Kuyini umqondo wokukhuluma? Isiqu sokukhuluma - imithetho yokukhulumisana ngokuhlonipha nokukhuluma. Ikhono lokuqonda umyalezo wokukhuluma usiza ukufezeka ukuthembeka, ukwethenjwa nokuhlonipha wena. Ukusetshenziswa njalo kwezindlela zokukhuluma emphakathini webhizinisi kunomqondo omuhle kubalingani namakhasimende mayelana nenhlangano, ukuqoqa idumela elihle.
Ukubingelela.
Emhlanganweni kubalulekile ukubingelela hhayi kuphela oyaziyo, kodwa nakwabamngazi, uma kudingekile ukubhekana nalo muntu nganoma yisiphi isicelo noma umbuzo. Imithetho ethile yokuxhumana kanye nemigomo yokuziphatha ayikho kuphela ngokuphathelene nezinhlobo zemikhonzo, kodwa futhi nemibandela lapho kufaneleke khona ukusebenzisa leli fomu noma lelo fomu.
Ngokuvamile wamukele kuqala:
- indoda - owesifazane;
- osemusha - ophezulu;
- owesifazane osemncane ungumdala, futhi nendoda endala;
- abasebenzi bezinga eliphakeme - abasebenzi bezinga eliphezulu;
- ukulinda isikhathi eside;
- lowo ongena ekamelweni usuvele ekhona;
- odlulayo umile;
- kudlulela ngoku- ukuphinda.
Ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanayo, ukubingelela kokuqala komuntu ohloniphekile.
Owesifazane ongena ekamelweni kanye nezivakashi ezivele zihlangene khona, kumele kuqala abingelelwe yibo abakho, ngaphandle kokulindela la madoda ukuba ambingelela. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, amadoda akufanele alinde owesifazane ukuba abingelele futhi abingelele. Kungaba ngcono uma amadoda ngokwawo ayevuka ahlangabezane naye.
Uma umuntu engena egumbini lapho izivakashi zingamenywa khona umemeli, kufanele ukhulume kuzo zonke izivakashi ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ngamunye kulabo abakhona ngabanye. Lapho esondela etafuleni, umuntu kufanele abingelela labo abakhona bese bebingelela umakhelwane ngamunye etafuleni, ehlezi endaweni yakhe. Kulesi simo, kokubili kokuqala, futhi okwesibili, akudingekile ukunikeza isandla.
Ukushaya indiza nenkosikazi, kanye nesikhundla esiphakeme noma iminyaka yobudala, indoda ehlezi kumele imiswe. Uma ebingelela abantu abadlula nabo abangakhulumi nabo, indoda ayikwazi ukuvuka, kodwa vuka nje.
Ngemiklomelo esemthethweni, qala ukubingelela umlindi noma umnakekeli, khona-ke abesifazane, kuqala endala, bese-ke; emva - amadoda amadala, futhi kuphela kuphela ezinye izivakashi. Umninimzi kanye nomuntu ohlala naye kufanele ahlangane nazo zonke izivakashi ezihambele endlini.
Uma kukhona imibhangqwana eshadile ekwamukelwa, khona-ke abesifazane bayabingelelana kuqala, khona-ke la madoda ayabingelela, bese kuthi amadoda ayabingelelana.
Owesifazane oya enkambeni yendoda kuqala wamukela owesifazane ohamba noma omi yedwa. Uma umile nomunye nomngane wakho bebingelela umuntu ongamaziyo, udinga ukumbonga naye. Uma uhlangana nomngani enkambeni yomuntu ongaziwayo, kufanele ukhulume kubo bobabili. Futhi kuyadingeka ukubingelela wonke umuntu eqenjini ukuthi ufanelekile.
Isethulo.
Kunemithetho eminingi yokuxhumana okuhloniphekile, okumele ilandelwe uma yenza abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo kanye nezethulo. Indoda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiminyaka yobudala nobani, ihlale iqala ukuvela kowesifazane. Abesifazane asebekhulile (kanye nesimo esiphezulu) kumele bathulwe kubesifazane nabesilisa abancane, umuntu ojwayele ukujwayele (uma nje efana nobulili obufanayo kanye nobudala). Uma abantu ababili benesimo esifanayo, khona-ke omncane kufanele athulwe kumdala, ongaphansi komuntu ophakeme, uma lowo muntu engomunye, wabe esethulwa kumbhangqwana noma eqenjini lonke, emphakathini, owesifazane kumele abe ngowokuqala omele umlingani. Kulesi simo, kuqala udinga ukubiza igama lomuntu omelelwe. Awukwazi nje ukuletha abantu komunye nomunye bese uthi: "Hlangana". Akukuhle ukuphoqa abantu ukuba bazibize.
Uma umuntu ehlezi lapho ekhonjiswa, kumele avuke. Owesifazane akudingeki avuke, ngaphandle kwalezo zinsuku lapho emele owesifazane omdala (noma isikhundla). Ngemva kokuhlangana nabantu kufanele bahlanganyele imikhonzo noma, cishe, basebenzise ngesandla. Owokuqala ukuphuma nguye lowo okukhulunywe ngaye. Khonza i-pair of iminwe noma amathiphu abo esikhundleni sokwethenjelwa kwesandla. Uma intombazane noma umuntu ophakeme esikhaleni noma ubudala enganiki isandla, udinga ukukhothama kancane.
Ukuqhuba ingxoxo.
Iphimbo lezingxoxo kufanele lihlelwe ngokuphelele, liqhubekele, libushelele, kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi liyiphi indlela, liyinkimbinkimbi futhi lidlale, kusho ukuthi kudingeka ube nolwazi, kodwa hhayi ukuhamba ngekhanda, ujabule, kodwa akufanele wenze umsindo, udinga ukuhlonipha, kodwa awukwazi ukuwedlula ngokweqile .
"Emphakathini ophakeme" ukuziphatha kokuxhumana kukuvumela ukuba ukhulume ngakho konke, kodwa awukwazi ukungena ngokujulile kunoma yini. Uma ukhuluma, zonke izinkinga ezingathà sina kufanele zigwenywe, ikakhulukazi ngenkulumo mayelana nenkolo nezombangazwe.
Isimo esifanelekayo esifanelekayo somuntu ohlonishwe kahle futhi ohloniphekile yikhono lokulalela. Uma uzokwazi ukulalela ngokucophelela indaba ngaphandle kokuphazamisa umlandisi, ukwazi ukukhombisa isithakazelo sakho endaweni enemibuzo, njengokuthi: "Futhi kwenzekani ngokulandelayo? "," Kuyinto engavamile! Lokhu kungenzeka kanjani? "," Futhi wabhekana kanjani nalokhu? ", Khona-ke kuyoba mnandi kunoma yimuphi umuntu ukukhuluma nawe.
Ungazami ukuvimbela i-interlocutor yakho nge-erudition. Akekho ofuna ukuzizwa enesibindi kunezinye. Kodwa uma ungazi lutho, ungangabazi ukukhuluma ngakho. Abantu abaningi bathanda ukukhuluma ngento abanye abaxhumana nabo abangazi.
Emphakathini awukwazi ukuqala ukukhuluma ngawe uze ucelwe ngokuqondile ukuba wenze njalo. Kodwa ngisho nakule nkinga kudingekile ukuba ube nesizotha, ungakhathazeki ngokwakho namakhono akho.
Akufanele ukhulume kude, lokhu kudonsela ukunakwa kwabantu abakuzungezile, kodwa akufanele ukhulume "eduze".