Okokuqala, wonke owesifazane kufanele azisebenzele umbuso ojwayelekile wosuku futhi aphumule futhi angacabangi ngokucophelela ukugcina zonke izinhlobo zemithetho - impilo yengane ixhomeke ngokuphelele kunina.
Ngakho-ke ungayigcina kanjani isimo sengqondo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe futhi ube khona ukuzola ngokuphelele futhi kuhambisane nalesi sikhathi?
Uma usulungele futhi ufuna ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi ukukhulelwa okuzolile, lokhu kuzomele ube nokuzola kwangaphakathi, zama ukuzilimaza, imizwelo emihle futhi emihle, hhayi ukuba uguquke njalo, hhayi ukuvumela imizwa engafanele njengokwesaba nokukhathazeka ukuqala. Kukhona ubufakazi obuningi bokubika ukuthi impilo enhle yomzimba kanye nokuthula kokuziphatha komama ozayo kungathinta kakhulu ukuzalwa okuvamile, kodwa futhi impilo nempilo yengane ezayo. Khumbula ukuthi okokuqala uqala ukukhuluma nomntanakho kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwakhe.
Kukhona izinto ezihlukahlukene ezingenza njalo ngazo zonke izinkathi zokukhulelwa kwakho. Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile nokucindezeleka okuvamile kungenye yezinkinga ezivame ukuvame ukukhathazeka kakhulu abesifazane abaningi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Abantu abaningi bahlotshaniswa kakhulu nokwesaba, okwenza umonakalo wokukhulelwa, usuvele ukhululekile ngokomzimba. Kodwa ukuziphatha ngokweqile kudala imiphumela embi. Ukwesaba nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kubangela ukuba amanye ama-hormone asuswe, okusho ukuthi ososayensi bacabanga ukuthi kungabangela ukukhulelwa kwesisu noma ukubeletha kokuqala.
Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuqinisekisa ukuthuthukiswa okunempilo kwengane, ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba ngenkathi ukhulelwe. Ngezansi kukhona amathiphu awusizo futhi awusizo azokusiza ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umphumela ojabulisayo wokukhulelwa kwakho futhi uqinisekise isimo esikhulu:
- Kuyafaneleka ukuvuma ukuthi usukhulelwe kakade. Qonda ukuthi abanye besifazane bahlale bebhekene nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa, ngoba basebenza emsebenzini, lapho kudingekile ukuba basebenze kahle ngesikhathi, futhi benze imizamo yokusebenza ngesigqi esifanayo njengangaphambili, ngaphandle kokubheka ukukhulelwa. Mhlawumbe ngesinye isikhathi isimo sakho sizovela, futhi kuzodingeka ume, ubonise. Musa ukuphatha ukukhulelwa kwakho njengomthwalo osindayo, zama ukucabanga ukuthi lesi yisikhathi esihle nesomusa osinikezwa ukuze ukwazi ukulungiselela ukuzalwa kwengane. Ungagijimeli, udinga ukuthola isikhathi sokuphumula, uzihlanganise futhi ukhethe isikhathi sokuphumula nokuphumula phakathi nesikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa.
- Misa ukuzigcina njalo, uma ufuna ukwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Ukulinda ingane kuzokwenza ushintsho empilweni yakho. Kuyafaneleka ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi sokungcebeleka okumnandi. Ungase ube nezinye izimpawu, njengobuthakathaka kanye nesiphithiphithi, ezingeke zidlule ngokushesha. Kwenzeka ukuthi abesifazane abathile abakhulelwe kufanele basebenzise isikhathi sabo esiningi embhedeni ngesikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa. Uma ungabona ukuthi ezinye izinto zingaba ngaphansi kokulawulwa kwakho okubukhali, lokhu kuzokusiza uthole zonke izinketho ezingathuthukisa imizwa yakho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kumelwe uzungezwe kuphela ngabantu abathandekayo kuwe, abathandekayo, lokhu kuzothinta kangcono isimo sakho somzwelo nenhlalakahle. Yamukela usizo kubantu abaseduze nawe. Ungakhohlwa ukucela abantu usizo uma ungasebenzisa ngokunakekelwa ukusekelwa kwabo. Akufanele uzame ukubhekana nazo zonke izinkinga wedwa. Uma abantu abaseduze nawe banikeza usizo lwabo, ungazami ukwenqaba ngokushesha, kodwa thokozani ukuthi abantu abakuzungezile bayakuthanda futhi bajabule ngawe kanye nawe.
- Enye into engabalulekile, okufanele ikhokhwe ngokucophelela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ukuxhumana nabantu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi owesifazane uvulekele izingxoxo nezingxoxo nomlingani wakhe ngesikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukukhulelwa yisikhathi esingokomzwelo, futhi abanye besifazane bangathola izindlela ezingavamile zokuxhumana ngenkathi bekhulelwe. Ungacabangi ukuthi umlingani wakho u-clairvoyant. Lokhu ukucabanga okuyiziphukuphuku kwathinta ubuhlobo obuningi. Uma owesifazane enezinkinga ezithile, isibonelo, ukhathazekile, ucindezelekile noma uthukuthele, kubalulekile ukuzama ukwabelana ngokumesaba kwakhe nabathandekayo bakhe. Udinga ukutshela abantu ukuthi ubhekene nezinkinga zomzimba nezokuziphatha, nokuthi uyithinta kanjani. Lezi zenzo ezilula zizozisiza ukuba ziqonde owesifazane, ukuthi lezi zinkinga zithinte kangakanani impilo yakho, bese zizama ukuthola indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Kudingekile ukuhlanganyela njalo ukwesaba kwakho ngosazi onokukubona, njengoba imithi yesimanje inezinyathelo ezanele esitokisini, kuhlanganise nezengqondo, ezingakusiza ukuthi uphinde uhlakulele ukuthula kwengqondo. Owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele asondele ekuzalweni kwengane yakhe ngesiphetho esizolile, esithembayo, esijabulisayo somsebenzi, enomuzwa wokuthi angeke aphile ngaphandle kwengane yakhe, ozoyithanda ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakhe.
Uma ungazange uzame ukuhlalisa ngaphambi kokubeletha, kufanele uzame nakanjani, ngoba kunomphumela omuhle kulo lonke isikhathi lokukhulelwa. Ukuzibulala kungasiza kakhulu ezinkathini zokuqala zokukhulelwa, lapho umzimba wakho uthwala umthwalo osindayo, isithelo osithwala ngomusa ngaphansi kwenhliziyo yakho. Kukhona odokotela abaningi abanekhono abahlinzeka ngemithi emitholampilo eyahlukene, ngisho naseminyangweni yendabuko yezikhungo ezahlukeneyo. Zama ukuphumula kaningi, ubukela ama-movie amahle futhi usebenzise isikhathi esiningi ngaphandle. Hlala nomthandi wakho emaphandleni noma phesheya. Vumela isimo sakho sengqondo ngaso sonke isikhathi sibe phezulu!