Ngokungangabazeki, ukukhetha okuhle kuwusizo wengqondo kwengqondo esimweni sokudakwa ngokweqile kwezingane. Uma ufuna ukusindisa ingane yakho, ikakhulukazi intsha, ukuvinjelwa, ukusongelwa kanye nokujeziswa akusebenzi kuye, uma efuna ukuphuza, uzobe eshesha ukuthola isizathu, isizathu, ithuba, njll. Uma ufuna ukuqeda ingane yobunxila, udinga, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuba usebenze engqondweni yakhe, umgqugquzele esinqumweni esifanele ngotshwala, asebenze ngokomoya, imizwa, amsize kuzo zonke izici zomphefumulo.
Ngokuvamile abazali badinga usizo lwezingqondo. Uma bebona ingane yabo njengomuntu ogulayo, lesi simo asikho ithemba, bahlupheka, baba umlutha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, inhlekelele enjalo emndenini iholela ekuhlulekeni ngokomzwelo kwabazali, ukucindezeleka kanye nezinkinga ezibangelwa ukuhlangenwe nakho kwengane yabo, futhi lokhu kuyaqondakala ngokuphelele futhi kuqondakala ngokuphelele. Ingane edla utshwala futhi ihlupheka ngenxa yokushintsha ngokweqile utshwala, isimilo sakhe sibi, isimo sengqondo sihlabeka njalo, ukungabi nandaba nokuphila, ukuhluleka ukuzilawula kanye nezenzo zakhe, ukuphendula ngamazwi akhe, kukhona ukuhlaselwa kobudlova, ukucasuka, ukuhlukunyezwa kwabazali , ukungathandi ukuxhumana nabo. Umntanakho uzongena ngaphakathi kwakhe, futhi ngaleyo ndlela uzinikela ekuhluphekeni kokudakwa ngokweqile. Akakwazi ukuthuthukisa isimo sakhe sengqondo, ukuphatha imizwa yakhe, ukuxhumana naye enkampanini engenalo utshwala. Ngomsizi wakhe kuphela uvuselela futhi abe ngokwemvelo ngokuthembela kuye. Ukuzijabulisa, ukungaqondakali emicabangweni kudonsela intsha, ngaphandle kwakhe ngeke isaphila. Ngisho noma efuna "ukuyeka", kuzofika isikhathi lapho eqala ukuphuza utshwala. Ithonya elikhulu abangane bakhe. Uma inkampani yokuphuza intsha, ngakho-ke akungabazeki ukuthi naye uzohileleka ekuxhasweni kotshwala, utshwala luzobonakala luyinto evamile, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, abangane bayakhuthaza ingane ukuba iphuze nabo, tshela izindaba ezimnandi ezenzeka ngesikhathi noma emva kokuphuza utshwala. Utshwala engqondweni yomntwana uyeka ukuhlala endaweni enjalo okufanele ayenze, akasabonakali ukumlimaza ngenxa yenyama, ngoba, njengoba kunjalo, wonke umuntu uphuza futhi akekho ofa, imiphumela yakhe emibi ingabi nandaba, nokuwa kwezimiso zokuziphatha, ukungabi nonyaza ngesikhathi sokudla utshwala - ukulinga. Utshwala luqala ukubheka emehlweni akhe njengesiphuzo esivumela ukuba abe nesikhathi esihle futhi esimnandi nabangani, ajabule, azinikele esenzweni sakhe futhi athole izindaba eziningi ezimnandi njengomphumela, engeza idrama eminye ekuphileni kwakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane ingabandlululo, utshwala kungabangela izinkinga eziningi, kuhlanganise nezihlobo, abangane, intombi, imvelo kanye nomthetho.
Kubo bonke abantu abaphuza utshwala isikhathi eside, usizo lwe-psychologist, i-psychotherapy ekuxhasweni kotshwala kuyoba usizo. Lokhu, okokuqala, kuzosiza ekusunguleni ubuhlobo emndenini, ngoba umphumela wokuphuza utshwala wengane ukuhlambalaza njalo, ukukhulumisana ngokuhlanganyela, ukuxabana, ukubekezelelana. Ngesinye isikhathi, ingane ingase ibe nomuzwa wecala, kodwa ayisindisi ekuphuzeni utshwala, kepha ingenza isimo sezwe sibe sibi nakakhulu - ukunganaki, ukunganaki, umuzwa wokungabi namandla mayelana nokulwa nokuphuza utshwala. Ukungabi nethemba kuholela ekuswelekeni kwesisusa. Abazali akufanele basole ingane, bamshaye futhi bamshaye, babasole ngazo zonke izinkinga zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kanjani, kodwa izingane kufanele ziphathwe ngokuqonda, kufanele zizwe uthando lwakho nokwethemba, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke zikwazi ukubhekana nazo zodwa. Isazi sezokwelapha sisiza ukuqeda izingxabano ezingajwayelekile, ukwakha ubuhlobo phakathi kwengane nabazali bakhe, nesimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, ukumgqugquzela ukuba alwe utshwala, ukuvula amehlo akhe emiphumeleni yaso nokususa iveli elilingayo elilindayo ngemuva kokuphuza utshwala kuqala. Ukwelashwa kwesiguli kuqala ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ebona ukuphuza utshwala nokuthembela kwakhe, ufuna ukulungisa. Akekho ongashintsha umuntu uma engafuni, ngakho-ke umuntu kudingeka aqaphele ukuthi unenkinga ehlukumeza hhayi yena kuphela, kodwa umndeni wakhe. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, ikhodi ingane iyakwazi ukuthi inenkinga, futhi ukwelashwa kuqala ngokuphuza utshwala.
Noma kunjalo, usizo lokusebenza kwengqondo ngeke lushintshe ukwelashwa kwengqondo yomlando wezifo zengqondo. Uma icala lulukhuni futhi akukho zindlela ezisiza ekulwa nokuthembela, ingane idinga ukulungiswa futhi ibekwe emtholampilo, ukuze imvuselele kukho konke okusha, kufaka indlela yokuphila, ilahle imikhuba endala. Ukuphuza utshwala kuvame ukuvela esimweni sezinkinga zangaphakathi emntwaneni, ngenxa yokuthi kukhona uhlobo lokulwa phakathi komphefumulo wakhe. Izizathu zingase zihluke kakhulu, kodwa lapha ingxoxo nengcweti yengqondo izosiza ekutholeni lezi zinkinga zomntwana ngamunye futhi imsize ukuba abhekane nayo, esikhathini esizayo ukuthambekela okunjalo nokugqugquzela utshwala kuyophela.
Ngokungangabazeki, usizo lwe-psychologist kule nkinga yokuphila okunzima kuyadingeka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ludlala indima enkulu futhi kuyindlela kuphela yokuphuma. Kodwa akufanele ukhohlwe ngendima ebalulekile yabazali enganeni, impumelelo yabo ivame ukuxhomeka ekuziphatheni kwabo, kanye nomphumela. Ungamangaleli ingane, umsekele futhi ungamvumeli ukuthi akhohlwe ukuthi uyamthanda. Khona-ke inkinga yotshwala izoxazululwa, futhi ndawonye ungayisiza.