Ukuthandana kwangempela kwezikhangiso zephephandaba eziholela ebuhlotsheni kanye nokudalwa komndeni akuyona into engavamile, kodwa akulutho neze. Cabanga nganoma iyiphi enye indlela yokuphola. Isibonelo, ukuthandana emgwaqweni. Zingaki imibhangqwana imindeni idalwe futhi iphile ngokujabulisayo ngemuva kokulandela ukuthandana? Ngikholelwa, hhayi kakhulu. Futhi labo abajwayelene ne-intanethi? Azikho eziningi kakhulu, uma ubala inani labantu ababaziyo abaphumelelanga nalabo abaphumelele. Ngakho-ke, indlela yokuphola ayibalulekile neze! Awusoze wazi ukuthi uzothola kuphi futhi uzothola kanjani uthando lwakho. Kodwa into eyodwa ecacile - uma uhlala ngezandla zakho ziboshwe futhi ulinde othandekayo ukuba eze bese egodla emnyango wakho, ungalinda kuze kube yiminyaka engu-50, noma ulinde! Siza abathandekayo bakho bakuthole! Okungenani zama ukuphola emaphephandabeni ephephandaba.
Le ndlela yokuzijwayeza inezinzuzo ezimbalwa. Okokuqala, ungabonisa ekukhangiseni iminyaka oyifunayo yalowo muntu, ngisho nokuphakama noma isisindo sakhe. Ngesizo salokhu uzoqeda ukhetho olungavumelekile, okusobala ukuthi ngeke uluthande uma uhlangana. Qinisekisa ukuthi ubonisa ubudala, isisindo nokuphakama kwakho. Bhala ngawe ukuthi uhle, uhle futhi unhle akudingekile. Okokuqala, babhala ezikhangisweni zonke amantombazane, hhayi ngisho nokuzijabulisa futhi hhayi kahle kakhulu, ngakho-ke lo muntu akasimangazi. Okwesibili, wonke umuntu unokuthanda kwakhe kanye nemibono mayelana nobuhle besifazane, makabonge ubuhle bakho, ukuxhumana nabanye kanye nezinye izici lapho uhlangana. Ukuchaza izidingo zomlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo, ungakwazi nje ukubhala-ubude noma ungathinti ukukhululeka, ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuphakama nesisindo esithile. Uma kubalulekile ukuba ube nemfundo ephakeme, umsebenzi, izindlu zakho - konke kuchaza, ungabi namahloni. Vumela ubize amadoda ambalwa, kodwa kufanelekile. Qinisekisa ukuthi ubhala ngokungabi khona kwemikhuba emibi engadingeki.
Ekupheleni kwesimemezelo, faka inombolo yakho yefoni. Okuhle kakhulu, uma uqedela ngemuva kwenombolo yakho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthumela i-MMS ngesithombe nendaba ngawe. Ngakho-ke, uzobona ngokushesha izithombe zamadoda nezikrini ngaphandle kwalabo abangakuthandi.
Leli phephandaba lenzelwe izilaleli eziningi, futhi emrubrikhi "Ukuthandana" amadoda abheka ukuthi ngamabomu, futhi abaningi kakhulu ngengozi futhi, lapho bebona izikhangiso abathandayo, banquma ukuzama ukuthi kuzokwenzekani. Ngakho-ke, kholwa mina, bazobhala i-SMS, i-MMS nabantu abaningi bazokubiza. Kodwa ngokushesha ngikuxwayisa ukuthi kusukela kulo lonke losizi, emva kokuxhumana efonini, izincwadi zokuxhumana nge-SMS, imihlangano, kuyoba khona abambalwa kuphela, mhlawumbe abafaki izicelo 2-3. Kodwa ingabe udinga ngempela? Sidinga eyodwa kuphela, othandekayo nothando!
Ngineluleka ukuthi ube ne-notebook ekhethekile lapho ubhala khona phansi amagama, izinombolo zocingo zamadoda akubizile, kanye nolwazi mayelana nabo owakwazi ukuthola. Masinyane gcina izinombolo efonini yakho futhi mhlawumbe ngesithombe ukuze ungadideki. Lapho uzobhala phansi nobani, nini futhi kuphi ovumelene khona ngosuku, ukuze ungakhohlwa. Ngikholelwa, kuzoba nezingcingo eziningi, i-SMS, ukuvakashelwa. Futhi kuze kube yilapho unquma "izintandokazi", le ncwajana izokusiza ukuba ungadideki.
Emibuthanweni yamadoda, bangaki abantu abasabela kwisitatimende sakho, bangalokothi bathi okuningi, kodwa basuke bethisa umoya wabo wokuphikisana, bethi kuphela abathathu futhi ngamunye uzohlangana futhi wazi kangcono ukudweba iziphetho. Uma uthola izingcingo ezivela emadodeni ongafanelanga izidingo zakho zesikhangiso, ngokwesibonelo, zigcwele kakhulu, zifinyelele kakhulu ukuphakama noma zalabo abangenawo lutho futhi bafuna ukuxoxa ngefoni, bayeke ukukhuluma nabo, musa ukudlulisa isikhathi.
Khumbula, ukuphola kwangempela kuphela, imihlangano yangempela iyokusiza ukuba uthole umbono womuntu, ngakho ungabambezeli izingxoxo zocingo, kodwa uhlangane empeleni.
Ukuphola kwangempela ezikhangweni zephephandaba akukwanele, kodwa kusekhona okwenzekayo! Kungenzeka ukuthi uzoba okuhlukile okujabulisayo, futhi emva komshado nomngane wakho othandekayo uzoya ehhovisi lokuhlela ndawonye ukuze ngikubonge ngomuntu omaziyo, mhlawumbe bayobhala isihloko mayelana nawe kuleyo phephandaba!