Lapho kuphakama umbuzo: indlela yokutshela abazali ngokukhulelwa, iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo sizosiza kakhulu. Phela, amantombazane avame ukulindela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ngokusikisela okunezincomo kanye nezinyathelo ezinyathelo ngezinyathelo, bethemba ukuthi ochwepheshe bazoxazululwa zonke izinkinga zabo ngesifo esisodwa se-wand magic bese bethi indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nalesi simo, futhi bayolalela iseluleko futhi balandele. Eqinisweni, lokhu akulona kanjalo, futhi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yinto yokuqala umuntu oyokusiza ukuba uqonde, izokudonsa esinqumweni. Kungcono kuwe ukuthi unqume ukuthi kufanele uphathe kanjani lesi simo.
Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, ngemva kokufunda mayelana nokukhulelwa, yibala. Thola ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngakho, noma ngabe usulungele ukuba umama, noma ngabe kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuphule isisu, ngabe umlingani wakho nabazali bakholungele ukukhulelwa kwakho, zama ukubikezela ukusabela kwabo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uzoqhubeka kanjani ukwenza okuthile, kuzokwenzekani ngezifundo zakho noma emsebenzini, ngubani ozokunakekela ingane futhi uzimisele ukumfundisa. Hlaziya zonke izici zokukhulelwa kwakho, uhlole isimo futhi wenze uhlelo olucacile, olulinganiselwe lwezenzo zakho, qiniseka ngazo. Kungcono kakhulu uma ubamba ingxoxo nabazali bakho, ube nesiteleka esicacile sokusebenza nesimo, kunokuba uma usuke usabesaba phambi kwabo noma uvuma ukuthi awunalwazi ngalokho okulindele wena. Uma uthola kunzima ukuziqonda wena, ungaya kumculi wezengqondo, noma, uma kungenjalo kungenzeka, kumuntu omdala omethembayo kakhulu.
Uma ukukhulelwa kwakho kungekuhle kuwe, ungaqhathaniswa, wena nomlingani wakho, nonke nifuna le ngane futhi ulungele ukumkhulisa, futhi unakekele umndeni wesikhathi esizayo, kodwa abazali abakulungele ukukhulelwa kwakho, ukukhuluma nabo ngeke kube khona umsebenzi okhethekile. Uma ungafuni ukubacasula, ungazenzeli iphutha ngokwakho - leli yikusasa lakho nokukhetha kwakho, uma ulungele lokhu futhi uqiniseka ukuthi uyakuthanda, kufanele bakusekele. Noma ufuna ukulinda iminyaka eyisithupha noma eyisikhombisa, lapho izihlobo zakho zivuthiwe lesi sinyathelo? Ukuqondiswa ngokukhetha kwakho, ngitshele mayelana nezinhlelo zakho nezifiso zakho. Bamane bangabaza ukukwazi kwakho ukusekela umndeni, noma nje ukulungele ushintsho olunjalo. Chaza isimo kubo, faka amaqiniso wangempela ukuthi konke kuzoba kuhle, futhi ukuthi izinguquko zizohamba ngokuhamba phambili, zitshele mayelana nezinzuzo zesimo, izifiso zakho. Khumbula ukuthi abazali abazona izitha zakho, baphila impilo yabo, bakuqonda futhi njalo basekela ngenkathi enzima.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ukukhulelwa kungenakulungiswa? Kuthiwani uma ungakakulungeli lokhu? Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambilini, baqonda kahle izenzo zabo ezilandelayo bese benza uhlelo lwabo. Uma unqume ukugcina ukukhulelwa nokukhulisa ingane yakho ngokwakho, qiniseka esinqumweni sakho, uhlele ukuthi uzothola kanjani imfundo, ngubani ozoyibheka ingane. Ungadlulisela kwifomu lokufunda, bese ufunda ekhaya - futhi uphinde uqede ngempumelelo eyunivesithi. Abazali bazokusiza ukuba unakekele ingane, umfundise indlela yokufundisa, into eyinhloko yisifiso sakho, ukuzithiba nokuqonda okuvamile.
Ungesabi ukutshela abazali bakho ngokukhulelwa, bangabangane bakho abakhulu kakhulu nabantu abasondelene nabo. Akekho onjengoba angeke akusize esimweni ngane. Izindaba zakho zingase zimangaze ngenxa yokuthi zikhathazekile ngawe nangesikhathi esizayo, futhi zingesaba izinguquko empilweni yakho, ikusasa lakho nekusasa lomntanakho. Khuluma nabo ngokuzithoba, khetha isikhathi esifanele, inkulumo yakho iqinisekile futhi iyakha, iqondisisa. Ukubikezela ukwesaba nokuhlambalaza kwabo, zama ukuchaza kusengaphambili indlela yokuphuma kwezimo ezinzima obhekene nazo, ubanikeze ukuqonda okuphelele nokuhlonipha. Yilungele ukusabela okungaqondakali, kodwa zama futhi uqonde abazali bakho, uzibeke endaweni yawo.
Lalela ngokucophelela iseluleko sabo, zama ukubamba nabo, uxazulule ndawonye zonke izinkinga, thola indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kule simo. Khumbula, abazali bakho bangabambisene nabo, hhayi izitha, futhi akufanele ukwesabe nabo nokuphendula kwabo, zama ukuwaqonda futhi ubasize bakuqonde. Uma ungavumelani nabo eminye imibuzo - bachaze ukuthi kungani ucabanga kanjalo, ukuthi, ngokombono wakho, kuyoba ngcono, kunokuba nje uphumule umbono wakho. Qalisa ukuzimisela, umthwalo wemfanelo nesibindi, okubaluleke kakhulu, njalo uhlale uvumelana nawe.
Indlela yokutshela abazali ngokukhulelwa kwabo, yiziphi izeluleko eziyinhloko zesazi sengqondo? Umthetho obaluleke kakhulu lapha uqinisile futhi uthembekile nabo. Ungacabangi nganoma yiziphi ezinye izizathu zomphumela wesimo, kungani kwenzeka, yisho njengoba kunjalo. Uma ukwesaba into ethile, ungazi imininingwane ethile, awuqiniseki ngezinkinga ezithile - ungesabi ukubuza imibuzo, kanye nokunikeza izimpendulo ezithandana nabo. Kumele uthembele abazali bakho bese ubacela ukuba bathembele. Bonisa ukuthi uthembele kuzo nokuthi ungathembeki nabo, ukuthi, okokuqala, uhlonipha ukukhetha kwabo. Into esemqoka - ungesabi lutho futhi uqiniseke ngesinqumo sakho, ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ithemba lokuhle futhi ukhumbule ukuthi kunoma yisiphi isimo ungathola indlela yokuphuma.