Ukuhlukaniswa kwabantu ababili akukhawulelwe izinguquko kuphela ebuhlotsheni babo. Ingane iba umhlanganyeli, umlamuleli noma isisulu sezingavumelani phakathi kwabantu abadala. Ngekhulu leminyaka elidlule, amagama athi "umama ongashadile" azwakala njengomusho kubo bobabili owesifazane nengane. Namuhla ukuzalwa kwengane ekungabikho kukababa akuyona into engejwayelekile. Lokhu kuyinto ehlukile nje yomndeni wakho okhulayo, okuzodingeka ucatshangelwe lapho ukhulisa ingane. Ngokuyinhloko, cabanga ngendlela yokukhokhela ithonya lomfazi kuphela. Kodwa le nkinga ikusasa elikude, lapho umntwana ekhula. Futhi kuthiwani manje? Indlela yokuziphatha kahle nengane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso?
Manje kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi emntwaneni umama uyisimangalo sezwe lonke. Umqondo wokuphepha wengane, induduzo yakhe ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama ihlotshaniswa ubuhlobo "emthonjeni womntwana". Ukuhamba kukababa emndenini esiteji sokuqala (ngaphambi kokuzalwa kuze kube seminyakeni emithathu) yedwa akukwazi ukulimaza ingane. Okunye okushaya isimo somama wengane - umuzwa wokuhlazeka, umqondo wokulahlekelwa amandla, ukucasula noma ukunganaki. Uma unina ecasulwa, imizwa yakhe iba umthombo wokukhathazeka ngane. Ukukhathazeka kwengane kubangela ukuthuthukiswa kwezinzwa. Ngakho-ke, umsebenzi wakho wokuqala wanamuhla ukuphinde uphinde uthole umqondo wokuphila okuphelele. Umndeni ongekho wabantu abathathu, kodwa wabantu ababili, umndeni ngesigamu, akusho ukuthokoza kwenxenye nhlobo. Awunaso isizathu sokuzicabangela wena oshaywe noma ongenaphutha. Ngokushesha uzoba nengane ezoba yedwa kuphela.
"Ngingomunye walabo" abadonsa indlu yonke. " Nginezingane ezimbili zasenkulisa. Ubaba uyabona ngeSonto. Umnikelo wakhe emfundweni - ipenny alimony kanye ... ukuhamba okujabulisayo epaki. Ukuzijabulisa, i-ayisikhilimu - izingane zikholelwa ukuthi ubaba wabo ungumlingo. "
Umsebenzi wesikole, izifo zobuntwana nokuphikisana yilokho okuzokwenzeka nsuku zonke kowesifazane. Futhi amaholide ngesimo seSonto elimnandi uhamba ngenxa yesehlukaniso eya kwenye. Lokhu kuhlambalaza ngokwayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umona omkhulu: "Ubaba ongathandeki" ubeka iholide lokuphila! Umthamo wezinkathazo zomama ongayedwa ukhulu kakhulu. Kodwa ukwenqaba kwamaholide ngisho nasesimweni esinjalo akuyona impoqo. Lokhu ukwenqaba ukuzithandela. Uvumela owesifazane ukuba abe nomuzwa wezimo futhi angaziqondi ngokujulile umuzwa wokuncishwa kwakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, kancane kancane uyajwayele isithombe somuntu olahlekile, futhi uthando lomama ngezingane aluhambisani nomlando wokuphila okungenangqondo nokucindezeleka.
Unelungelo lokuzizwa ngokuqondene nomyeni wakho wangaphambili noma yimiphi imizwa - kusuka ekudeleleni enzondo. Akudingekile ukuthi uhlakulele ngokwakho isakhiwo sezitha noma isisulu. Uhlukanisile izindlela, okusho ukuthi wonke umuntu uya indlela yakhe manje. Uhamba nabantwana ngeSonto? Izingane zijabula ngokuhamba? Jabulela futhi ungabantwana. Sebenzisa isikhathi ukuzikhulula wena.
Zama ukuhlomisa impilo yabantwana ukuze umuzwa weholidini uhlotshaniswa kuphela nokuvakasha kweSonto likababa. Ukudla okuhlangene, imidlalo ejabulisayo, ukubhukuda, ukufunda inganekwane ebusuku, ngisho nokusebenza ndawonye nxazonke zendlu - awukwazi yini ukuthola ithuba lokudala amaqembu amancane ekhaya? Izingane umama azithandayo ngeke 'azithengise' ngokuzijabulisa uyise azinikeza kanye ngesonto.
"Ngiqalekisa umyeni wami. Waya komunye umndeni lapho indodana yakhe ineminyaka emine ubudala. Ngivumela umfana ukuba ahlangane noyise, angiwamukeli izipho. "
Uphazamisekile ngentukuthelo kumyeni wakhe - imizwelo eyonakalisayo. Umthombo wentukuthelo awufinyeleleki kakhulu. Kodwa imizwelo izolokhu ifuna futhi iwa phezu kwamakhanda alabo abaseduze. Ukulalela intukuthelo, ufuna umntwana amzonde uyise ngenxa yecala awenze ngalo kuwe. Kodwa ingane ayinayo izizathu zayo zangaphakathi zokuzonda uyise. Kungaba semvelo kakhulu ukuba ingane ilahle uyise. Awukhuthazi ukubonakaliswa kwale mizwa, futhi ingane kufanele ifihle, ithole isipiliyoni sokuqala sokufihla into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indodana yakho cishe izoqala ukukukhohlisa, ukufihla imizwa yangempela - manje wenza konke okukuyo kulokhu.
Ukuvinjelwa kokukhulumisana phakathi kwengane nomyeni wangaphambili kuthatha enye ingozi: ekukhuleni, indodana ingase ibe nesithakazelo esikhulu kubaba. Osemusha, ngenxa yezici eziqondene nesikhathi esithile somlingiswa, uqala ukulwa nokuzimela kwakhe, ukuhlukaniswa nomama wakhe, futhi afune igunya elingaphezu kwemingcele yomndeni wakhe. Futhi lapha isimo esinjalo esilula: okunye okuyikho amanga ebuhlotsheni obukhona phakathi komama nobaba. Uyise usekude naye futhi ngenxa yalokhu okude ukuguqulwa kwakhe kuvuleka imfihlakalo yezimangalo. Ingane izofuna ukuxhumana naye naphezu kwemizwa yakho, ngasese evela kuwe, ngisho nasenhlakeni yakho. Ufuna ukujezisa umyeni wakhe, ungamvumeli ukuthi abone ingane, empeleni ujezise ingane. Ingane inelungelo lokuthanda uyise, ngisho noma unina emzondayo. Imizwa yethando yengane kubona bobabili ababambiqhaza empikiswaneni yembewu ayisho ukungathengiswa komunye wabo. Umuntu omdala angakwazi futhi kufanele acabangisise ngokuhlukana kwabazali bakhe. Iqiniso lokuhlukanisa lingenye yamakhasi omlando womndeni. Futhi iphutha elikhulu ukulidiliza, ukufihla kumntwana okhulile. Ingane encane ibhekisela kwingxabano ngokomzwelo. Ungahlanganyeli naye intukuthelo yakho noma ulalele umndeni ophukile: kuyinto encane kakhulu ukuphatha kahle isimo.