Futhi namuhla - lalela - useqalile ukwakha imishwana eyaziwayo, ukucabanga ngokuhlakanipha nokuphawula kukho konke okwenzeka kuye nakuye. Abazali bayathokozisa, bayamfundisa masinyane ukuthi akhulume ngokunembile imisindo kanye nokwakha imishwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokushesha bayamfundisa ukuba atshele iqiniso. Iqiniso nento ngaphandle kweqiniso. Ngoba amanga amabi, angeke aholele kunoma yini enhle, imfihlo ihlale ibala. Lokhu kufakwa kuzo zonke izingane kusukela ebuntwaneni bokuqala. Wakhuluma - yibani nomusa, tshela iqiniso. Yini okufanele uyenze lapho ingane yakho ilele, nokuthi ungamsiza kanjani?
Umjikelezo wamanga
Kubonakala sengathi, kuchaza ingane ukuthi akulungile ukukhuluma amanga, thina, abantu abadala, senza konke okulungile. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile asivumeli - hhayi kuphela kubantwana, kodwa kithi-ukuthi empeleni akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle kokuqamba amanga. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyayithanda noma cha, yiyona "ukugcoba kweqiniso" okusisiza ukuba sibe khona kuleli qiniso. Abantu balala njalo: ubuso nobuso, bekhuluma emsakazweni nase-TV, ngamazwi nangokubhala, emphakathini nasengxoxweni esondelene. Abantu baqamba amanga kubazali nezingane, abashade, abangane, osebenza nabo, abaphathi, abangaphansi kanye nabahamba nabo abavamile. Futhi futhi, nakanjani, kithi. Ngaphandle kokuba inja yakhe, mhlawumbe, ingamanga, ayihambisani nalokhu - iyaqonda amagama ambalwa kakhulu. Izazi zengqondo zibalwe ukuthi umuntu ovamile, ohlala edolobheni elikhulu, njalo oxhumana nabanye, ngoba usuku luthi amanga ngokwesilinganiso izikhathi ezingamashumi amane. Ngivumelana nabo kanye noDkt House, i-hero yechungechunge lamahlelo. "Baqamba amanga!" Uthi, futhi yilokho iqiniso.
Ngiyahamba ngenkathi ngiqamba amanga
Uhlobo lwamanga alujwayele kakhulu amanga ensindiso. Kubizwa egameni lothando, umndeni, ubungane, ngokwakho, ekugcineni. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi umgomo womqambimanga kungaba ukufinyelela komgomo othile, noma umzamo wokugwema imiphumela engathandeki. Indoda idumisa i-blouse entsha yomkayo, okuyinto, ukuyibeka ngomoya ophansi, ayihambanga ngempela, umkami uyabonga nge-juicer engadingekile enikezwa ngumyeni wakhe ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ... Wonke umuntu uyajabula, umndeni unokuthula nokuthula. Enye imbangela evamile yamanga yikhumba lapho umuntu ngandlela-thile efisa ukuheha imibono yabanye futhi uqala ukufakazela ukuthi akufanele abe khona. Isizathu salolo buntwana sisebuntwaneni sifihliwe: esikhundleni sokudumisa umuntu, wayelokhu ekhuluma kusukela ebuntwaneni, ebeka isibonelo somunye ohlabelela phezulu, waphakamisa phezulu noma waphendula kangcono. Akulungile ukukhuluma amanga, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuqamba amanga. Kodwa uma ufuna ngempela ingane yakho ukuba ilale kancane ngangokunokwenzeka, idumise futhi ikhulise ukuzethemba kwayo nokuzihlonipha okukhulu. Umuntu oqinile, onokwethenjelwa ulala kancane kakhulu.
Kusukela ebuntwaneni
Amanga ezingane angomunye walabo abacwaningwa kakhulu ngabangqondo bezengqondo, kodwa akekho oye wakwazi ukubhekana nakho okwamanje. Ososayensi abaningi ngokuvamile bakholelwa ukuthi akusizi ngalutho ukubhekana namanga ezingane. Okokuqala, ngoba thina ngokwethu sinikeza izingane isibonelo esinjalo - singazikhohlisi, sithula noma siqamba amanga, sifihla imizwa yethu nemicabango yethu yangempela. "Imikhuba yethu emihle" - lokhu ngokuvamile akuyona into engaphezu kwefomu lokuqamba amanga. Ngakho ikhono lokuqamba amanga nokukhuluma amanga livela kwezinye izingane cishe ngesikhathi esisodwa ngokuphatha kahle inkulumo - eneminyaka emibili. Uma ngabe ingane ikutshele ukuthi i-jam evela e-can ingadliwa yi-bear yakhe ye-teddy, ungesabi. Ikhono lokusungula isizathu esinjalo esibucayi sibonakaliso sokwenza umsebenzi wokucubungula ngokushesha. Futhi okugqamile kakhulu yizithombe nezizathu ezingamanga amanga, ngakho-ke, ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kwengane kuthuthukile kakhulu. Okusho ukuthi, kuvela, udinga ukujabula, hhayi ukudabuka - ingane ikhula ihlakaniphile! Phela, yini amanga? Le fantasy enenzuzo kuwe. Ingane impela idinga ukuhlangana ndawonye futhi ivele nenhloso ecacile nayo yonke imininingwane. Ukuzivocavoca okukhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukucabanga kanye nokucabanga! Ngakho basebenzise ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngingakaze ngiqale ukukhuluma, eminyakeni emibili, cishe izingane ezingama-20% zizama ukutshela iqiniso, ngeminyaka emithathu lesi sibonakaliso sifinyelela ku-50%, futhi kuya ku-4 okufakwe ngaphakathi kakade njalo kunesishiyagalolunye. Yiqiniso, izingane ezineminyaka eyisithupha ubudala zivame ukukholelwa eqinisweni lokucabanga kwabo futhi azikwazi njalo ukukhuluma iqiniso kulokho abakhethile.
Ngeso lesibhakabhaka
Iminyaka engavamile kakhulu kuneminyaka engama-8-9: kwesinye isimo noma esinye isimo sinamandla okuqamba amanga, futhi ngokucophelela - cishe zonke izingane. Benza lokhu, bathi, ngamehlo aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, balala ngenjongo yokuthola inzuzo noma ukuzivikela ngokwabo noma abangane babo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani, kodwa ukufuna ukuqiniswa kwengqikithi yengane akufanele neze. Lokhu kuyinjongo engatholakali, futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi wena uzothanda umphumela wale mfundo. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukuphosa akusho ukuthi kuyisimo sezinkinga zomuntu. Ingane ilungisile le deuce kudayari yezinhlanu ezinhlanu. Utholwe ngesandla - kodwa cha, uphikelela: "Lokhu kwenziwa uthisha, wayesephutha!" Kungani ungavumeli? Kusobala ukuthi kungani, - besaba ukujeziswa. Mtshele ukuthi ubuhlungu kakhulu kunalolu daba olubi, okuyinto, emva kwakho konke, olungalungiswa ngokuthembeka, kodwa ukuthi wayesebenzisa inkohliso. Ukhohlisa - kusho ukuthi akethembi. Zicabange wena uma ungeqine kakhulu kulo. Ukuthi ingane ayiqambi amanga ngenxa yokwesaba isijeziso, ungalokothi umemele futhi ungasongeli.
Ngikhohlise
Ngakho ake sibhekane nakho. Enye yezinkinga eziyinhloko ebuhlotsheni phakathi "obaba nezingane" umkhuba walabo abagcina ukuhlakanipha nokuqamba. Funda ukukwenza ukuze ungabonakali, zonke izingane zizama. Futhi ikakhulukazi isipho sitholakala kusukela ebuntwaneni. Okwamanje, umsebenzi wethu ukuletha izitshalo ezincane ukuhlanza amanzi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuze uqaphele izenzakalo zangempela zokuphila kwabo, futhi kwenye - ake sivume thina-ukuthi, lapho bekhulile, bakwenza ngokuhlakanipha kakhulu. Ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi ingane ikuqamba amanga? Vumelana, amanga luhlobo lomsebenzi. Ukuzama ukukhanda ikhanda le-interlocutor, izikhathi ezingamanga nokukhathazeka. Lishintsha isilinganiso se-pulse, isigqi sokuphefumula, ukucindezela, izinga lokushisa komzimba kanye nomsebenzi wemoto. Yingakho abaqambimanga bezithengisa ngokwenza izinto, baphakamisa, bethi imishwana ephukile, noma, ngokuphambene, ukuphakamisa izwi, ukukhwehlela, ukukhwehlela, ukuklolodela izindebe zabo, ukugxilisa konke okukuyo, ukuhlukumeza amahlombe abo, ukubamba izintende zabo bese bebeka phambi kwabo etafuleni, zifihle izandla zabo phansi kwetafula, ubushelele izinwele zabo, zikhiphe izinyosi zazo, zifake izindlebe zazo. Kodwa ngisho noma ingane yakho ibonakala kuphela into eyodwa, kunesizathu sokungabaza ukuqina kwamazwi akhe! Noma kunjalo, ungakhathazeki uma ubamba ingane yakho emangeni. Wakhula nje futhi waba okufana nokuthi sinawe ...
Amanga eselula
Kunzima ukuqamba amanga kumuntu, ubheka amehlo akhe. Ngokubhala, lokhu nakho akulula - uyazi, awukwazi ukusika imbazo. Ucwaningo oluqhutshwa nguJeff Hancock waseCornell University (USA) lubonise ukuthi amaphesenti ayi-14% amanga ase-e-mail, 21% - ngama-sms, 27% ekukhulumeni okulula kanye no-37% ezingxoxweni zocingo. Eqinisweni, umuntu onomqondo oqinile ezimweni ezinjalo uzizwa uhlobo oluthile lobuqili obungcolile, uzwa ukuthi izwi lendodakazi ekwazisa ngokulawulwa okungalindelekile, okumele alungiselele nabangani bakhe imini nobusuku, ngokungazelelwe liphakeme ngaphezu kokujwayelekile noma, ngokuphambene, lakhuleka. Noma ukuthi le ndodana yavele yaqala ukukhuluma emabintweni angenakujwayelekile kuye ... Nokho, abazali abaningi bangathenga amanga ocingweni kalula.