Ngokuvamile kunezinketho ezintathu: phila nabazali noma izihlobo, uthathe izindlu ngesikweletu, noma uqashe indawo yokuhlala. Njengoba izinyanga zokuqala zempilo yomndeni zivame ukuhlukana kakhulu nenhlalakahle enkulu yezezimali, futhi ukuqasha indlu akuveli, futhi akufanelekile ukukhuluma ngemalimboleko, yini okufanele umndeni osemusha uyenze? Futhi kukhona kuphela ukhetho lokuqala.
Futhi basebenzisa inhlonipho ngabanye babazali, labo abasanda kushada baphumelela ukuthutha izinto endaweni ehlala ehlala kuyo. Futhi kulokhu, uma omunye wabashadile bezwa ukushada nje kuphela, khona-ke okwesibini kuqala inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi yokujwayela ukuphila komndeni nokuphila nabanye abazali. Lolu khetho aluphumelelanga ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi imindeni emibili, ukuqala nokuqhubeka, kunzima ukuhambisana, kodwa kunezimo ezihlukile. Kunoma yikuphi, kokubili izici ezinhle nezimbi zitholakala kuleso simo. Ngakho ake sibabheke.
Izikhathi ezinengqondo.
Isikhathi sokuqala esihle sokushada singaba yisibonelo sabazali. Ikakhulukazi uma bephila impilo ende ngokuthula nokuvumelana. Lokhu kuhlolisisa kahle kufundisa lo mbhangqwana osemusha wezingqinamba zobudlelwane nokuxazulula izingxabano. Okwesibili, futhi akuyona into ebalulekile, isici sezimali. Kusukela ezimweni eziningi, abazali bathatha ngomusa izindleko eziningi zomndeni ngomusa wabo, okugcina imali kubantu abasha. Into eyinhloko ukuthi bayakwazisa lesi senzo ngesithunzi, futhi bazama ukuqoqa imali yokuthenga okuthakazelisayo, isibonelo, ngokwabo izindlu, imoto, iholidi noma iningi lemali yokukhokhwa kwempahla. Okwesithathu, futhi mhlawumbe okuyisisekelo esiyisisekelo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, isici esibi ukusiza ngokuhlanganyela. Okuhle, lesi sici singabizwa, ngenxa yokuthi kungenzeka ukunciphisa umthwalo owenziwe ukukhathazeka komndeni kokubili komunye nomunye umndeni. Lokhu kuyasiza kakhulu umsebenzi womama osemusha uma ingane ivela emndenini. Ugogo nomkhulu bayajabula ngokuthatha lezi zinkathazo ezimnandi, lapho umama osanda kuzalwa engakwazi ukuphumula kancane futhi aphinde athole amandla. Ngokufanayo, ngaphansi kokuzalwa kwengane, iphinda ibuyele emthonjeni omuhle wesici sezimali. Isizathu esibi sokusiza ngokuhlanganyela singabizwa, ngoba usizo olunjalo aluhlali ngaso sonke isikhathi ezingeni elidingekile, noma ngisho alungafanele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokuvamile, abazali bangaphazamisa umqondo "wosizo" futhi "ukunakekelwa okugcwele." Ejwayele ukukhathalela ingane yabo, abazali bathatha ngaphansi kwephiko kanye nengxenye, ngaleyo ndlela banqanda inkululeko nokuzimela kombhangqwana. Kuhle ukuthi ekuqaleni kokuphila komndeni abantu abasha bahlale benomuntu ozoxoxa naye, futhi baxoxisane ngezinkinga, kodwa abazali kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhathazekile kangakanani ngezingane zakho, impilo yabo, futhi ungaphazamisi ngenkathi ngeke ucelwe ukuba wenze kanjalo.
Izikhathi ezimbi.
Njengoba bethi, kunezindawo elangeni, ngisho nasemndenini ongcono kunazo zonke, kukhona okunye okukhononda ngakho. Ikakhulu uma kukhona imindeni emibili. Futhi-ke ake siqale ukucabangela ezinye zezici ezimbi zokubambisana.
Okokuqala, lesi simo sezinto ezicindezelayo zombili zomndeni, ikakhulu uma abazali bengaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi isigamu somntwana ngaphambi komshado, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo ngeke busebenze. Abazali ikakhulukazi badinga isikhathi sokujwayela indima entsha, futhi kakade isimo somndeni wengane yabo, futhi umndeni omusha ujwayele ukujwayele, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo bajwayele ukuhlala nabazali babo. Ngokuvamile, ngokufushane, izindlu ezihlukene zizohlukanisa inkinga ngesigamu. Njengoba kukhonjisiwe ngenhla, ngokuvamile kuxhomeke ekutheni ngokwezimali kwembhangqwana osemusha kubazali bawo. Isenzo esihle kangaka, kanye nezinhloso zababelethi abahle, bavusa isimo sengqondo sokunganaki imali yabantwana, futhi kamuva ukuqala kokwakheka kwesabelomali sabo somndeni. Okubi okucacile kuzoba uma abazali behlala empini ehlala njalo phakathi kwabo, futhi bangabheki njalo kubo nakwabanye. Khona-ke ukuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kokuqala kokuhlala ndawonye akunakubizwa ngokuthi yimpumelelo. Enye "i-rake" lapho bobabili abasanda kushada nabazali babo besengozini yokuqhubeka, lokhu kungukungaboni kahle, kanye nenkinga yobudala babababa nezingane. Ngokuvamile konke kuqala kusukela ezikhathini, "kodwa sisesikhathini sethu", futhi siphela ngokubheka isikhathi eside futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlazeka.
Yiqiniso, kunamanye amaphuzu amahle futhi angalungile, kodwa azoxhomeka ezimfanelweni zabantu, ukuqonda kwabo kanye nekhono lokufaka isimo. Phela, yini okufanele umndeni osemusha uyenze uma kungekho izindlu, kanjani ukungathembeki ekusekeleni kwabazali? Futhi abazali bangakhumbula izinyathelo zabo zokuqala, ikakhulu uma beqala futhi. Khona-ke ukuqonda ukuthi umndeni omusha, uma kungekho izindlu, akuyona into enhle ukuyenza, wenza umsebenzi wawo.
Uma uhlala lokhu akunakwenzeka.
Uma ungakwazi ukuhlala nabazali bakho, zama ukuzitholela okunye okusheshayo ngokushesha. Yilokho okunconywa ukuba kwenziwe emndenini osemusha esimweni esinjalo. Kunezinhlelo eziningi zentsha zokuhlinzeka ngemindeni emisha enezindlu zazo. Yiqiniso, umkhuba ubonisa ukuthi amaphesenti emiiphumela emihle evela ekuhlanganyeleni kulezo zinhlelo ayilutho, kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama. Uma ukwazi ukuqoqa imali ethile, ungazama ukuthatha isikhwama semali ebhange, noma uyisebenzise endaweni eqashiwe. Nakuba ezinye zalezi zinyathelo zingabhekwa njengokungcola, kodwa kholwa mina, ngakho awukwazi ukubuyisela ubuhlobo bakho nobuhlobo bomndeni nganoma iyiphi imali. Futhi, isenzo esinjalo siyosusa omunye umthwalo wemfanelo evela kubazali bakho, futhi ubanike ithuba lokuphila ngokuncane njengoba befuna.
Into esemqoka ayithukutheli, uma okokuqala ungaphumelelanga, amanani wezinto ezibonakalayo - leli ibhizinisi elizuzayo, unakekele imizwa yakho nobuhlobo bakho. Yiba nesineke, uqondisise futhi uhlakaniphe ngendlela yakho. Ngempela, kuphela kuphela ongayifinyelela, impumelelo enjalo uyifanele.