Izazi zengqondo zithi abantu abakwazi ukulahlekelwa ukucasuka, bayakwazi ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zabo futhi baxoxisane, bajabule futhi banethemba, kulula kakhulu ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, futhi abatholakali kuso. Futhi uma usuzwa ukubonakala kwalesi simo kuwe, kunezindlela ezilula zokulwa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka ngokwayo.
Izimbangela zokucindezeleka esikhathini sethu zigcwele. Isibonelo, ususiwe, ushiywe ngumyeni noma umfazi, unobungane obunzima nezingane noma umndeni, uzizwa ungenalo imali njalo - yingxenye encane yalezo zithukuthelo ezingabangela isimo sokucindezeleka. Izimbangela zokucindezeleka zihlukile kumuntu ngamunye, icala ngalinye lingumuntu ngamunye, futhi konke kuncike kumuntu ngokwakhe, izindinganiso zakhe, izimfanelo zakhe ezingqondo kanye nokukhathala kwakhe.
Emazweni aseNtshonalanga, izinsiza ze-psychoanalyst zithandwa kakhulu, zizokulalela ngenxa yemali yakho, zama ukuqonda inkinga yakho bese uzama ukuyixazulula. Uzosebenza kuze kube yilapho ekugcineni ubhekane nokucindezeleka noma awupheli imali.
Ezweni lethu, lapho abantu bazama okungenani ukugcina okuthile, inketho nge-psychoanalyst iyanyamalala. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi azikho izindlela ezisebenzayo zokulwa nokucindezeleka. Indlela engcono kakhulu, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, indlela yokubhekana nokucindezeleka ingxoxo engagwegwesi nomuntu oseduze nathi. Le ngxoxo, lapho ungathululela khona konke okuqoqwe emphefumulweni wakho, ingakusiza ukuphefumula ukukhululeka futhi mhlawumbe ukhohlwe ukucindezeleka. Kodwa inkinga yukuthi abangane abahlakaniphile nabaqondayo cishe abangasekho, nabantu abangakwazi ukulalela nokusiza ngempela - ngokujwayelekile, okungajwayelekile ukuthi ungahlangana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, okuningi, ngisho nomngani omkhulu, ngeke ukhulume ngakho. Futhi awukwazi ukuthola usizo ezihlotsheni, zizohlupheka kuphela nawe.
Abantu abaningi basebenzisa enye indlela yokulwa nokucindezeleka, okukuvumela ukuba ukhulume ngabanye abakhulu, uthole umbono womunye umuntu futhi mhlawumbe uthole iseluleko esiwusizo. Ukwenza lokhu, babhala amaphephandaba noma omagazini, bakhulume ngenkinga ebahluphayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukubeka yonke into ephepheni, umuntu wenza izinyathelo zokuqala zokuphuma ezizweni ezicindezelekile. Uma ebhala, ubheka ngaphandle futhi ubheka inkinga yakhe ngelinye ilanga, elimsiza ahlaziye futhi ahlukanise okuyinhloko kusuka kwesibili. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuvulwa okunjalo ephepheni kusiza ekutholeni impande yombuso ocindezelweyo futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma kweso simo.
Kodwa akuzona njalo izindlela ezinjalo ongazulahla izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Isimo sezempilo singaba sibi kakhulu, wonke umuntu ozozungezile uzovela ezitheni, izinkinga emndenini nasemsebenzini zingabonakala. Uqala ukuzizwa uzwela futhi uphinde ungene ngaphakathi kulo mzwelo. Yonke into ayinandaba, futhi izandla ziwisa. Kungani kufaneleka uma konke kubi kakhulu?
Ungalindi uze ufike kuleso simo. Hlanganisa yonke intando yakho bese uzama ukuhlanganisa uhlamvu lwakho nawo onke amandla akho ukulwa nokucindezeleka. Khumbula, enye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokuphatha lesi simo ukuzethemba kwakho ngamakhono akho. Ngakho-ke, zinike ukufakwa, hlela impumelelo, futhi uzophumelela.