Indlela yokuphoqa indoda ukuba ihlukanise?

Mhlawumbe hhayi inkinga evame kakhulu, ngoba abesifazane ngokujwayelekile bavame ukulondoloza nokugcina ubudlelwane bomndeni, kunokuba babhubhise ngamabomu. Yini ekhuthaza abafazi abaza kulo mqondo? Ukuphila okuhlangene akugcini nje ukuletha injabulo, kodwa futhi ukungaqondi kahle nezinkinga ezihlobene.

Uma usuvele uzame ukwenza imizamo yokwakha umndeni ovumelanayo futhi oqinile, kodwa ukholelwa ukuthi umshado wakho awunakufanele ube, noma kukhona omunye umuntu ofuna ngempela ukuba naye, mhlawumbe indlela yokuphuma iyingxenye.

Iningi lehlukaniso lenzeke ngemuva kochungechunge lwezingxabano zomndeni kanye nezingxabano, kanti nakuba omunye umlingani ngokuvamile engafuni noma engakakulungeli ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo esinqumayo. Kodwa, uma kunjalo, ubudlelwane buqhubeka ngaphandle kokudabuka okungokomzwelo okwedlulele, khona-ke ukuhlukana kobuhlobo akusobala. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuthi owesifazane athathe umthwalo wokuhlukanisa, ngoba isinyathelo siyaluthola: angase asabe ukulahlwa komphakathi, ukuhlambalaza okuvela ezihlotsheni zakhe (yena nomyeni wakhe wangaphambili), noma ukwesaba ukuzisola ngesenzo sakhe esikhathini esizayo, lapho kungekho muntu ngaphandle kwakhe, abanye basebenzisa izinyathelo ezivusa amadlingozi.

Futhi kanjani ukuphoqa indoda ukuba ihlukanise? Ngemuva kwalokho, kwenzeka ukuthi ngenkathi owesifazane elambile ushintsho empilweni yakhe, lo muntu uyajabula ngakho konke. Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kubonakala kumatasa kakhulu noma amadoda angenamandla, "amantombazane", okwaneliseka kwawo kuxhomeke kududuzo endlini, ukuhlanzeka, ukutholakala kwesidlo esishisayo, futhi ngokuvamile ukuhleleka kwezinto. Okumangazayo, phakathi kwabayeni abathandekayo, kukhona abanye abangazange bajabhe ngisho nokusola okubonakalayo ngomfazi wemisebenzi yabo "yokwahlulela". Ngokuvamile kuyamukelwa futhi kubonakala kusobala ukuthi ukuze unikeze indawo enhle kumuntu futhi uthole ukwamukelwa kwakhe nobuhlobo obuhle, kubalulekile ukuba nenhlonipho, ukunakekelwa, uthando nokuthandana, ukukhangwa ngokobulili, umusa kanye nenani lazimfihlo zabesifazane ezikhethekile ... Kubonakala sengathi kulula ?

Yenza okuphambene futhi uthole umphumela ohlukile - lokhu kungenye yezizathu zokuthi kungani ungathola umyeni wakho ukuba ahlukanise! Kodwa uma uzama zonke izindlela "ezimnyama" zokuziyeka kumyeni onjengokuyeka ukulala nocansi noma ukupheka ukudla, ukwelashwa okunonya nokuziphatha okunganele, awuzange ufeze umphumela oyifunayo, ucabange ukuthi yini oyisisusa somlingani wakho? Mxhaphaze ngesehlukaniso nawe, ungahlola kuphela izihluthulelo zokuyisebenzisa. Ufunani? Ufunani emndenini wakhe? Uma eyeka ukwamukela okuhle ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, kodwa engafuni ukushintsha noma yini, kusho ukuthi ukhuthazwa ezinye izisusa, futhi yiziphi, kusadingeka ziqondwe.

Isimo somuntu womndeni simfanisa, mhlawumbe senziwa kusukela ebuntwaneni ngomcabango wokuziphatha okubi kwesahlukaniso, mhlawumbe yena, akafuni ukubhekana nokuhlolwa komphakathi ngempilo yakhe, njll. Kunoma yikuphi, izindlela "ezingaphansi komhlaba" zokubheka umbono wakhe ngesidingo sesehlukaniso ngeke zenze imiphumela uma sibhekene nesimo esifanayo. Kungani uhlehlela ekuziphatheni okungenakufanelekela, uma umgomo wakho ukuhlukanisa, futhi ungabhubhisi ubuhlobo?

Khuluma nomyeni wakho. Thola ukuthi ubani ofuna lokho. Mtshele ngemicabango yakho mayelana nokuphila kwesikhathi. Uma ehlukunyezwa noma engafuni ngisho nokulalela izimpikiswano zakho, tshela ngokuqondile futhi ngokweqile isifiso sakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unelungelo lokufakela isahlukaniso ngokwakho. Kodwa ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe ukuvuma kwakho kuzokwenza izinguquko ezihluke ngokuphelele ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlobo bakho besikhathi esizayo futhi ushintsha ingqondo yakho ...