusola nakho akuzange kusize ekutholeni abangane. Funda ukwethemba abantu, ukuthembela kubo, ubuze usizo, kuzokusiza ukuthi uqale ukuxhumana.
Mhlawumbe inkinga yakho ukuthi awukwazi ukukhuluma? Uphikisana njalo? Hlonipha umbono womunye umuntu, kubaluleke ngempela. Kuyinto engafaneleki ukukhuluma nabaphikisi, iyabuyisa, izinkathazo futhi idabukisa kakhulu. Lokhu kusivimbela nathi ebuhlotsheni bethu.
Khulumisana ngethoni enobungane, ezolile. Uma ufuna ukwenza abangane, babingelela abangane ngenjabulo nangentshiseko. Uma ukhuluma efonini, sebenzisa le ndlela. Vumela oxhumana naye aqonde ukuthi ujabulela kanjani ukuxhumana naye. Abantu abakubongayo bazofika kuwe futhi bazothola indlela yokwenza nabangani bakho, ngoba imvelo enhle nobungane buhlala bunamandla kunomsindo nolaka.
Uma uthanda ukukhononda, lesi sizathu sokungabi nabangane. Abantu besaba lokhu, njengomlilo! Banezinkinga zabo ngokwanele, kodwa nansi nisabhala. Misa, futhi uzobona ukuthi umhlaba uzodlala kanjani nemibala ekhanyayo!
Ukungakwazi ukulalela kuyisithiyo esinamandla kakhulu ebuhlotsheni. Ukulalela ngokucophelela kusho ukunikeza i-interlocutor yakho uphawu oluphakeme kakhulu. Yiba umlaleli omuhle! Lalela, lalela ngokucophelela umxhumanisi futhi umkhuthaze, udumise. Ngempela, "ukudumisa kunomusa kunoju."
Dumisani, kodwa ningahluleli noma nigxeka! Abantu abagxeki, kubangele ukuba bangene esimweni sokuzivikela, ukuze baziphendulele, ngeke bakuxolele ngalokhu. Khumbula omunye uthi, kulungile futhi kuwusizo empilweni: "Abantu bafuna ukudumisa njengoba besaba ukulahlwa!"
Ukuze uhlale uxhumane nabantu, sebenzisa le mithetho: shayela oxhumana naye njalo ngangokunokwenzeka ngamagama. Ukukhumbula igama, wenza lo muntu abe ukuncoma okucashile futhi okuphumelelayo kakhulu. Ngokusho komuntu omkhulu waseMelika we-20 uDale Carnegie, umsindo wegama laso, nganoma yiluphi ulimi olubizwa ngalo, luhle futhi lubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu.
Ngokucatshangelwa lezi zeluleko, uzofunda ukugwema futhi ungaphindi amaphutha ekukhulumisaneni. Eqinisweni, kulula ukwakha ubuhlobo, futhi uzofunda ngokushesha lokhu, into esemqoka akufanele ukwesabe futhi ungagweme abantu. Abangane abahle! Ukuphola okuthakazelisayo!