Ubani esithatha okwesithathu: indoda noma owesifazane?
Kukhona izinketho ezimbili: owesifazane noma indoda. Ngokuyinhloko, uma isiphakamiso socansi livela kumuntu, yena waziveza yena enkampaninikazikazi emihle eyanelisa zonke izifiso zakhe. Indoda, njengendoda yangempela, ayikwazi ukubona indlela owesifazane wayo anelise ngayo omunye wesilisa, ngakho-ke ukhetho lweMFM lwamadoda amaningi alukho nje. Okusho ukuthi imithetho iqondiswa yizizwa eziningana zesilisa: i-egoism (isifiso sokuthi bonke abesifazane kufanele banakekelwe kuphela), imizwa yokuzimela (ukungafuni "ukwabelana" nowesifazane wakhe nomunye umuntu) nokuqhosha okungalimaza yilokho okwenzekayo (emva kwakho konke, owesifazane wakhe angathanda ubulili nomunye indoda). Ngokwamaningi, ubulili ngokuhlukahluka kwe-MZHM kumuntu kungamukeleka kuphela uma abangane ababili (noma abajwayelene nabo kuphela) bethola owesifazane ongaziqhenya ngokuphelele futhi bachitha isikhathi naye embhedeni. Akukho ukuzibophezela, akukho ofakazi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - lo wesifazane akanandaba nhlobo nendoda futhi akayibali ngempahla yakhe.
Ngokuvamile indoda enika ucansi kumfazi (umfazi) ama-threesomes, ibona indima yesithathu, noma kunesithathu, intombi ejwayelekile noma umngane. Ngokwemvelo, noma yimuphi owesifazane uzokwamukela ngokushesha leso sicelo, njengesicelo sokuvumela umyeni wakhe ukuba ashintshe nomngane wakhe emehlweni akhe. Inkulumo enjalo ngeke iholele kunoma yini enhle, futhi owesifazane akafuni ngisho ucabange ngocansi abathathu ndawonye. Kulesi simo, amadoda, ama-alas, "aya" ngakwesobunxele, ukuze aqaphele ukucabanga kwabo ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela komfazi futhi ngaphandle kolwazi lwakhe. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba wenqabe ubulili obunjalo, kufanele ulinganise konke kahle bese ufika ekwenzeni ukulingana ekutholeni umlingani noma umlingani wezinjabulo zobulili. Masibe ngumngane (obani okufanele akhethe kule ndima, sizokhuluma kancane kancane), futhi isibonelo, owesifazane ongajwayelekile ngokuphelele.
Uma ngabe abathathu bahlinzekela umlingani kumuntu wesifazane (noma amaphupho okuzilibaziseka), khona-ke nansi konke okubonakalayo, cishe, uzibona ezungezwe amadoda amabili, mhlawumbe ngisho angajwayelekile. Nakuba, njengoba idatha yezinhlolovo ezingaziwa zibonisa, abesifazane abaningi banamahloni kakhulu mayelana nokukhuluma ngocansi namadoda amabili futhi bakwenza namadoda amabili. Bese basikisela ukuthi ngenjabulo enkulu bayokwamukela isiphakamiso sokulala ocansini leZHMZ kuneMZHM. Kowesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma enelisekile ngokuphelele ngokubukeka nokubonakala kwakhe, ubulili obunjalo abudingeki nje ngenjabulo kuphela, kodwa futhi ngokuzimela. Singafinyelela isiphetho sokuthi nguyena wesifazane ongenelisekile yena kuphela ongakwazi ngokuzithandela ukulahla ubulili be-MZHM. Noma lowo ocabanga ukuthi ubulili obunjalo bungcolile futhi abuyinto engokwemvelo, nakuba le nketho yabesifazane ukuba babe nobulili emashumini amathathu ayengeke afike emakhanda abo nhlobo.
Okwesithathu wena?
Ubani ngempela ongakhetha esikhundleni seyesithathu? Ukukhuluma ngesimo se-ZHMZH, singasho ukuthi amadoda avame ukuphakamisa ukuthatha nabo ukulala nomunye wabangane bomkakho noma owaziwayo. Ngokuvamile amadoda akhuluma ngowesifazane othile kulesi simo uma nabo bengathanda ukulala naye ngaphandle kokubambisana nomlingani wabo oyinhloko. Kungcono ukuqala ukusesha nabangane abade kakhulu, wabonana kanye kuphela empilweni yakho futhi aziwa ukuthi uzobona noma cha ngemuva kwesikhathi sokuchitha isikhathi esiphelele. Futhi ungasesha okwesithathu noma yesithathu ku-inthanethi. Ukuthandana okunjalo kuthandwa kakhulu namuhla. Nakuba abesifazane namantombazane befuna okuningi okujabulisayo ngokobulili abathathu, ukuthola okulungile kungaba nzima. Amantombazanyana amancane asabela ngokushesha ememezweni ethunyelwe kwinethiwekhi futhi axhumana naye. Indoda ilula ukuthola, kepha kunesidingo esincane kakhulu socansi ngesakhiwo se-MJM. Lolu khetho lunomunye ongasethembi ngokuphelele umlingani ongajwayelekile noma umlingani wakho, kufanele uqaphele oxhumana nabo, kumele usebenzise ikhondomu nezinye izindlela zokuvikela. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ungaphumelela okungenani ukuhlolwa kwezempilo okuncane ukuze uqiniseke ekuhlanzeni nasezempilo.
Kwabaningi, ama-threesome ayingxenye yesikhathi esisodwa, abanye bakwenza izikhathi eziningana. Ukuze ube mnandi, kungcono ukuthi kusekelwe ekuthembekeni okuphelele phakathi kwabalingani kanye nozwela jikelele.