Umzwelo wothando ungase uqhathaniswe nokungcola. Ukukhathazeka kushaya konke okunye endleleni yayo. Lezi zikhathi zokuphila kwanoma yikuphi umbhangqwana ongenakulibaleka.
Uthando luhlala iminyaka emingaki? Ososayensi nabanakekeli bezengqondo, ngenxa yokuhlolwa nokuxoxwa kwezingxoxo, kwafakazelwa ukuthi uthando oluqine kakhulu lunomphelo we-shelf - ngokwesilinganiso sekuyiminyaka emine.
Kuthiwani ngokukhangwa ngokocansi? Ngokwemvelo, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi abantu bakhukhule komunye nomunye emibhalweni yezocansi - ukukhanga kwesimo sangempela kuyanyamalala. Futhi, ubulili buya kwenzeka kancane kancane, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, ubulili buphela ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.
Ubude bungakanani isikhathi ngaphandle kocansi?
Ngokudabukisayo, kodwa esikhathini sethu, ukungabi nobulili ebuhlotsheni akusekumangazi. EJapane, isibonelo, isibalo esikhulu semibhangqwana ivuma obala ukuthi ayikho ubulili ebuhlotsheni babo. Lokhu akulona amahloni ukusho kubo bonke abezindaba. Ukuntuleka kobulili eJapan kumuntu kuyinto engokwemvelo, kodwa kukhona labo abahluphekayo kule nkinga.
Eqinisweni, ubuhlobo ngaphandle kocansi buhlala isikhathi eside. Kukhona imibhangqwana engahlupheki nakancane ngokuntuleka kocansi, uqhubeke uhlala ndawonye, udala imindeni eqinile futhi ejabule. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zababini abanjalo.
Abalingani babelana kahle. Ubulili kubo akuwona ukubonakaliswa kothando noma isibambiso sokuphila komndeni okujabulisayo . Ubuhlobo babo buvele buvumelanisiwe. Bayazi ukuthi bangabonisa kanjani imizwa yabo ngenye indlela: caresses, ukuhlonipha umlingani. Imibhangqwana enjalo ithabile kakhulu ukuhamba epaki ekwindla eduze komunye nomunye, uchithe kusihlwa emva kwenkulumo ephuma enhliziyweni noma, uhlezi phambi kwe-TV, ujoyine izandla uhlale phansi.
Futhi, ungamangali, imibhangqwana enjalo ayiyona into ehlukile emithethweni. Uma umuntu engaboni ukufana kobulili - uthando nokujabula, khona-ke ngeke kube nzima ukwakha ubudlelwane obude nobuhlala njalo ngaphandle kokusondelana.
Enye inguqulo yobuhlobo, lapho kungekho ubulili. Abashadile banomunye nomunye umuntu osondelene nendiza engokomzwelo. Ngokuvamile banabantwana, ukuphila okumangalisayo. Okuthakazelisa kakhulu, bangabangane abalingani nabalingani babo, kepha akukho ubulili ebuhlotsheni babo. Phakathi kwabo kukhona isivumelwano - ubulili buvunyelwe, kepha "ngakwesokunene", okusho ukuthi, nabanye abantu.
Phela, ubudlelwane obude bungapheli ngaphandle kocansi, uma zonke izici ziyanelisa kokubili - kokubili indoda nowesifazane. Ngokwemvume eyodwa kuphela, isivumelwano esithi "Umndeni nomndeni, nesivumelwano socansi" sizoletha injabulo kanye nomqondo wokuvumelana kulezi zinsuku.
Ngeshwa, imodeli enjalo yomndeni ingenayo ikusasa ezweni lakithi, ngoba bonke bajwayele ukukholelwa ukuthi amadoda ethu avunyelwe konke, kanye nesiphetho sowesifazane - ukusebenza, ikhaya, izingane.
Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kocansi banelungelo lokuba khona, uma bobabili ozakwethu bezwa bekhululekile ezimweni ezinjalo. Kodwa, yini okufanele uyenze uma kungekho ubulili ebuhlotsheni bakho isikhathi eside, kodwa awuthandi neze.
Ngokwezibalo, ngenxa yokungabi nobulili, abesifazane bahlupheka kakhulu. Lokhu kuthinta kokubili kwengqondo nangempilo.
Yimiphi imiphumela yalesi simo ngokuvamile etholakala owesifazane? Uqala ukubheka noma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi, okwazi ukumphazamisa emicabangweni edabukisayo. Kungaba yinoma yini: umsebenzi, ezemidlalo, usizo. Umqondo ungowodwa - ungashiyi umzuzu owodwa ukucabanga ngokuntuleka kobulili.
Kodwa, uma ungafuni ukuphula ubudlelwane obungekho ukusondelana okwesikhathi eside, uma umuntu wakho esabiza, khona-ke iphuzu elilodwa ukuzama ukuxazulula le nkinga bese ubuyela ubulili obulinde isikhathi eside ebuhlotsheni.