Awu, yini engalungile ngale ndlela yokuphila. Izingane nomyeni zilungiswe kahle futhi zondliwe kahle, kukhona ukuhleleka endlini, unesikhathi sokuchitha isikhathi esithandayo, futhi ungahlangana nabangani bakho nganoma isiphi isikhathi. Ukucabangela ikakhulukazi amathuba amanje wemishini yasendlini, umsebenzi wesikole awuzange ulethe ubunzima. Akuwona ukuphila, kuyiphupho. Futhi uma ukhumbula ukuntuleka kwabaphathi, kodwa ukuba nemali, kanye nokukwazi ukuwasebenzisa kuzo zonke izidingo.
Futhi awusenacala ngaphambi komntwana, lapho ehlala nogogo wakhe noma umfana wakhe, futhi ngaphambi kokuba umyeni elakale ephukile kuye, ngenxa yokuhluleka emsebenzini. Kulokhu, ngisho namagama akwanele, ezinye imizwelo.
Kodwa impilo enjalo ngezocansi eziningi ezihlelekile ezingenakwenzeka, futhi konke kuyahamba ngokuphambene. Ngokuvamile, emva kokucabanga okunjalo, kuhlale kukhunjulwa, lapho owesifazane evinjelwe ukuba asebenze, futhi kuphela ukuphila kuye.
Ngakho ake sibone ukuthi owesifazane kufanele asebenze yini, noma ukulingana emalungelweni nasemisebenzini yendoda, kungabhekwa njengenye i-whim?
Amathrendi.
Amathrendi akuyona kuphela imfashini, kodwa hhayi kakhulu. Umqondo wesifazane osebenzayo ungathunyelwa futhi kuhlobo lwezintambo. Njengemfashini, ifika futhi iyahamba, iguqule izingxenye zabanye, kodwa isisekelo sihlala sinye. Uma abesifazane besifazane bekungavunyelwe ukwenza umsebenzi, njengamanye amacala kwakunzima kakhulu ngokomzimba. Ngakho lona wesifazane "wanikezela" yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, futhi umnotho ukwedlula futhi ugeze, futhi ukondla izingane nomyeni wakhe. Ukucabangela ukuthi wonke umsebenzi wawuyizincwadi, umuntu angacabanga ukuthi ukunikeza abesifazane ngaleso sikhathi futhi isikhundla kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo - siyobe sesiqothulwa njengezinhlobo zezilwane.
Owesimanje ongasebenzi ongeyona isisulu sokuntuleka kwemisebenzi, kufana nomama omusha olula, owazivumela ukunethezeka kokungasebenzi. Kodwa kwaqaphela ukuthi ngokubuya kancane kancane kwabesifazane endlini, kwabonakala khona abesifazane abancane ababukeka kahle, abanomgomo wokuphila ukubamba, umyeni ocebile. Futhi ngokuqhubekayo, makagqoke, adle, aphuze, futhi ngizomjabulisa ngokukhona kwami. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi ngenxa yezibonelo ezinjalo, isithunzi sokungabaza siwela kubo bonke abesifazane. Futhi ngokuvamile abantu abacebile bahlala nezilonda, kuphela ngenxa yokuthi abakholelwa ekutheni imizwa iyinyaniso.
Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abayeni baqala yini, akunjalo, noma nje umphefumulo udinga, kodwa iningi labesifazane bethu lisebenza okwamanje.
Imali.
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi esinye isizathu sokuthi kungani abesifazane bethunyelwa emahhovisi, ukuthenga izinto zokubala noma ukwakha ibhizinisi labo isimo somnotho esinzima somndeni. Njengoba wazi, imali eningi ayenzeki, futhi ikakhulukazi uma uhlu lwamanani adingekayo lungabonwa ngegama elilodwa - "konke". Ukuchitha imali kuhlale kuhle. Kodwa kuyamjabulisa kakhulu ngesizathu esithile, ukuchitha imali yakho eyitholile. Mhlawumbe ngoba inani esesandleni sakho liyisibonakaliso sempumelelo yakho, noma isibonakaliso sokuzimela. Wonke umuntu unesizathu sakhe siqu. Kodwa ngokuvamile wonke umuntu ekugcineni uguqukela emibonweni evamile yokuthi ukusebenzisa imali yabo kungcono, ngoba nje akekho odingeka ukuba aziphendule ngabo. Lo mbono wabelwe ngisho nabesifazane abashadile ababelana ngesabelomali somndeni ovamile. Yebo, uvuka ekuseni kakhulu, kodwa usebenza njengabo bonke abanye futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungcono nakakhulu, kodwa uthole umholo - okusho ukuthi unelungelo lokusebenzisa okungenani isigamu salokho okufunayo ngaphandle kokucabanga ngekusasa. Konke okuyiqiniso, futhi kuvame ukusebenza, kodwa kubesifazane abashadile, imiqondo "yokufuna" nesidingo "ngokuvamile" iphutha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Angase afune ukuhlanza okusha, noma isethi yamathawula, noma izicathulo ezintsha kumntombazane wakhe, futhi kuphela into ethile kuye. Futhi kuvela ukuthi ngisho nangokuthenga kwalokho okufunayo, imali ayifuni neze emndenini kanye nezidingo zayo. Kodwa kusukela kulokhu kuthenga ngemali yabo, musa ukuzijabulisa kangako. Ngakho-ke, sithola isiphetho esincane sokuthi owesifazane kufanele asebenze okungenani ukuba ajabulele ukuthenga okungazi lutho.
Izwe langaphakathi.
Izwe langaphakathi lesifazane liyimfihlakalo futhi liyathakazelisa ngendlela yalo. Ngokuvame abesifazane besimvelo badala, bathanda ukucabanga, ukuzindla, futhi badinga ukubeka endaweni ethile konke okusemandleni okudala. Ngakho, kulula kangakanani ukukwenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenza kanjani. Ngokuvamile amadoda ayamangala ukuthi owesifazane ophethe isikhundla esesilisa, angashintsha umsebenzi owubuhle, ube yimpumputhe ube into ejabulisayo kuye, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nakwabanye. Ngakho kwenzekani uma owesifazane eshiyiwe ekhaya? Ungabeka kuphi amandla?
Enye iphuzu elibalulekile ukulingana kwengqondo kwabesifazane besifiso sokusiza abanye abantu. Yilokhu okungachaza khona, ikakhulukazi yabesifazane ekuthunyelwe kwezinsizakalo zomphakathi, imithi, imfundo, ukupheka nezinye izinto. Ukusebenza kulezi zindawo kunika owesifazane ithuba lokuzizwa ebalulekile, ewusizo, edingekayo.
Ngokufanayo, abesifazane banokuzijabulisa kakhulu kunamadoda, ngakho-ke bavame ukusebenza ngenxa yokuxhumana. Ithuba lokukhuluma, futhi kulokhu, yilokho okuthandwa kakhulu kulowo nalowo wesifazane. Ukuhlala ekhaya usuku lonke kulona wesifazane akunakwenzeka ukuxhumana, futhi umyeni okhathele ovela emsebenzini akuyona i-interlocutor engcono kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ukucasula, ukushaya, ukuhlambalaza. Futhi ngokuvamile lokhu kudala ukungaqondi emndenini. Indoda ingaphansi kokukhathazeka kokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke, lona wesifazane usekhohlwe noma engazi ukuthi usuku lokusebenza nhlobo lungakanani - yilokho afunga khona ngezansi, ukulinganisa owenza okungcono kakhulu.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owesifazane unesibopho sokusebenza, noma ukubhekana nendlu kunqunywa yedwa kuphela. Into esemqoka ukuthi konke kungaba mnandi futhi kukhululekile kule simo. Uma ohlangothini lwezinto ezibonakalayo engakuthandi, unethuba elikhulu lokwenza okuthandayo, sebenzisa isikhathi esithile noma usebenze ngesikhathi sakho sokuphumula.
Futhi khumbula ukuthi owesifazane akenzanga sisebenze noma engekho, kepha indlela esizizwa ngayo kule ndawo.