Ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu noninazala kungenzeka kuphela, yebo, futhi, uma uhlala ngokwehlukana. Kodwa kuthiwani uma kukhona isikhala esisodwa kuphela sendawo kanye nomnikazi wekhaya? Wonke "amaphupho akho omnyama" ngokuphila komndeni angase awele ngomzuzwana, uma umama wakho efuna ukukwenza.
Indlela engcono yokugcina injabulo yomndeni kanye nobuhlobo obuhle kuyobe ishukuthela endaweni eqashiwe. Yilokho okukhethwa kukho kakhulu imibhangqwana esemisha ehlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo nabazali bayo izinyanga ezimbalwa.
Yiqiniso, kunomama omuhle abangaphazamisi empilweni yezingane, "ungafundi ukuhlala", ungaqhubeki ngezinyathelo zabo futhi ungangeni ekamelweni ngaphandle kokungqongqoza. Kodwa lokhu kuyindlela enhle, thina, sicabangela isimo lapho konke kungekho kahle.
Ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila kwakho ndawonye, uninazala uzokulandela eduze. Uzobona konke ukungaphumeleli, ukunqwabelana nokuphutha. Uma ungazi ukupheka, ungathandi ukuphuma noma ungazi kanjani ukugoqa izinkinobho, zilungiselele ukuthi "umama" uzoqala ukukufundisa.
Uninazala usuvele eyakha umbono wakhe ngawe. Cishe, ukholelwa ukuthi "awusiye indodana yakhe ethandekayo." Kodwa njengoba indodana yakhetha lo mlobokazi, kusho ukuthi kuzodingeka akhuliswe. Ngokwemvelo, wena, njengomuntu omdala, lesi simo sizoqala ukucasula. Sekuyisikhathi eside usuvele uvela "eminyakeni encane" yentombazana, ongayenza shpynayat, futhi uphendule amaphutha akhe.
Uqondiswa kuphela ngezizathu ezinhle, uninazala uqala ukukugxeka futhi akufundise, kancane kancane uqale ukulawula impilo yomndeni wakho. Kufanelekile ukuhlehliselwa "umama" ukuthi: "indlela enenhloso enhle ... uyazi ukuthi uphi." Mhlawumbe ukukhwabanisa okunjalo okunenkani kuyonciphisa umkhwenyana kamamazala isikhathi eside.
Ungabi ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo uvumelane "noMama"! Unomndeni wakho, imibono yakho, imithetho yakho futhi unelungelo lokuphila njengoba ubona kufanelekile. "Ukudansa kumbhobho womunye umuntu" kuyisinqumo esibi. Kancane kancane, ukunganeliseki komuntu siqu, ukungenakwenzeka kokuziqhenya kanye nezinga lokucasuka kuzofinyelela umkhawulo, futhi uzoshiya umyeni wakho omthandayo ngempela.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umyeni uhlanganyele ebuhlotsheni bakho noninazala. Yena, njengomuntu osondelene nabo bobabili besifazane, kufanele abambelele zonke iziphambeko, athole ukuyekethisa futhi aqonde ukuthi umndeni wakho kufanele uhlale ngokwahlukana, futhi wenze okuthile kuwo. Uma umyeni wakho evumela izinto ukuba zihambe futhi engafuni ukubamba iqhaza embukisweni, sondela iziphetho. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngaphambi kokuba ummeleli wesigaba "indodana kaMama" noma nje umuntu obuthakathaka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala nomyeni onjalo kunakho.
Isizathu sokuthi amantombazana nomkhwekazi abakwazi ukuhlangana ngokujwayelekile kuvumelana okubili okuphakade: ukungqubuzana kwezintshisekelo nokuxabana kwezizukulwane. Kungenzeka ukuthi umamazana wakho wamanje wayengumalokazana endlini yomyeni wakhe, lapho umama wakhe amhleka khona. Isifiso sokuphindiselela, ngezinye izikhathi, asihambisani nabantu bonke ukuphila kwabo. Futhi manje uvele endlini yakhe. Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthulisela intukuthelo yesikhathi eside nokufutheka kuwe?
Isethu sethu sihluke kakhulu ngesikhathi abazali bethu abahlala ngaso. Akazijwayele futhi angaqondi ukuthi umuntu angenza kanjani izenzo ezithile, okuyinto kithi - izinto zansuku zonke. Imizamo yokwamukela nokuqonda imithetho yokuphila yabanye abantu ekuqaleni ihlulekile ukuhluleka. Vumela isizukulwane ngasinye sizakhele izisekelo zayo futhi singakhweli kwelinye ngeseluleko sayo.
Ukuphikisana kwezintshisekelo kuvela uma uninazala eqonda ukuthi uyeke ukuba yindodana yakhe enkulu. Manje empilweni yakhe kukhona wena, futhi kungenxa yakho, manje ukhokha sonke isikhathi sakhe samahhala, konke ukuthanda kwakhe nomusa wakhe. Zama ukuchazela umyeni wakho ukuthi kumele ahlale indodana yunina, umnakekele, unakekele futhi uthande isithakazelo empilweni yakhe. Mhlawumbe izinyathelo ezinjalo zizokusiza okungenani ukugcina ubuhlobo obuvamile nomamazala wakho.
Isizathu esibaluleke kakhulu sokuphila komkhaya omncane onabazali yisifiso sokuthenga indlu yabo. Yiqiniso, izindlu zezindlu manje ziyingozi, futhi kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuqoqa inani elifanele. Uma uqonda ukuthi umyeni wakho unelisekile ngokuhlala efulethini elifanayo nabazali bakhe, futhi angeke athenge noma aqashe indawo yokuhlala, kufanelekile ukucabangela. Ulungele iminyaka engu-15 ezayo ukubona umamazala wakho nsuku zonke.
Naphezu kwazo zonke izinkinga, izingxabano ezingase ziphakame, uma uhlala nomama womyeni wakho, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi uthanda umyeni wakho futhi akukho ubunzima, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, amaqhinga omuntu akakwazi ukubhubhisa umndeni ojabulayo.