Kungani sifihla imizwa yethu nemizwa yethu?

Uma kwakukhona ithuluzi elungiselela imvamisa yamagama ahlabayo, phakathi kwabaholi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi "ngeke ngikhathalele", "faka", "akunandaba" futhi "ungakhathazeki", "uphonsa ikhanda lakho" futhi "isando". Uma ucasuliwe noma lowo mfana ongeyena ungabuyele emuva, noma ngokuvamile enesizungu futhi ngokuvamile enecala enhliziyweni yakhe - bayasiza ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi ulahla into engadingekile, "udoti", uvale yonke imifantu eshaweni, i-zadraivaesh armor, udobe i-hood futhi "ngandlela-thile" uphile, ubukele uchungechunge, uqhubelele kunoma ubani oyidingayo, uye emsebenzini. Kungani wenza lokhu nokuthi ungabi kanjani iqhwa elibandayo ngokuphelele, uvale imizwa yakho nemizwelo ngaphansi kweskhiya esinzima? Kuhle ukuvaliwe. Ukumangala, njengoLara Croft. Buka kusuka ekuphakameni kokungenakwenzeka kwayo. Cabanga ukuthi unamandla. Amantombazane aseTurgenev abancane abanezingodo ezimanzi ahlonishwa. Bakhaya, basengozini. Futhi siphila esikhathini esithatha iselula, ngenkathi ye-intanethi kanye nama-designer amacala efonini. Imizwelo ayilona i-ergonomic futhi ngokufanele ayihambisani nezinto zangempela zanamuhla. Ayini okwamanje? Cindezela inkinobho ethi "ngaphandle" ngaphansi kwengane ebabazayo mayelana nendawo yokukhosela i-puppy, ukunikela nge-ruble eyikhulu komunye umuntu ebhakheni ezintambo, esithombeni sakhe ngosuku lwesithathu lukhanya ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Ngisho nokufutheka kuvame ukuboniswa buthule, ucindezele iminwe yezimpethu ku-aipad. Awugijimeli emaqenjini, igama elifanele.

Siye saba yinhle futhi siyi-plastiki, siye salahla zonke izintambo ezihamba ngezinyoni. Ukumomotheka-mask, sithathe indawo ye-curious, esikhundleni sezimfuno zemvelo, sibonisa ngosuku lokuqala isethi yemithetho evela kuqoqo le-NLP. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke kukhona: "Ungabonisi lo muntu imizwa yeqiniso." Kuyinto ihlazo elibi - futhi ngokuzumayo uzoqagela ukuthi ufuna ukushada. Okwesabisa nakakhulu ukukhombisa ukuthi udabukile namuhla. Cha, intombazane enhle, ezicathulweni ezifanele, enezinyawo ezifanele, kufanele ibe "enhle." Khona-ke ngokuzumayo ngeke usole uLara Croft, futhi lokho, nge-lace yeshekeli, uTurgenev?

Phakade eluhlaza
Siyesaba kuphi ukuzithola singokoqobo - ngaphandle kokwenziwe ngokomzwelo, ngaphandle kwalezi zici? I-psychotherapist yaseCanada uGordon Newfeld iphawula ukuthi ukulandelana okunjalo okuyinhloko ngokuyinhloko kuyimfanelo yabasha.

Uma ukhuluma nge-infantilism, ngokuvamile kuvame ukubonisa isimo sengqondo sokukhanya empilweni kanye nomkhuba wokuchitha isikhathi kukhompyutha. Nokho, lapho sisebuntwaneni sinezinto ezifanayo. Isibonelo, ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo, ukukhulelwa kwentukuthelo yokukhathazeka kwemizwa, umkhuba wokuphonsela "ukuma kwami" ekuphenduleni noma yikuphi ukucasuka. Esikhathini sabantwana abasebasha, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi umuntu udinga ukunamathela okuqinile ngokomzwelo, okuthembekile, okungenakunyakaziswa, njengesikhumbuzo sesethusi kuLenin. Lapho abazali behamba nezingane zabo, futhi izingane nazo zingazinaki abazali bazo, ontanga baqala ukwenza njengenganekwane yekhampasi, izingane ezinjalo zasendle eziya emabhayisikobho kanye nawe namuhla, zihleka kusasa, futhi ngosuku olulandelayo bangabangane nomuntu onomfashini. Ebudlelwaneni bezontanga azikho izibopho ezingase zithembeke, ayikho ichweba eliphephile, ayikho umuzwa wokuthi uyaziwa futhi uyaqonda. Esimweni esinjalo, isimo sempilo esingokwemvelo kunazo zonke siba yedwa, ukungezwani, ukwesaba ukulimala, akuhambisani nokuphila. U-Willy-nilly kudingekile ukuba abe yi-glacier futhi avuselele ukubonakaliswa okungaqondakali kwe-bream. NgaseNewfeld, ngandlela-thile, kwenzeka ukuthi abaningi bethu ngisho nangemva kweminyaka bese beseneminyaka eyishumi nambili, besaba ukuthatha ubuzwe babo, babhekise emgodini wokuzizwa. Kodwa ukuvuthwa kwengqondo nakho nakho ukwamukela ukuhlupheka kwakho, ngezinye izikhathi uthi "yebo, kungizwisa ubuhlungu," "yebo, ngisengozini," futhi angabonakali njenge-emo.

Ukudlala ukuvikela
Ukuba khona ngaphandle kwemizwelo kuyiqiniso, indaba endala mayelana "nendoda ecaleni". Kwesinye isikhathi kwakukhona umphathi: izibuko ezisempumeni, isikhwama ekhanda lakhe, ukwakha wonke umuntu emgqeni, ungalokothi uphele isikhathi somsebenzi, futhi ngokujwayelekile uhambisa zonke izimpawu zento esemqoka yomhlangano wensimbi. Ngabe ngithandana - futhi ozakwabo abamangale beqaphela ukuthi le nqwaba yayingenakulinganiswa, izibuko zahamba, futhi ngombiko waminyaka yonke, othile wakha izinhliziyo. Nakhu: ukuphila, izinyembezi, nothando.

Kuyinto futhi indaba yokulala ubumnandi, efriziwe ngemisindo ebhokisini, emhumeni nasebumnyameni. Ukuze uqale ubuhlobo, kuzodingeka ukuthi uhlukanise iqhwa, futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka njalo ngokubamba okukodwa-ngezinye izikhathi kufanele usebenze ngokukhetha. Futhi-ke lobuhle, okungukuthi, umphathi, obhekene namagagasi e-hormone, uyamangala ukubona izwe elisha elinesibindi. Ufunda ukuthi ngaphambi kokuduma kwesibhakabhaka kunamafutha amaningi futhi kwenza ezinye izinto ezingalindelekile. Futhi-ke i-twist entsha esakhiweni: isikhulu ngokuzumayo siphenduka singabi yisikhulu, kodwa kanjalo ... uhlobo oludlula. I-roses iyabuna, izinhliziyo ziya ku-urn, futhi uLyudmila Prokofievna ekugcineni uba uSathane. Okufanele ukwenze, ukusabela okuvikelayo. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngeke alahlekelwe kalula. Umnqobi olandelayo wenhliziyo ngaphandle kokukhethwa kuzodinga amanye ama-bulldozers amathathu, futhi lokho akuyona into ezosebenza.

Indoda ephethe imaski yensimbi
Into ejabulisayo kakhulu yukuthi bambalwa abantu abazenza sengathi bezithombe, kulula kakhulu ukuba babe. Ukusebenza nezingane eziyinkimbinkimbi iNewfeld yaqaphela ukuthi ukungabi nabubele, ikhono lokuzwelana, umfutho wezinkuni ezinzima - ezimweni eziningi akuyona umdlalo womphakathi. Kuphela nje ukuthi ubuchopho buvikele kahle kakhulu ngokumelene namacala awenzile ububele, ukwesaba, nokunye okuningiliziwe. Ngemuva kokubhekana nosizi olunzima ngokomzwelo, sihlakulela ukuzivikela emimweni enjalo esikhathini esizayo. Kusukela kokulimala okusha, ubuchopho, yiqiniso, abuvikela, kodwa bungamsiza ukuba angazizwa. Ngezinye izikhathi ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kuyaba yindawo ezinzile. Uma ewele kuwo, umuntu ngeke abhale ukungabi nandaba njengokuthi "imizwa ishonile" noma uqambe amavesi "phakathi kwethu amakhilomitha athule ..." Kuvaliwe futhi kufakwe amazinyo. Ungayibona kanjani ukuthi isibhakabhaka phezu kwesikhulu sesiphezulu kakhulu? Ukuthi ukumomotheka komunye akuthinti? Ngubani ovame ukukhathazeka mayelana nezinhlanzi ezinjalo? Ukunganaki okubangelwa yiyona into engaqondakali kahle.

Ukuzwelana nokunganaki
Nokho, ngaphandle kwemizwelo, ukuphila komuntu kumane kunciphise. Konke ubuciko obuvela kuma-symphonies kaBeethoven kuya ekufakweni kwanamuhla ngesimo se-phalluses ezithukuthele kuwukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo. Vala impilo yemizwa - futhi yini ezosala? Ukuphila okungenangqondo.

Kodwa kulula ukweluleka: "Vumela ukuba ube ngokomzwelo," usho. Futhi ngokuzumayo abantu abazungezile ngeke baqonde? Siphila kumasiko ongawamukeli kakhulu izinkulumo ezivulekile zomzwelo, ikakhulukazi emphakathini. Kuyinto engathandeki, uma ebhasini kuwe ngemuva uzophonsa: "Hayi, wesifazane ohlambalaza, hamba uhambo!" Noma kunjalo, ekuvikeleni umbono omusha wezwe kanye nokuzimela kwawo, umuntu kufanele aqhubeke elwa nemizwa.

Yenza kusebenze i-sphere yomzwelo akunakwenzeka kuMusimu wezobuciko obuhle kuphela. Kuwusizo ukulalela izwe elizungezile: yini egijima ngamafu, indlela, ukuzungeza, amaqabunga aphuma e-birch, ukuthi imvula ishaya kanjani umgwaqo. Kuningi ubuhle emhlabeni. Khumbula inkambo yesikole yezincwadi - kukhona amaqhawe e-lyric ngokuvamile lapho ebona izithombe zemvelo kanye nezinye izihlahla ze-oak zigijimela ukuba zamukele izwe laseRashiya, umdanso Kamarinsky noma ifilosofi. Yebo, ngokujwayelekile, uyaqonda.

Ungavali ebuhlotsheni. Uma kwakudingeka amadoda ukuze ahlale phambi kwabo sonke isikhathi esimeni se "Smirno., Itel.,, Napra-in-in!", Kungcono uma bekungekho empilweni yethu nhlobo. Izazi zengqondo zibheka njengelona ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu kokunamathela kokunamathiselwe. Okusho ukuthi, ubuhlobo ongakwazi ukuphumula, bhala, ubuze induduzo futhi uyithole. (Ngendlela, uma ihlombe lakho elinamandla lifuna ukukhala, kufanele ulithathe ngenjabulo.) Ngakho uyathemba.)