Ngokuvamile ungase uzwe ugogo onamabhentshi ekhononda: "Kuyini manje ngesikhathi - ukujwayele ukuthi ungakabi nesikhathi, futhi usulele embhedeni." Le nkulumo ihlekisa kakhulu, kodwa ayiziqondi, esikhathini sethu socansi ngosuku lokuqala luyinto evamile, amanye amadoda angacabangi ngokuhlukile.
Kodwa-ke, ngifuna ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe ukugijima okunjalo kuhambelana nobuhlobo? Ngokusho kochwepheshe, ngalezo zinsuku ezisekelwe othandweni, cishe 12% kuphela banethuba lokudala umndeni oqinile. Ukukhangwa okungenakulinganiswa ngokobulili okwakusuka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane kuzokugcina sekuphelile, ukwethula ukungabi khona kwezingqikithi ezivamile zokuxoxa, futhi ubuhlobo buphela. Abesifazane abaningi kaningi abafuni ukuzinikela ezinjabulo zenhliziyo ezigabeni zokuqala zobudlelwane.
Ngakho-ke, sabhala ezinye zezincomo ezizokwenza intombazane ihlehlise ubulili obumatasa nesoka lakhe elisha.
- Ezingeni zokuqala zobudlelwane, akudingekile ukuhlangana nendoda yedwa ekhaya noma ekhaya, ikakhulukazi kusihlwa.
- Kungcono ukuhlela imihlangano ntambama. Ngoba uma ulala ndawonye phambi komlilo, uzomboza ingubo eyodwa, ibhodlela le-champagne lizohlala eduze, futhi i-watch izoba phakathi kwamabili - lo muntu uzoqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi lokhu kuyisignali esenzweni.
- Zama ukuhlangana ezindaweni zomphakathi. Cela lo muntu ukuthi eze kuwe, bese uya naye kunoma yisiphi isikhungo.
- Izinyembezi zinobucayi kakhulu futhi zinobucayi. Kodwa-ke, kungcono ukuba uphume endlini, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke uhlale isikhathi eside emgwaqeni, futhi nakakhulu kuyokhula ibe yinto engaphezulu. Ungavumeli indoda ithathwe uma uwedwa, uhlale embhedeni okhululekile, ulale phansi, futhi ikamelo lokulala liseduze.
- Amadoda angalungisa isimo ngendlela yokuthi emva kwemihlangano yokuqala ehlangene ndawonye uzobuyela ekhaya sekwephuzile. Uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi ufuna "ukuthatha indebe yetiye," futhi awukakulungeli, usho ngokuqinile ukuthi ungena eduze komnyango. Endabeni yesakhiwo sefulethini, kungcono ukushiya i-lobby, ngemuva kokusho into ethi "Ngiyabonga, othandekayo." Kwakungcono kusihlwa. " Ekufikeni kwabasheshe bafika ekhaya ningatsheli lo muntu: "Kulungile, ungaza kimi, hhayi nje isikhathi eside." Noma yisiphi isimemo ekhaya lasebusuku ngomzuzu, singaphela kuphela ekuseni.
- Ukuhleka amahlaya akhe, ukumomotheka, ube umngane wakhe omuhle. Umgomo wakho wukuthi, waba umngane womuntu, kodwa unkosikazi ongavamile. Lapho umfana eqala ukukhuluma ngaye, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuqala ukuthi wenza konke okulungile. Indoda izovula kuphela phambi kowesifazane omthandayo. Flirt ngesibindi, kodwa ngokulinganisela. Qaphela ngamahlaya afana nezocansi, njengoba engavamile amahlaya avamile. Amadoda avame ukusebenzisa amahlaya ukuze ahlole "inhlabathi ngaphansi kwezinyawo zabo". Ungabi yisithukuthezi, phezu kwehlaya elihle akusona isono sokuhleka. Kodwa-ke, ngezihloko zocansi, isikhathi eside kakhulu sokulibaziseka, lo muntu angabheka ukuziphatha kwakho njengokuthi "ukukhanya okuluhlaza".
- Akudingekile ukuwela umkhawulo walokho okuvunyelwe futhi kumshini. Ungamvumeli ukuba angaboni noma, kancane kancane, asuse izingubo zakho, kuyoba nzima ukuyeka izenzo zakhe. Noma yiyiphi insizwa ene BMW entsha izojabula kuphela "ukudlala" ngezihlalo zangasese ze-vamina. Ngokuvamile, ngenxa yalokhu bathenga imishini enjalo.
- Ngokuvamile tshela ukuncoma komuntu. Qaphela njalo ukuthi kusho ukuthini kuwe, ukuthi uyasifisa. Isibonelo, kuyoba mnandi kumuntu, uma, njengokungathi ngengozi, uzophefumula iphunga lokuhlobisa kwakhe embumbini. Ungasho ukuthi namuhla kubonakala kuhle. I-Etimvy iyamtshela ngokucacile ukuthi isimo sengqondo sakho sokulinda asihlobene nhlobo nokungafuni kwakhe njengendoda.
- Ungabonisa imizwa yakho emphakathini. Lokhu kuphephile, ngoba akukho okunye okungenzeka kulesi simo.
- Ungaziphoqeleli esikhathini esithile. Akudingekile ukusho ukuthi udinga ukulinda inyanga. Ungabizi izinsuku eziqondile - akusizi ngalutho. Lo mzuzu kufanele kwenzeke kuphela lapho uzithola ulungele wona, hhayi usuku olwedlule.
- Ngezenzo zakho, bonisa ukuthi umuntu akanandaba nawe, ukuthi uyamthanda. Beka ikhanda lakho ehlombe noma uthathe isandla sakhe, ngakho uzozizwa njengomuntu. Ungacabangela ibhande lakhe ngaphakathi, kodwa ungadlali - nje nje idolo! Ngeke kwenzeke ukuthi kube khona ukuphakama ngaphezulu, umuntu angabheka lesi sinyathelo njengesimemo.
- Ungakholelwa inkulumo yomuntu: "Sonke sizokwazi ukukopela." Ngisho noma uhlale evele ngaphambi kwakho kuphela eceleni, ezimweni ezinjalo, amahomoni angamadoda angakhetha ngaphandle, futhi uya phambili kunalokho ongathanda.
- Ungamniki lo muntu izimpawu ezihlekisayo. Amadoda ahlelwe ngokuhlukile kunowesifazane, futhi angabhekwa njengeyakho, ekuqaleni, isenzo esingenacala ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Njengoba owesifazane angathumela isignali engavamile, ngizokubonisa isibonelo. Wamemela umfana endlini yakho emva kokuvula imvula, wampheka itiye elishisayo, eboshwe ngengubo, futhi ugqoka ama-pajamas akho owathandayo, afudumele futhi ahlelekile. Amantombazane amaningi azocabangela: "Futhi yikuphi lokho?" Ama-Pajamas angcono kakhulu, ukuze umfana ahlonishwe njengesimemo sokusondelana. Nokho, lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele! Izembatho ezenzelwe ukulala emehlweni endoda zibukeka zingacabangi. Futhi akukhathaleki nakancane ukuthi ngabe lokhu kuyisigqoko se-flannel, ama-pajamas noma ngisho kuyoba yisigqebhezana se-boxer shorts - umuntu uzobona ngokushesha izenzo zakho njenge "ukukhanya okuluhlaza".
Ekugcineni ngifuna ukusho, naphezu kokuthi wonke amadoda aphoqelela amantombazane ngosuku lwabo lokuqala ngocansi, ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwenye indawo ngemuva kwengqondo yabo bafuna ukuthi ubalinde kancane. Bafuna ukukholelwa ukuthi "uqobo". Ngamunye wabo ufuna ukuthi ube mnandi kakhulu, omangalisayo futhi ongcono kunabo bonke. Ufuna ukuthi ucabange ukuthi uvela kubantu abajwayelekile futhi uhleke amahlaya akhe. Indoda ifuna ukubona ngunkulunkulukazi oseduzane. Bavumele ukuba bakufisele, bakuphishekele futhi bangabanikeli ngokushesha futhi kalula. Futhi kuphela lapho uzoba "owesifazane ofanelekayo" lowo kanye onendaba nawe!